I work in the back of the restaurant doing dishes and prep work. Nothing about it requires talking, it’s not extravagant and it’s usually dirty/smelly. Sometimes I’ll go a while without talking to anybody and it’s great for me. But there seems to be a girl that seems hellbent on getting me to talk to her even a little bit. She’s asked me my age out of the blue, is interested in the prep work I do and makes comments about it, and she’s overall a sweet and very attractive person. I was going to ask her out but last night at work I heard her talk about a “sugar daddy”. I asked her “who’s that?” And she said it’s her rich white boyfriend that pays for everything. Now, I’m essentially the opposite of that. I just walked out of the room after that because I’m not going to talk to her if there’s another man in her life. I would not like it if she was my girlfriend and a man at work was trying to hit on her. To me, that would be disrespectful, simply because I could never have a good faith friendship with this person. I’m too physically attracted and I have enough friends. I don’t want more friends, I want a girlfriend! I want to be left alone if the intentions aren’t romantic, I just don’t know how to say that without being rude or weird. Has anyone experienced something like this? Please tell me what you did to feel better.
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Just be cordial and keep things professional. You don’t need to insert yourself in this. She has a sugar daddy arrangement and to me that’s a red flag.
Because some people are desperate for attention
Why?
She’s just friendly. Likes to chat. She means nothing.
She’s thinks you’re cute but is pretending to just be friendly when in fact she’s flirting.
She feels it’s ok to have a sugardaddy and a boyfriend and is hitting on you.
Whatever her reason, people just don’t always have the same morals, standards, values and behaviours. If hers don’t align with yours, just be polite but don’t engage much.
I don’t think it requires explanation. If she wants to talk and you don’t want to, just say you don’t feel like talking. Also you could be right and she could be interested, but also I’m the same way and talk to my coworkers a lot, some of them are the opposite sex, and I’m not flirting or trying to start a relationship. Sometimes just because you’re a woman and friendly men automatically assume you’re flirting. Just some insight 🤷🏻♀️
Christ almighty just have a friendly chat and go about your business fuck me
That’s what I’ve been doing