I’m in my 20s and feel totally lost. Everyone online seems to have a dream job, a perfect relationship, and a side hustle. Meanwhile, I’m just trying to survive the day.
Is this normal? Or are we just putting way too much pressure on ourselves way too soon?
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> Everyone online seems to have a dream job, a perfect relationship, and a side hustle
trust me when I say that they only represent a tiny–almost invisible minority.
most people who are genuinely struggling won’t have the time or energy to share their shitty situation online, let alone turn it into a talking point unless it’s wrapped in self-deprecating humor as coping mechanism.
Seems if you’re spending so much time looking at the lives of everyone online, it’d go to follow you don’t have a dream job, perfect relationship or side hustle. It’s time and effort taken away from looking for people online to compare yourself to.
The worst part is this internal noise—overthinking, self-doubt, comparing myself to others who seem to “have it all figured out.” Some days I even doubt whether I actually enjoy the things I do, or if I’m just doing them to prove I’m worth something.
But maybe that’s the point: we’re still figuring it out.
And maybe we don’t need to have everything sorted by now. Maybe life is not about fixing yourself into a perfect image, but about gradually learning how to be more honest with yourself.
It looks like you’ve spent too much time online. It warps your sense of reality.
The reality is that there are plenty of people who don’t have it figured out even in their 30s.
Focus on knowing yourself by talking to people in real life to get a tangible sense of the world.