Why do more younger men want to date older women these days?

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Hello everyone.
I’m in my fifties and was approached at a festival by a man in his early twenties.
He told me that the dress looked good on me šŸ˜„
He originally came from an African country and told me interesting things about his country and culture.
I thought it was a brave approach and the conversation was very nice.But he was a bit too young for me, my son is his age, so I didn’t want to meet him again.Nevertheless, I find it amazing how confidently some younger men approach older women today, I don’t think that used to be the case

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    Hello everyone.
    I’m in my fifties and was approached at a festival by a man in his early twenties.
    He told me that the dress looked good on me šŸ˜„
    He originally came from an African country and told me interesting things about his country and culture.
    I thought it was a brave approach and the conversation was very nice.But he was a bit too young for me, my son is his age, so I didn’t want to meet him again.Nevertheless, I find it amazing how confidently some younger men approach older women today, I don’t think that used to be the case

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  2. No-Reaction-2166 Avatar

    Bc we’re tired of girls our age playing games and giving mixed schedules

  3. NiceCaterpillar8745 Avatar

    He probably thought you’d be more open compared to someone his age. But everyone has types too. So enjoy the compliment I guess!

  4. Petulant_Redditor Avatar

    Cause younger women aren’t sleeping with them.Ā 

  5. MasSunarto Avatar

    Sister, I’d like to believe that it’s mommy issue. Or if the womale is still married, the chance of not having to pay child support is higher. šŸ‘

  6. BastMonk Avatar

    Dm’d you ny thoughts

  7. morewalklesstalk Avatar

    Was he from Nigeria you women believe anything

  8. Scasne Avatar

    Honestly could be a whole range of pick and mix reasons, from the age old Oedipus complex, to wanting someone who will buy them stuff instead of having to buy so much like with a girl his own age/not compete with older men with assets, to honestly wanting someone with more experience/adventurous, to wanting some fun without the risk of pregnancy, or even he may find the girls his own age immature and boring and find older women more interesting.

  9. PlusWorldliness7 Avatar

    One young man approaching an older woman = Why do more younger men want to date older women these days?

    Maturity, personality, life experience, no interest in kids. There could be so many reasons, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, provided there is openness and honesty about it and no BS from the beginning.

  10. Pristine_Car_6253 Avatar

    Women have money these days. It’s just like how young girls look for sugar daddies. Women have money now so some of these young guys are looking for sugar mommas. It’s called hagmaxxing by the younger generation.

  11. tgr3947 Avatar

    This I find funny. For me in my early 20’s I tended to date women the same age to 35ish. I didn’t start dating women in their 50s until I hit about 35. I just never clicked with women younger than me. I tried and it tended to be 100% pure hell. But I figured that out really young.

  12. eastyorkshireman Avatar

    I have pretty much always dated older. My wife is 10 years older. From personal experience, the emotional maturity, self awareness, low drama and the alignment of goals in trying to raise a family and work hard to maintain a good relationship are all selling points that younger women didn’t have at the same level.

    Those extras years of maturity and life experience really age women like a fine whiskey.

  13. blackmuff Avatar

    Mummy issues

  14. lollerkeet Avatar
  15. MetalHeadJakee Avatar

    I guess same reason some younger adult women may want a older man (or woman if she is bi/lesbian)

    Experience

  16. NoFlamingosHere Avatar

    It’s just easier to get laid if you’re into it šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø

  17. Ineedpalmtreeliving Avatar

    Tell me why yall keep approaching me it is the opposite for me. Had women in their forties plus approach me and directly ask me to bed them just last week. Nevertheless, they told me I looked beautiful 😊

  18. Edvart Avatar

    Always has been šŸ”«

  19. realmandorpheus Avatar

    I’m in my 40s now. When I was younger, I always wanted to get with an older woman in her 40s or 50s.

  20. Wimzel Avatar

    He’s trying to get a visa for your country. Happens all the time šŸ˜„

  21. Mr_Bear29 Avatar

    Because older women are the best. As someone married to a hot, older woman I know this.

  22. Maleficent_Coast_320 Avatar

    This is not a new phenomenon. When I was 19, I was dating a 28 year old. I am nearly 60 now.

  23. jrolly187 Avatar

    As a once young rascal, older women were my favourite. They knew and did things the girls my age had no idea about.

    Older women have confidence and know exactly what they want.

  24. warrior_of_light998 Avatar

    At my gym I have a crush on a woman in her early 40’s despite me being 26. She’s really cool and when we have a conversation she’s genuinely interested in what I say compared to younger girls who are really passive (in my experience). I think it’s because I like the attention of a woman and women older than me have no problems showing it

  25. IronicStrikes Avatar

    The main reason I occasionally end up with older (up to five years older than myself) women is that they actually tell me they’re interested.

  26. Zealousideal_Ad6063 Avatar

    Older women want me, younger women don’t want me.

  27. RichardPryor1976 Avatar

    When I was 18 I moved to California with a 46 year old woman.

    Older women are beautiful lovers … So the song goes.

  28. ModestCalamity Avatar

    It probably was the case, but you only notice now because you’re at that age.

  29. TheNobleMushroom Avatar

    Men, compared to women, will adapt much more in accordance to feasibility and practicality. Meaning if they’re getting treated like shit by girls their age, they’re not going to endlessly keep at it and complain that those girls are shit. They’re going to try their luck elsewhere.

    Eventually, something works somewhere. And in this guy’s case and in my case too – it’s always worked out better with older women.

  30. TheBooneyBunes Avatar

    Because young women are more and more extreme in their anti men views and no one wants to date someone who calls them the anti christ, probably.

  31. in-a-microbus Avatar

    He wasn’t trying to date you. He wanted a no strings hookup.

  32. piyastre Avatar

    Honestly because older women treat me like I’m a human being, they know how to communicate and I’m tired of younger women because they communicate in a weird way (2 years younger than me, not like Dicaprio stuff). That being said a 4 year older woman just ghosted me without any explanation so I don’t know really.

  33. ObiWantKanabis Avatar

    Young women lack respect and accountability of any kind, my partner is 20y older than me and we are very happy.Ā 

  34. JJQuantum Avatar

    I wouldn’t necessarily say ā€œthese daysā€. I dated someone 5 years older than me when I was 18. When I was 19 I asked out a woman who was clearly in her 30’s. She turned me down very sweetly. You like who you like. I ended up with my wife who is only 1.5 years younger than me, and still can’t believe she said yes 21 years later.

  35. ProfessorOilNGas Avatar

    Haven’t seen it.

  36. poppa_bh Avatar
  37. NotJimIrsay Avatar

    The fascination for MILFs have been around for a long time.

  38. Linkario86 Avatar

    Okay for some this may come accross as racist, but I really don’t mean it that way. Any ethnicity that comes from a background as this young man MAY have, would most likely do the same.

    You mention that he was originally from an African country. How long does he live where you live now? I assume by your username it’s a scandinavian country, of which many are favoured by refugees.

    My guess is that he was looking for someone older that seems single and maybe feels a bit lonely, to marry and therefor be able to stay. And older woman such as yourself also has both her feet on the ground, a stable income and some wealth accomodated.

    Of course, I could be entirely wrong, he already has a passport of said scandinavian country and simply has interest in older women, because he may feel like women his age are immature and too much a hassle.

  39. SorrowAndSuffering Avatar

    Look at younger women.

    That’s why.

  40. fccs_drills Avatar

    Have you considered the possibility that it could be a trap?

    Someone gave you attention and you started to feel butterflies.

  41. skm_45 Avatar

    Any women old or young are universally not attracted to me so I can’t date at all.

  42. JustAnotherPlainDude Avatar

    Have you met a young woman these days?

    But also, Ā he probably just liked you

  43. 6twoRaptor Avatar

    To fulfill a fantasy of getting in bed with MILFs. At least that was the case for me and it was amazing.Ā 

  44. Ill-Organization-719 Avatar

    “Why do guys like women who…”

    They think she’s hot.

  45. NN11ght Avatar

    A lot of young women have unfortunately been brainwashed by the internet to have highly unrealistic expectations.

  46. adultdaycare81 Avatar

    Attractive older women refuse to believe men really want to date them. Make it hard or refuse even if there’s interest

    Mid younger women are convinced all men want to date them. Make it hard or refuse even if there’s interest.

    Guys come here and cry, women come here and cry

    How did we get here? How do we fix this

  47. Due-Assistant9269 Avatar

    Well older women typically are more comfortable in their bodies and now what they want and how to do it. Also men want practice. If you are into short ā€œrelationshipsā€ it will work out great. If you are looking for long term companionship maybe not.

  48. Unlucky-Pomegranate3 Avatar

    He’s been wanting a PS5.

  49. Consistent_Spring700 Avatar

    Older women are less likely to scream “stranger danger” and assault you…

  50. AfraidofReplies Avatar

    Umm, that’s always been the case. If it hadn’t been cougars would have a much harder time.Ā 

  51. Throwawayemailhere Avatar

    Have you met any younger women recently? Men don’t want to date activists, they want to date women (real women).