At work, there’s a group of women who clearly don’t like me, even though I’ve never done anything to them. They’re relatively new, having worked with us for 2-3 years. Recently, during a training session, we were asked to introduce and describe ourselves with one adjective starting with the first letter of our name. When I said mine (“brave”), they burst out laughing. It still hurts, which is why I’m writing this post. What’s strange is that if I talk to any of them one-on-one, they’re nice to me. They don’t treat others this way.
In college, there were also girls from another group who treated me similarly. The girls in my own group liked me, though.
Even when I go to training sessions or events outside my job, I get the impression that women don’t seek contact with me and sometimes they mock me (not all of them of course, but there is at least one like that once in a while).
It really upsets me, and I’d like to change something about my behavior, but I have no idea what.
I do have female friends and colleagues I get along with very well, so it’s not all women. Men treat me normally – they don’t act the way these women do.
Have you ever knew a woman who instantly got on your nerves? Why was that? What can I change? Help me, please…
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This doesn’t sound like a “you” thing or even a “woman” thing. Some people just don’t vibe and some people are just *ssholes. Don’t take it personally. Live your bravest life!
It’s silly, clique behavior. I’ve always fallen on the outside of that, too. It’s likely not you at all.
Something about you probably threatens their insecurities.
You haven’t really described any of your behavior for us to provide insight on, just people’s reactions to you. Are you male or female? What’s your age and their age? Is there a chance your just imagining these are peoples reactions to you rather than something totally unrelated (anxiety will do that)?
Women who’ve instantly gotten on my nerves typically are not “self possessed”, rather they seek validation from others and work very hard to be liked.