Why do men who don’t like to wear condoms have sex with women they don’t want to raise kids with?

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Why do they rely on these women to use birth control pills and iuds? 🤔 Most of them didn’t get a vasectomy. Why do they trust them to practice birth control? Do they know how expensive child support is? Why are some of them content on being deadbeat dads?

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  1. hellshot8 Avatar

    theyre not thinking about it. its just that simple

  2. GFrohman Avatar

    You’re thinking too far ahead.

    Sex feels better without a condom, that’s all they’re thinking about in the moment.

  3. Consistent-Ad-6078 Avatar

    Asking someone about birth control and abortion can be a bit of a mood killer.

  4. BetaKing1 Avatar

    A lot of guys don’t think long-term in the moment and really only focus on their pleasure in the present

  5. chonotugosciu Avatar

    The same reason why women see men not wearing the condom and still decide to let him in…

  6. Acrobatic_News_9986 Avatar

    I have a breeding kink and not in any position to be a parent, but willing to pay for everything and I definitely communicate where their stances beforehand. But best case scenario they get pregnant and we have to go get an abortion so they trauma bond with me.it’s toxic as fuck with passionate but insanely visceral raw moments are fun. (I’ve only had the operation with one girl before you guys start thinking. This is a collection thing.)

    I’m gonna say 95% of everybody else is because it feels really good and you make vulnerably bad decisions in a extremely euphoric horniness, especially when you’re building up towards it and anticipation the last thing you were doing is thinking about what the realities of raising a kid are

  7. Kaikeno Avatar

    Because they’re morons. Simple as

  8. CareApart504 Avatar

    When you’re horny you are extra dumb and we arent that smart to begin with.

  9. DisgruntledWarrior Avatar

    Same reason women not on birth control will sleep with men they don’t want to have kids with. Thus the abundance of women that talk about the shity guy that happens to be one of her handful of baby daddies. Gate keepers with shity locks are very common. It’s very ignorant to compare pills/iuds to a vasectomy.

    In short though there is plenty of dumb women sleeping with dumb men. The world is not in short supply of either.

  10. kidanokun Avatar

    Either pure dumbass or influence of drugs/alcohol… Same with women who let themselves get rawdogged

  11. ID_Psychy Avatar

    This question and the details make it sound as if the responsibility is entirely on the man. If the woman goes along with it, she is just as much to blame.

    Personally, when it comes to child support, I think it should be joint custody by default unless one side can prove the other isn’t fit to raise a child.

  12. Necessary_Hurry6492 Avatar

    Beacuse there stupid.

  13. Dahuey37 Avatar

    I think it’s also subconsciously about power & control. Making the other accommodate to you makes you feel powerful.

  14. DaisySam3130 Avatar

    Because they are selfish and self absorbed.

  15. TinaTurnerTarantula Avatar

    They just assume the woman will deal with any consequences, or that there won’t be any consequences. They’re selfish and immature.

  16. Friendly_Branch_3828 Avatar

    In the heat of the moment, she looks like 10/10

  17. Savage_Saint00 Avatar

    Nature finds a way to reproduce. Most people would never have kids if they had to plan for it with someone they really liked especially in today’s world.

    Sex kind of turns people’s brains off. And for good reason. Because if we were always strategic most women wouldn’t give 99% of men sex and most men would never want to have sex.

  18. Future-Ad-9567 Avatar

    Because I got a vasectomy

  19. Ratso27 Avatar

    Why do people eat unhealthy food, when they don’t want to become fat? Why do people smoke cigarettes even though they don’t want lung cancer? People generally make bad decisions because they have guaranteed positive short term consequences, while the negative ones are more long term and not guaranteed. Sex feels better without a condom, pregnancy doesn’t happen until later and it may not happen at all, so it’s tempting to make dumb decisions

  20. Necessary_Hurry6492 Avatar

    Limbic system becomes disabled. Thinking is offline compulsive behavior is the driver in charge. Same when eating and whenever we feel threatened. Is why violence is on the same spectrum as sex. And sex itself is kinda violent. When your young ears hear lovemaking it’s confusing is she enjoying it or fucking crying?

  21. HeroBrine0907 Avatar

    They’re thinking about feeling good. Self control is a depressingly rare trait.

  22. torytho Avatar

    Sex is human and normal and healthy and, in a just society, doesn’t inadvertently lead to the destruction of people’s futures. People understand that intuitively, but society hasn’t caught up.

  23. FatLikeSnorlax_ Avatar

    The same reason people that don’t want to be hit by a car, jay walk sometimes.

  24. No_Cartographer6010 Avatar

    Up until trying for a baby, or finding out the woman is pregnant, sex has nothing to do with kids.

  25. valiente77 Avatar

    (Someone already said it but I’d like to just reinforce it.)

    They’re stupid, and they don’t think about it. RUN out of that bedroom as fast as possible! don’t spread the stupid into the gene pool it’s already gotten far enough.

  26. Fit_Access9631 Avatar

    Because they are idiots in the first place.

  27. -AIRDRUMMER- Avatar

    Because it feels good

  28. huluvudu Avatar

    Because I am pretty sure porn stars have no desire to raise kids with me either.

  29. ClassicLunatic Avatar

    The thoughts of the little head and its will is too strong for us to stand against or contest. It will write a check you can’t cash so fast it’s unreal. And as soon as it gets what it wants and the big head is in charge again you’re like “oh no, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FENTON!!”

  30. Mistehsteeve Avatar

    “Ooh, woman willing to open legs, vagina good”

  31. sock_cooker Avatar

    Cunts gotta cunt

  32. Ok-Afternoon-3724 Avatar

    A stiff dick has no conscience and doesn’t think about the future.

  33. sanbaeva Avatar

    Because they know they can just piss off whenever the girl gets pregnant and no one will hold them accountable (except maybe the occasional angry dad with a shotgun).

  34. 2milliondollartrny Avatar

    why have sex with a man who isn’t gonna use protection knowing the risks? Man is more wrong but the woman still chooses that too

  35. jugglr4hire Avatar

    There is this book called “Predictably Irrational” where they study the boundaries of college students while they’re masturbating. The gist is: the hornier a guy is, the more willing they are to compromise their boundaries.

    So, as others said: horny, can’t think.

  36. djdante Avatar

    As a guy, for most of my life, kids were the only std I really was afraid of…

    So it’s something I struggle to understand why so many guys are cavalier about it.

    Maybe if you have no money or future anyway, there’s less perceived loss? I was always working towards a better future and didn’t want to see that taken away or eroded…

  37. just-that-human Avatar

    Orgasms shut of the decision making part of your brain

  38. koolaidjammersz Avatar

    Because guys can walk away from a pregnancy. The baby isn’t growing inside them.

  39. mezolithico Avatar

    They depend on the woman cause there isn’t great birth control for men that doesn’t change the sexual experience. Vasectomies aren’t truly reversible — lots of complications arise during reversals such as low sperm count. There is also a stigma around it for some men. BC wise, it’s much easier to stop 1 egg from releasing than to stop millions of sperm since it only takes 1 in theory to get pregnant. There is actually male birth control that’s in clinical trials that you have injected into your vas deferens that block sperm from getting through. Its a single injection, that you can devolve the blockage with another injection later on. It could be a game changer. People are also dumb, so it will probs lead to an increase in stis

  40. Bl1tzerX Avatar

    Mostly they don’t care they’re only thinking short term.

  41. noahsuperman1 Avatar

    They are stupid simple as that

  42. _Bone_Eater_ Avatar

    Because they don’t think.

  43. pleesugmie Avatar

    It feels way different, (third hand knowledge) and much better.

  44. eccentricbananaman Avatar

    Speaking as a man, we’re kind of very stupid. Especially when it comes to sex.

  45. No_Newspaper_4212 Avatar

    When the little head is leading the way…

  46. fane1967 Avatar

    Because the two preferences are dictated by different heads.

  47. supermiggiemon Avatar

    Because wanting to feel good while having sex and not wanting to raise kids with these women are 2 separate considerations.

    I hate getting drunk, but whisky is nice.

  48. Rellax_ Avatar

    I know it’s called r/NoStupidQuestions – but some questions are just plain brainless.

  49. surfboy814 Avatar

    they are morons

  50. DazBlintze Avatar

    Any woman who has insisted that I wear a condom has never been rejected.

  51. Several_Sun5440 Avatar

    Thinking with the wrong head

  52. Moug-10 Avatar

    There are men who confessed their penis took them to places even a gun wouldn’t. So, using a condom might be the last thing they’ll think about.

  53. Caine815 Avatar

    God has created the man and told him: “I have two news for you. The good one and the bad one.The good one is you have two most marvelous organs on Earth – brain and penis. The bad one is that unfortunately you have just enough blood to fill one of them at once.”

  54. Miserable_Ad_7696 Avatar

    I’ve never had a preference, although it does feel better without a condom

  55. Joppewiik Avatar

    Because people are stupid. End of story.

  56. No_Salad_68 Avatar

    Trusting the odds I assume. They probably won’t get her preggers.

  57. KOCHTEEZ Avatar

    Why do people drink and eat lots of unhealthy food if they don’t want heart disease and diabetes. People are idiots when it comes to making long-term decisions over ones they provide immediate pleasure. Some people simple get carried away be the excitement of the moment, others are nearly incapable of thinking about long-term consequences in many aspects of their lives.

  58. Doppelkammertoaster Avatar

    Simple. Horny kids. Women can do this too.
    If your hornyness stops you from thinking about your safety and forgo it then you’re a teen, not an adult.

  59. BridgeToBobzerienia Avatar

    Lots of people don’t like condoms male and female. Just communicate and pick another method and you’re good 👍🏻

  60. AdEmergency5721 Avatar

    Mind your own business

  61. AppropriateAd1677 Avatar

    Other comments have already covered the “they’re dumb” answer.

    The other answer is that, yes, they are perfectly comfortable being deadbeats. They don’t care about that kid, and the certainly don’t see it as their responsibility – they then gripe about child support because, as far they’re concerned, kids not their problem, so why should they have to contribute?

  62. madmaxwashere Avatar

    Some get off or feel empowered by how fertile they are and view women as consumables on their side quests to get their rocks off. The same man considers any child born is the dumb h*‘s fault/responsibility. Barfs*

  63. lewabwee Avatar

    A lot of these issues are more systemic than the majority of analysis in the comment section seems to understand. There’s a lot of shortsightedness and misogyny in the men but there’s also not any good birth control options for men than are noninvasive. The options for women are very much so shit. I don’t think better birth control options would solve the problem entirely but condoms are pretty trash and even interfere with how good it is, which admittingly somewhat defeats the point of doing it since the whole reason you do it is because it feels good, so a lot of shortsighted people don’t use them.

  64. Sufficient-Meet6127 Avatar

    Instincts. Men are wired to want to impregnate a woman. Not all men are wired to want to take care of them.

  65. single-ton Avatar

    They love sharing (sharing stds mostly)

  66. throwrameloveyoulong Avatar

    Why do women who don’t want kids or want to be attached to a guy forever agree to sex with no condom?

    Just always give a fake name and number. Good luck finding Gary Templeton from Scottsdale, Arizona.

  67. MrsDoylesTeabags Avatar

    Because their brains are in their bollocks

  68. Caliterra Avatar

    Cuz sex feels so good it makes people be very short sighted

  69. helltownbellcat Avatar

    I hate condoms and only used them once that wasn’t a total buzzkill where we had to stop what we were doing, in that case he lasted longer which I think is what we both wanted but a few other times we had to be quicker about it and you can’t do that with a condom