When I was pregnant with my first my mil wanted to be in the delivery room and I think she was expecting to. I didn’t have my mom in my life so I didn’t have her, I had my so and wanted my sister to be in there. It started a WAR bc I wanted her in there & not mil, my husband said it wasn’t fair. I ended up giving in & saying ok but itll just be so and I. Of course so allowed mil to drive to the hospital with us, it was a scheduled c section. A few months after I remember mil talking to someone, still in denial, saying “oh X had a c section so I couldn’t be in the room.” I was FUMING. I chimed in and said “no, even if it wasn’t a c section you still wouldn’t be in.” She just started at me, probably embarrassed and defeated. I didn’t care, don’t lie and try to make everything about yourself, something she should have a PHD in. I had another baby and I’m just thinking about how I’ll be a mil one day and I would NEVER act the way she acts. No wonder I wouldn’t let you in!!! Ugh, just need to vent. Anyone else???
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Because it’s not about you or the baby, it’s about them.
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Because they wish they were giving birth to their son’s child and can carry on that fantasy, you don’t mean anything to them.
There. I said it.
We didn’t have any family at the hospital or in the immediate weeks after birth. Our son was 3 weeks old before he met his grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousins.
Because you’re carrying their do over baby, not your own child.
I don’t disagree with the other commenter. But I’d like to add a slightly more empathetic perspective for the less terrible MILs…
I think some want that experience with their child and grandchild. They see their friends who had daughters get to do it and want that for themselves.
And for the record, tough shit. Life isn’t fair and they need to accept they just won’t get that experience.
I’m a Mother in Law and I’m horrified by the number of stories on Reddit about Mother in laws insisting on being in the delivery room. Birth isn’t a spectator sport where an audience is wanted or necessary.
I’m quite sure the only way I would be in the delivery room with my daughter in law is if I were the last person availiable and even then I would expect her to not want me in there and rightfully so. I’m sorry for any woman who experiences people demanding access to their delivery room.