I’m 24 and recently became a mom. Since I got pregnant, my MIL has made constant snarky comments about how young I am—stuff like “no one has kids that young anymore” or “I waited until I was almost 30.” At a family gathering, we were talking about my husband’s birthday and I casually mentioned I was 24, and she gave me that smile and said, “Tsk… so young. You’re not even 23 yet, right?” She knows damn well I just turned 24—she gave me a birthday gift three days after I gave birth! It’s subtle but constant, and it’s starting to really get to me. Like… does my age actually offend her or something? Does she think she is better than me because she didn’t get pregnant in her early twenties? Ugh.
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“Not all of choose to have geriatric pregnancies”
Then walk away.
Just say something like “yeah it’s wonderful, it means I can play with my child and run around without being decrepit or having aches and pains from age… how old were you MIL 30? Must have started being sore”
Lol I only say that because I’m 32 on my second child and I wake up sore and achy
Ask her if she would’ve preferred you terminated?
Turn it around on her.
“If I would have waited until I was 30, I wouldn’t have LO. Would you rather my child not exist?”
She’s jealous. As someone who had my first at 35, I’m jealous. (Kidding… or am I?)