Why do some people remarry so quickly after a divorce?

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I’ve seen this happen quite frequently, within my own family and friends. A couple gets divorced, and within less than a year they’re already remarried to a new partner! And sometimes this cycle repeats multiple times; they have multiple marriages and divorces within the span of a decade. If your marriages clearly aren’t working out, what’s the rush to repeatedly get married again??? Why not just date longterm?

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  1. Radiant_Bank_77879 Avatar

    For the people who do that, it could be the fear of being alone, fear they’re not very attractive to potential partners so they “take what they can get” and lock it in asap, for women it might be a rush to have kids so they want to marry as soon as possible so they can start having kids, basically no reasons that are actual love.

    Unfortunately, even people who are married and not divorced, are usually in the above groups, fearing they can’t do any better, fearing loneliness, rushed to have kids, pressure from family and friends, etc. And usually not actual real love. Getting divorced once just supercharges the need to land another relationship for many.

  2. kenc1842 Avatar

    They were already screwing around?

  3. Lithogiraffe Avatar

    Either someone already had someone in mind or had already started an emotional affair. But if no one already had someone in the wings ready to get married to, then I think most of the time it’s dudes who remarry so quickly after divorce.

  4. indianamom1 Avatar

    Because the relationship was done long before the paperwork of the divorce.

  5. thor-nogson Avatar

    They are gluttons for punishment

  6. Apprehensive-Mark194 Avatar

    maybe , they cant take the loss of loosing a spouse easily alone so they`d rather be with another person to lessen lonliness? They feel death if alone

  7. CheapWineDoesFine Avatar

    I got divorced in ‘09 and remarried in ‘11.

    On the way into the church, the choir was leaving and someone made a backhanded remark intended for my wife to overhear “kind of quick isn’t it?”

    16 years later she still brings it up from time to time. It’s one of the main reasons we left that church. Sometimes people are with the wrong people. Sometimes people find the right person and know they want to be with them.

    As with most things in life, best to mind your own business and let people live their own lives.

  8. gooneryoda Avatar

    Serial monogamist.