I get asked out a lot so it’s not about looks. I’m friendly and engaging woman but on dates and over texts, the guys never ask me questions about myself. Like I will ask about them but not reciprocated.i feel like men are never truly interested in me and I don’t know why. I never had a boyfriend for this reason
Why don’t guys ask questions about me?
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Maybe you’re boring? I went out with a woman and she had lived a really interesting life but she was the most boring conversationalist and I couldn’t wait for the date to end.
choose different men.
Kinda off topic a bit but I get the vibe you just wanna hear yourself talk. 😂 lol frfr tho I’m just playing. Honestly if you want them to ask you stuff then just stop being like a guy afraid of eating p*ssy and beating around the bush. Stop anticipating what you want to hear when those incoming message dots appear just to get another two word one emoji reply. Tell that self centered ahh man that you find it weird and unappealing that he hasn’t ask you anything about yourself because you’re interesting asf and he’s missing out big time. Next move is to block his ass before a reply and make him figure out another way to reach you like Comcast xfinity private messaging
Do you talk nonstop? Lots of people, men and women, who won’t shut up don’t give anyone else the chance to engage. And these people typically spend any time not talking thinking about what they’re going to say next vs listening to makes people give up interest in engaging
If you were a man we’d tell you:
if its all the woman, then it’s you
Tell them you want to play a game – 20 questions with no boundaries. You ask 20 straight and then they ask 20. After that it should be quite easy to ask more in-depth questions about them/them asking you.. if they were paying attention.
Funny Im a guy and have the same experience with women, I always try engage the other side, ask them Qs about hobbies etc, its not even play Im genuinly interested especially if they do some uncommon hobbies for ex., even if most girls have empty bio profiles where I live I still find a bit to ask about…meanwhile I have a fully filled bio with like a dozen things u can talk to me about from various sport, cultural etc areas, from like 100 convos maybe 1-2 girls ever ask me a question outside of ‘how was ur day?’
…I have noticed its very common BOTH sides have negative experiences with dating apps many times in the same ways, funny those with those experiences mever find/match each other, its like the apps on purpose just match everybody with the most laziest profiles, I guess the paid ones no?
If you’re attractive and interesting a lot of guys will lose their cool trying to “make a conversation happen”. If they don’t know you yet, they don’t know what will connect with you so they stick to what they do know which is themselves. They absolutely don’t want awkward silences because then they feel like they’ve failed to engage you. In doing so they ruin the conversation. I sometimes catch myself doing this around women that I’m attracted to because I’m self conscious about not being boring. It sounds like you’re doing things the right way and these guys are fumbling to keep up
Its skill issue on the mens side.
How do you present yourself? I’m gonna get downvoted but I know how men think: If you dress provocatively, we think you’re easy and won’t require a lot of effort, and no one wants more than getting laid – instant disqualification from a potential relationship. I’m gonna get hate but this is how it is.
The guys who are actually interested in you as a person, are typically not going to be the ones approaching you in public, due to them not wanting to appear creepy, or in any other way ruin your day.
It’s the guys who are well practiced at getting laid who have the charisma and confidence to approach women in public who end up doing just that. Another one night stand, casual fling, or a fake attempt at a relationship while they shop around for more flings.
Song about guys not asking questions on dates.
I think a lot of men are so caught up in displaying their own ‘value’ because they’ve told each other that’s what women want to see.
I dated loads before I met my wife, because I was a bit gay and listened to what women had to say, a combination which worked really well.
What questions do you want to be asked? What would get you talking?
Hopefully some guys in these comments are paying attention.
Maybe give us an example of how your dates go, what you talk about, who initiates, who talks more, etc. Hard to say just so.
Drop little nuggets and see if they pick them up. Sounds like that’s what they are doing maybe? If they tell you about an experience, you can carry on the convo by sharing your own story. Or you can say I’ve never experienced that but have you ever done xyz?
I get asked out a lot so it’s not about looks.If there is something I’ve learnt in 2025, then it is that being asked out a lot doesn’t mean anything.
I think that’s just how a lot of people are. I’ve dated both men and women, and my experience has been that I never get asked enough.
Selfishness, self centered?
What the fuck are you then talking about????
It’s because they are trying to impress you
Probably just the guys you are talking to, or not talking to, it seems.
Dating 101 etiquette is to ask basic questions and engage the other person in conversation.
Tbh, them acting this way is doing you a favor. You can easily dismiss them as SO material.
Might seem like an irrelevant question ,but how do you dress?
If it happens with every guy, it might be something to do with you
>Why don’t guys ask questions about me?
Ask them why they dont during your date and report to us their response
You know how it’s like 80% of the world is emotionally unintelligent, it’s what it is when it comes to dating. So many women stay with women who abuse them or their kids and it’s just cause they don’t want to be alone. It’s crazy but you start to see why. So many people only care about themselves.