as the title says, I struggle with any sort of penetration. it’s always something ive struggled with and i actually had surgery for a septate hymen, and i thought it would fix the issue but it didn’t really at all. i definitely can get things in there, but nothing bigger than a medium sized tampon, and even that takes me about 10 minutes to get in. im not sure what the issue is – when it comes to anything sexual, I’ve never tried fingering just because the feeling of my fingers weirds me out, but any sort of toy, no matter how small just won’t get in there, even if I try to shove it in. The most I’ve gotten was a dilator I had when I thought I had vaginismus before finding out I had a septate hymen, and even that one is the smallest size and leaves me with a weird feeling in my lower stomach, not a nice one, but I can’t manage anything bigger which is something I was interested in. Has anybody else struggled with this, and does anyone have any advice?
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Sounds like you indeed do have vaginismus
See a doctor and find out
A doctor will only take you so far if it’s nothing serious – definitely see a pelvic floor physiotherapist. They work wonders.
Another vote for pelvic PT! It’s not just using dilators. I had vaginismus and we did nerve desensitization instead. They are also able to tell you if you have tight pelvic muscles.