I’m 25 and I’ve never dated or had a boyfriend. Honestly, personally I’m not sure how I feel about it. Since I was 13 I’ve known I was never going to have a boyfriend. So it’s whatever.
But anyway, my mom is always asking me when I’ll start dating or when I’ll get a boyfriend. She tells me that when she was a little younger than me she wanted a boyfriend so she doesn’t understand why I’m not dating. Why the hell does she want me to be in a relationship so bad?
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She probably wants grandchildren.
Desperate for grandkids.
She might want a grandchild. She might think you’re not straight. She might find it concerning that you’re not “normal”. She might find it upsetting she can’t relate to you. She might want you to be more like her. She might think you’re antisocial. Lots of different things.
Edit: Having said all that, sounds like you’re happy doing what you’re doing so she should stop bothering you. She’s being pretty rude.
Maybe she worries sbout you having a girlfriend instead?
Is she homophobic?
Could be she thinks your life is sad and the usual thoughts behind that. Or like everyone else says she wants grandkids 🤷♂️
Some people think you can only be happy if you have a partner, because they need a partner to be happy.
You say you knew you’d never have a boyfriend. Was this a personal choice that you dont want a or do you feel you’d never find one if you looked?
In the first case, good on you enjoy the single life relationships aren’t for everyone, try and explain to your mom you just dont want a relationship. I have aromantic friends who are very happy.
In the second, I recommend talking to someone trusted or maybe a therapist if you have no one you trust for that. I’m sure you’re awesome and just need to find a match and work on some confidence.
Lastly, never do anything you dont want to do for stuff like this, dont feel pressured. it’s your life, live it the best way you know how.
Do you still live at home with her?
For many people a relationship and kids is the only meaning to life
outside the fact that she may wants grandchildren, many parents still have the old school mentality where back then it was the main goal to be in a relationship, so they kept this same mentality today. They can’t fanthom that someone can have a good life without having a partner because that’s not how they grew up
you should tell her that you don’t like how she pressure you and that you’re fine just the way you are right now
Your wording sounds weird , you knew from 13 that you won’t have a bf, does that mean you don’t want a bf or that you think you are not good enough to get one. If its the latter , try and you might surprise yourself , if its the former then good for you
You’re growing older she wants grandchildren😂
My mom has also been giving snide comments about my lack of social life. Its so weird nothing about my upbringing merits the level of normalcy she expects
Grand baby fever is definitely a thing. Good luck with all that.
She wants you to become independant
Instinctive stuff
No need for a bf when you can do so many other things. At least you don’t need to argue about chores lol.
Your call entirely ! I just wonder why you actively decide against a relationship ? Against romance. Against attraction. Against intimacy and trust. And, yes, against sex.
I can be so wonderful to find the right person. Why do you refrain ?
As a parent, I will say it’s unusual or odd when my kids are not expressing what I consider key markers of growth. I have a 17 year old that hasn’t expressed an attraction to anyone or anything, while most of her friends are boy crazy to the point where she is annoyed or disgusted.
From my perspective, it’s like she’s missing an important part of development. I am concerned how this might impact her future.