So iv seen that my bf has been searching “ Latina, chicks with dicks” or “insufferable femboys” on redit and tick tok along with other questionable searches like “gay hookups” in our area and swinger pages too.. he’s never ever seemed gay or had any issues in the bedroom.. so I’m just confused.. I don’t understand why or what it means.
Any idea? Or advise on how to approach him to get him to open up without making him uncomfortable or mad? Iv brought it up once and he denied it and when I pulled up the search history he gets really mad and makes me feel crazy.
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Sounds like he has a fetish. He’s either into femboys or wants to be one.
Ehh, we don’t know. Maybe he’s bi/gay but in denial. I used to be like that. It’s a sort of clashing of ideals/ego/self/masculinity
If he’s not open to discussion, there’s nothing we can help with.
leave
>other questionable searches like “gay hookups” in our area and swinger pages too.
I hate to break it to you, but this isn’t the confusing mess you’d think it is.
Searching for ‘chicks with dicks’ could just be him being curious (or a hidden fantasy) but ‘find people with dicks to bang near me’ doesn’t have much hidden meaning to it.
I wouldn’t be concerned about the femboy stuff I’d be more interested in the hookup part as that shows more than just an interest in femboys and cross dressing but an actual desire to meet up with someone.
Maybe suggest a mmf threesome? Dont say its for him though say you want to spice things up. Then you let him pick the other m and see what he chooses.
Everyone has their kinks. Maybe you should play with that fantasy. My SO likes Hentai. I fantasize about what it would be like to have a dick.
>bf search “femboy” stuff online?
with this alone I would have just told you that maybe he’s just got a kink for it in porn, doesnt really mean much.
the fact that hes looking up “gay hookups’ in your area as well as swinger pages though means hes not just looking to keep it in fantasy space.
maybe hes bi-curious but either way seems you need to have a conversation with him.
It sounds like he’s bi or curious. Are you guys exclusive? If he’s looking up hook ups I’m concerned about you being unknowingly exposed to potential diseases. Bear in mind, if you confront him and he feels defensive he might not feel safe to be honest.
People feel more comfortable being vulnerable if other people are being vulnerable too. If you have anything to share with him that might put him at ease. You can show that you’re supportive and want to know the real him.
I mean, the advice is going to change depending on how you feel about him possibly being bi. If this is break up territory, then I’d just be direct and tell him then get tested.
He may not be gay, but maybe he’s bi. If you’re open to the idea, try talking to him about it and see if he wants either threesome or maybe some solo play with a femboy/trans girl/beautiful person with a penis. It’s 2025 and people are becoming a lot more open about who they are.
Prolly has some kink. Maybe roleplay like one and see how that affects the situation?
Subtle hints to buy a strapon maybe
He could be bisexual and maybe more attracted to feminine people. But uh, you should make sure he’s not cheating first. I feel like that takes priority
Whatever his sexuality – cheating isn’t suddenly ok. Doesnt matter if youre curious and trying to figure your sexuality out. Doing it with real people when youre in a monog relationship is cheating full stop
You could try Reddit’s Bane – communication… talk to him and ask.
He could be bisexual. I am, my partner completely understands that I equally enjoy sex with men and women.
I’m hetero-romantic, and she is the love of my life. But we occasionally find men we’re both attracted to and invite them to join us; everyone involved has a good time 🔥🔥
So when she sees me looking at exactly the things your partner is looking at – she is neither surprised or concerned
He is gay and or bi.
Peg him!
But it also sounds like he’s cheating on you with the gay hookup thing.
It’s completely fair to be confused, it’s a tough thing to process. You deserve clarity and respect, so don’t be afraid to speak up. Talk it through with your boyfriend when you’re ready. People explore things for different reasons, he may be interested in sexual experiences with femboys that you could find uncomfortable or even disrespectful. Encourage him to be honest with you.
He’s gaslighting you so dump his ass immediately because he’s a shit person, irrespective of his sexuality.
It’s the latest trend. The number of straight boys on gay hook-up apps has been steadily increasing. They are all looking for Trans/Fem hookups.
I mean I have a folder of women covered in food items. It’s the aesthetic for me. No sexual anything about it, it’s just neat. That or dude wants you to peg him. Bring up anal with him and see what you can find out, but also, stop snooping. That’s a great way to break someone’s trust in you. It’s a 2 way street.
Use your words to have a conversation (not a fight) like an adult. Open ended questions like “would you like to try anything new in the bedroom?” Or making a want, will, won’t list with them. Both you you list what you want to try, what you’re willing to do, and your hard no’s. It’s a healthy way to get closer to your partner.
Sounds pretty weird to me. Bro is definitely bi if not in the process of turning gay, won’t be long until he asks for a threesome or cheats or breaks up with you.
If you keep going into the barbershop, eventually you will get a haircut.
> So iv seen that my bf has been searching “ Latina, chicks with dicks” or “insufferable femboys”
At this point, I think, “OK, so he has a fetish, not necessarily something to be worried about”
> questionable searches like “gay hookups” in our area and swinger pages too.
But at this point, I can’t imagine anyone searching for “gay hookups” or perusing “swinger pages” isn’t looking to participate.