Was just at a family event. Touching bases with cousins and my sister was just like we just saw each other yesterday. Meanwhile with the husbands, absolutely no chemistry at all. Totally different personality, people I’d never associate with, just boring with no personality.
Why does it seem like some people have no chemistry with spouses and in-laws of siblings/cousins?
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Lack of effort. My bf and family and friends are always chatting it up, and they don’t always have common interests. It depends on whether they’re willing to put the effort in to make the connection
Personality conflict. They exist and are everywhere, can’t really do anything about it.
No idea what you are getting at in your post, but if the woman and man don’t seem compatible it is because the man makes a lot of money and that is why the woman is with him
I don’t think this is a universal thing. I’m close with my sister’s husband, and one of my cousin’s husband. But I’m not close with another cousin’s husband just because we’re very different people with incompatible personalities and not much in common.
I also get along very well with my wife’s sister and her husband. We both ride motorcycles so we go out on rides together on occasion.
you mean them with thier husbands, or you with thier husbands?
Pretty common. I’m an open and honest person. My family is too. And yet, I keep my distance from the Ex in laws.,
Think it is more common for the women to get along with your family.
Two people can both get along well with the same person but not with each other, and I don’t find that weird or confusing.
Some people don’t try. Some people don’t mesh.
I get along great with one of my cousin’s partners. His brother’s partner barely even says hi to anyone and then sits on her phone the whole time. So I barely engage with her.
Everyone has an opportunity to be a part of the family, but not all people mesh.