so i (18F) had been really hung up these past few months over a guy (24M) that i met online. i have been in my healing process and trying my best to work on myself beyond something so silly. yes it was one of those typical online relationships which is kinda stupid, but it had consisted of “waiting for me to turn 18” because he had befriended me on a game when i was still 17. then, once 18, i was lovebombed very quickly into a sense of security, then replies stopped being as prominent till eventually there was nothing. i have now been ghosted since the 14th of march but have healed almost fully by now.
it still stings a bit, i wont lie. i’ve mentioned previously on here that i have autism and struggle to deal with change like this, connections wasting away. but all in all I’m healing and it doesnt hurt AS much as it did initially.
the only question i have to ask is WHY do they never remove themselves if they really can’t be bothered replying or contributing what they have with you anymore. can’t even get on my favourite apps anymore without the fucker’s “online” notification coming up. like it literally just annoys me.
(yes, me blocking/ removing him would sort this, but that’s also a struggle i have and I’m not quite there yet. i would’ve found it way easier had he just blocked me if he really didn’t want to continue what we had anymore.)
TLDR;
I (18F) got emotionally attached to a guy (24M) I met online while I was under 18. Once I turned 18, he quickly acted loving but then faded away and ghosted me since mid-March. I’m mostly healed now, but it still hurts, especially because I have autism and struggle with change. What really annoys me is that he never fully removed himself—he’s still showing as “online” on my apps, which frustrates me. I’m not ready to block him myself, so I wish he’d just do it if he didn’t care anymore. Why do people who ghost never just disappear completely?
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he ghosted you when you became legal to date. you dodged the biggest bullet
He lost interest once you were no longer a minor and the “relationship” was no longer taboo.
He’s scum of the Earth.
Predators generally like to have options. If they know that they can backburner someone to use later if they don’t find something better, they’ll do so and circle back around eventually.
I know you say that blocking him is a struggle, but it would be you taking control of the situation and taking power back from this predator.