I see it all the time with statements like “when you get married this and that” or to kids like “play this at her/his wedding when he/she grows up”
Why does everyone just assume everyone will get married? It’s like an intrinsic belief everyone has or something
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Really? not seen that in a long time.
Nowadays people don’t get married, they just start living together and that’s it.
Pretty much. It’s so ingrained in our society that long term relationships = marriage. I fell for that when I was younger. Pressured by society that because my partner and I had been together so long that it was time to get married.
I should’ve realized that I didn’t actually love him and he wasn’t the right person to marry. But I was young and didn’t realize that it wasn’t about love. I also stupidly thought the ceremony would bring us closer together. We got divorced shortly after the wedding.
I’m now with my spouse/partner, and have been for almost 10 years. Have a house, kid, share a car, share finances, life insurance… just not the piece of paper. We even wear rings to show our commitment. I call him my husband for simplicity sake. Because to us, we are married, and we just didn’t have a ceremony.
Statistically, most people get married at least once in their life. For many cultures, marriage is almost necessary to continue being accepted by others (especially for women). That doesn’t mean it’s right, but it is the way things currently are. Though it does look like the trend is leading away from marriage, at least in the US. That kind of shift takes decades, though, before people stop expecting things. Just look at LGBT+ plus stuff- people still expect their children to be straight despite how common it is to not be. The trend is shifting away from that expectation for a lot of people, but it’s slow.
This seems like a question only a space alien would ask.
The majority of people in western society (I assume other culture as well but I don’t have the data) get married. Marriage is generally seen as a positive thing that most people want to do. Its promoted by society.
2/3rds of people above the age of 15, in the US, have been or are currently married.
Why do people assume people do popular things? I remember that something like 92% of youth intend to marry. If you ignore the romanticism, it’s a legal contract that establishes certain legal protections, and the primary intent for such contracts is to protect the family. And most people want to have kids. Those genes that lead to other outcomes have the habit of eventually disappearing from circulation. So, scientifically, you’re looking at a self-selecting sample.
Primary reason is cultural, marriage is the institution that has developed really across the vast majority of cultures as to how humans define and identify a mate.
My feeling is that, Hope is kind of a major part of the human experience and i would also say that it is a thing we project because if everyone(or really anyone) is hopeless than maybe I am too which is a scary thought to internalize.
Eh. I think that’s largely older generations, or people in religious areas
Lots of people also just follow the script of life. They dont always realize they actually have the option to make other decisions
Same reason we assume that animals will mate during mating season.
Because statistically most healthy humans marry and have children.
Because most everyone wants to fall in love and be with someone who feels the same. Marriage is just a public commitment to that and a ceremony to celebrate it with all your loved ones- why wouldn’t anyone assume you wanted that if you really found your forever soulmate?