I’ve noticed something that really bothers me. The people who are mean, selfish, or straight up bad never seem to face consequences. Their lives look easy, sometimes even great. But the people who are kind, who believe in karma or God, often end up suffering or struggling more.
Why does it feel like life works this way? Is it just perspective, or is there something deeper I’m missing?
Also, have you personally come across situations like this, or met people like this in your life? Would love to hear your experiences and thoughts.
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Perspective. Some do some don’t. There is no objective definition of worst. You could make a definition and correlate it to quality of life values but now you’re making a system you define.
Because the “civilized” and “good” way we’re taught to live was never meant to help us. It is a tool created by those in power to sedate the masses who would challenge their authority.
The selfish people I know have fucking shitty lives.
U sound brainwashed into believing certain groups don’t face karmic justice, but they do.
Because those are the type of traits that are required to be highly successful.
Pretty obvious if you think about it. They make a deal with the devil.
im horrible and my life sucks
I saw that documentary on Charlie Sheen on netflix. He had a low moments but was still making a ton of money. Similar to your argument
God is funny sometimes. He put me in a situation where I was supposed to lose, but I found a loophole and won anyways.
Because God is NOT real. There is no Heaven or Hell
It’s called free market capitalism; it’s a socio-economic system based on exploitation and the threat of violence (by the police) for non-compliance. Empathetic people end up at the bottom and psychopaths end up at the top of the hierarchy
Life isn’t fair. Try to use this to your advantage.
You must become a predatory capitalist.
The worst people are liars and they’re lying.
Why do the worst people seem to have the best lives?
>I’ve noticed something that really bothers me. The people who are mean, selfish, or straight up bad never seem to face consequences.
The world rewards such people because:
a) They’re not pushovers.
b) They take risks.
c) They don’t mind stepping over people to reach their goals.
d) Most of the time, whatever backlash they face is minor and temporary and doesn’t faze them.
f) Familiarity breeds tolerance. Once people know you have a reputation for all of the above, you face little resistance to reach your goals, people rarely get in your way.
g) When you gain enough fuck you money and influence you can literally pay to have your problems fuck off. Someone accused you of sexual assault? Pay them to shut up. Local law enforcement investigating you shady dealings? Pay some lawyers to shut that shit down quick.
More selfish people than nice people have such traits.
That old saying money does not equal happiness is very true.
You might have a yacht, but maybe your kids hate you.
You can still be lonely with a Ferrari and a mansion.
Living in a moderately large house by myself was one of the lonliest periods in my life.
Don’t assume they have the “best” life. They might very well be crying themselves to sleep.
Most people with bad traits are not successful? Your just looking at the top 1%
Sometimes, the “worst” people look like they’re thriving because they’re louder about their wins and quieter about their losses.
They cut corners and prioritize themselves, so yes, they get quick rewards… but those rewards are often shallow (money, attention, temporary highs).
Personally, I’ve seen people who seemed untouchable in their cruelty eventually crumble… but it wasn’t instant. Life is slow at balancing the scales.
I’ve seen it too. Some of the worst people I knew looked untouchable for years… until they weren’t. Their crash was brutal.
Ideally morally bankrupt people would get their just desserts and wind up with miserable lives but in reality that isn’t necessarily the case. Unfortunately life simply isn’t fair sometimes.
Easy lives don’t always equal meaningful ones.
Sometimes the worst people get shot in the throat in Utah. So there is often cosmic justice.
What exactly is your definition of “best” lives?
I know some horrible people who are extremely successful in their professional lives, but are absolutely miserable in their personal lives. Yes, they have more money than most people could ever dream of making, but they’ve completely alienated everyone because of their behavior, and are completely alone. That doesn’t sound like a great life in my opinion.
They have a good life because they are selfish. They don’t share anything with anyone, they step over everyone and always works their way up to positions where they are in full control of their lifes.
Kind people are the opposite.
They don’t, you just see what you want to see
If you want to be at the top, you have to be ok with stepping on toes along the way.
You mean like how “awesome” Elon Musk’s life is, where he’s somehow depressed even while owning hundreds of billions of dollars?
Shitty people are unhappy even when their lives are great, and great people are happy even when their lives are shitty. That’s the part you have to understand, or else you become a shitty, unhappy person.
Working in oncology, I’ve found that the most obnoxious patients make it while the sweetest people often don’t. I’ve come to my own conclusion that these patients are the most headstrong and determined to survive. This is the same in life. If you’re pushy, self-centered, aggressive, and determined, you’re going to go far. You won’t be well liked, but you’ll go far.
On the other hand, the worst people you’ll meet might have been born privileged. They got exactly what they wanted, all the time, and as a result became the way they are. They don’t jive with the general population who needed to work hard because they never worked a day in their life.
The TL;DR of it is you were either born with everything and consequently became “the worst”, or by being a prick you were able get what you want.
You are seeing generally famous/rich people that are highly visible. You increase your chances of being famous and rich by sacrificing everything else in your life to do so including being a better person.
Most people who make this bargain never become famous or rich, they just destroy themselves. However those people are out of view because they fail. They may never change their ways and become good people because being selfish was a disaster and now they look like good people who didn’t succeed, however they are going people because they learned an important lesson from failing.
There is an additional element to this. People who need other people will pretend not to selfish because it is harder to get help if you are perceived as a bad selfish person. Once someone is financially self-sufficient that mask can fall away, in fact now everyone is asking them for help. It is in their interest to be perceived as a bad selfish person because then if they do help someone it will be seen as special rather than as something “a good person must do.”
Finally wealth and power tend to corrupt and alter people’s perceptions of themselves. Someone who is an excellent mechanic is proud of that skill, but the rich and powerful are defined by their wealth and power. That doesn’t really have anything to do with who they are. This can completely delete one’s sense of self.
Probably because they are only concerned with making their own life better, whereas good people are focused on making the lives better for everyone they love. Workaholics typically don’t make great spouses/parents/friends.