I’m happy with my wife and don’t want additional relationships. Also from what I hear they’re mostly men pretending to be women or couples where the man is pushing for a threesome. If I want more partners we meet them organically in person.
I’m not looking for a relationship since I’m in one currently. Jokes aside, my friends are on the apps and they hate it. I did use tinder when it first came out like 12 or so years ago and didn’t enjoy it. I don’t know why some people use it when they don’t like it.
Too transactional. Lots of unicorn hunters. Far too many ghosters Sexploiters arent sexy. Misogynists are everywhere, and—weirdly enough—too many teenagers (18-19 y/os). I used it briefly and am not interested again.
im afraid of people i know finding me . id like to know new people even though i do have options in real life but what if someone recognises me. no thanks
I want my man to fall from the sky into my room, with sword dangling on his waist and books of wisdom/romance/poetry on his hands and talking in middle age english. Unfortunately dating apps doesn’t have this kind of men there.
the whole process of online dating feels too contrived/artificial to me, and i don’t enjoy it. i much prefer meeting people organically in my everyday life
I dislike the smell of 99% of the population and I absolutely can not tell from photos if I will like someone’s smell. Online dating makes zero sense for me.
I have had 40+ first dates through dating apps and knew with all of them after 2 seconds that this would not work out.
Meanwhile when I am somewhere where I meet a lot of new people, I am immediately attracted to at least a few.
It completely drains my energy, and it is better spent paying attention to my dog. I have only had terrible relationships and AWFUL dates from the apps. I have completely lost interest and would much rather meet the love of my life organically.
I find texting to strangers boring since it rarely leads anywhere and searching for a partner online lacks the romantic aspect for me. I never get any spark from anyone before I meet them in person so it’s hard to keep myself interested.
Because men can’t keep a proper conversation. The convo starts normal and good and then they go full on sexual from a non sexual answer.. Like??? Why???
My mom drilled a fear in me from a young age of getting kidnapped and murdered. You don’t know who you’re meeting on those apps. I’ll stick with the real world and pray God leads me in the right direction.
I’m married but quit long before I met my husband. The apps just weren’t a particularly rewarding experience for me. Lots of behavior I’m just not interested in tolerating. Also I hate texting on my phone.
I’m in a relationship now, but back when I was single, I was on three different dating apps. All of them were horrid experience.
One guy turned out to be a stalker, another took me on a date to a local cemetery, and another one got so offended when I rejected a kiss that he wrote me a whole essay as to why he would be ashamed to even date me and why his family would never accept me (honorable mention, I only knew him for a day).
Crazy experiences all along.
Also, the fact that most of the people just didn’t take dating apps too seriously. I was looking for a serious relationship, and I feel like I just kept getting matches with people who were either using the app to kill some time (boredom) or find one night stands.
I know there are success stories, but the app just didn’t really work for me.
Luckily, I found my love once I went to uni and we’re still together.
I’ve used them off-and-on before, but these days I find them distressingly unromantic. I want to meet people in ways that feel more organic and natural, such as through shared hobbies/interests/activities, because it allows for a more romantic slow-burn build of attraction (which is how my attractions tend to work), it gives me a better sense of how someone acts/behaves/shows up for the people in their life before deciding whether to date them, and most people are just way more interesting in-person than in their dating bio.
Well, I’ve been in a relationship for almost 18 years but even if I was single I still wouldn’t use a dating app. My bio mom did a lot of the chat rooms back in the 90s and brought home the unfavorable type of men.
I find it overwhelming responding to people via text. The talking and dating multiple men simultaneously is actually exhausting and creates a lot of anxiety for me
Because I’m tired. I’m tired of the constant swiping, fixing my profile over and over, being roasted, men being overly sexual/rude/nasty with me. I’m tired of being stood up for dates, dealing with men who have bad/hidden intentions, being anxious I’ll be kidnapped/murdered. I’m just…tired. I once had in my profile that I liked video games/anime. Some guy I matched with told me, and I quote: “Guys don’t like girls who play video games. But since you’re cute, they’ll make an exception for you.” he also told me that anime and video games are cringe and a waste of time, and that I should just go outside. I’m tired boss.
Because I’m not fussed about dating. If I happen to meet someone in life and get on with them and want to date them great. But if not I’m very content and happy with single life. I wouldn’t go out of my way to find someone to date.
i provided my fair share of free sex to men in the early 00’s. now i built a self-esteem.
also tbh i’m not interested in dating because most my relationships where bad. is it my fault ? probably, but is it a reason to ask for more ? hell no.
I’ve been told I’m a silly/odd person by friends in a way that doesn’t translate well to online conversation. I’ve had very easy success in real life and none online.
I used a dating app for maybe a week after a breakup when I was 21. For every halfway decent conversation there were way too many unsolicited dick pics and pretty much rape threats. For the record, my profile did not mention sex or allusions to looking for “casual” in any capacity. I gave up and never tried it again
I tried before. My matches were either immature, lukewarm or there just for an ego boost – and I have filtered very hard. Being ghosted or treated with disinterest constantly affects my self esteem. Getting to know a guy just to discover misogyny, lack of empathy and emotional unavailability all over again is discouraging.
I think I am at a point in my life where it’s very hard for any man to meet me, but should there be any, he wouldn’t be subjecting himself to the cesspool that dating apps are either.
When I was young and pretty, apps seemed staged and inauthentic…more like means for casual hookups than actual relationships. I didn’t have trouble meeting people organically back then, so using an app struck me as a last resort (kind of desperate. )
now I’m too old to bother, and not interested in dating random weirdos anyway.
It’s an utter waste of my precious time when I could be using that time to meet someone IRL doing the things I enjoy. Also, better setting to potentially find partner sharing same interests.
Because they really show what poor communicators people are. Wyd? Hey sexy! And that’s from the 10% on there that are actually attractive and not total rednecks. Just low quality of people on the apps because the decent catches have given up
Well, I didn’t for years because I thought it would ‘just happen’. I dressed nicely, made an effort, smiled, traveled in public transportation every day, worked in a huge place, but I was a workaholic and so was everyone else. Nothing ever happened.
Went on Tinder, but conversations were weird and a guy stood me up. Deleted Tinder. Made a profile on OKCupid to dramatically narrow down the search, got 50+ messages that same evening, including one from my now husband. Done.
the guys on there are only looking for a warm wet hole. they will lie and say all the right things and then as soon as you put out they will disappear. also i think talking to multiple people at once is gross and overwhelming. i also don’t believe in talking stages. you’re either in or out
At this point, I’ve only ever dated men after connecting via apps. It’s been extremely disappointing that all of them seem to flip the switch on who they actually are after months or years of dating. All experiences that led me to more growth and understanding…. BUT- I’d like to just focus on me and with that meet someone organically through my career, college or while enjoying hobbies. In no rush anymore and happy to wait until it feels right.
I think the goal is to find someone out in the world that has a similar interest.
So typically, in the gym, arts/crafts store, bookstore, shooting range, surfing/beach.
When going about online dating, it’s so much easier to lie online(not saying it doesn’t happen IRL), and like others said, just feels inorganic.
There’s something about dating apps that seems more like a business transaction or free trial. You don’t really get the best friends—-> gf/bf status. You both go in there with a goal to find a relationship, making it feel more forced.
Maybe I’m speaking for myself, but I want to know the person as a friend before seeking them as a partner.
Before that, I felt it was very artificial. Guys my age was just after sex.
Though on a funny note, I made a joke about online dating to my dad when his girlfriend (now wife) was about. Thats how I learnt they met on online dating… awkward
I’m not single. But even if I was, I could never do dating apps. I’m extremely camera-shy, to an almost-pathological extent. The idea of putting photos of myself out there to be seen and judged by others is mortifying.
I hate small talk and randomly meeting new people 1:1…it is truly gut wrenching and nauseating. I’ve gone on many first dates via an app and they’ve all made me want to puke beforehand and I have simply never felt comfortable.
As a result of this, I’ve been single for over 5yrs tho so take it as you will. I hate that dating apps are now the norm for dating.
I like to meet men organically. I can get a good feel for who someone is throught their voice/tone, mannerisms, etc. Can’t get any of that through a computer.
I feel like it rewires your brain negatively. You just essentially swipe based off of appearances, and I feel like it trains your brain to not be content. That constant swiping makes you always look for the next one, or “maybe there’s a better one out there.” You should get to know someone. Be content in the moment. I feel like it trains you to be more shallow.
People have an easier time being negative, mean, pervy, and weird when they don’t have to look you in the eye. I don’t need that.
It makes me feel like I’m auctioning myself off or something. Just not my thing.
Obviously there are ways around these issues, I’m just not interested enough to pursue the apps.
I downloaded/deleted/redownloaded for years and deleted them for what I hope was the last time after a man I matched with and was going to go on a date with admitted that he fell into a category that was a “hard no” according to my profile but would still like to date me. Since then I’ve been trying in-person events and at least they’ve been less soul-crushing than mindlessly swiping was
Guess I’m quite traditional in the dating world and want to experience meeting someone romantically through shared interests, clubs or through mutual friends and let it all happen naturally – just like I’d witnessed it happen with all my close friends and their romantic partners.
Plus too many mind games on dating apps. Too many unspoken rules and people treating it like a sport rather than using it as a way to find their SO.
The person I’ve been seeing off and on met through friends in 2011. When we aren’t going together dating apps weren’t a good idea for myself. So I will just be alone for the time being.
I’ve been chronically ill for a long time. My marriage worsened it, then left when I got sicker, and when trying to recover independence from a marriage where you were a dependent and left with nothing, it’s rough. I don’t think i could trust anyone in a relationship at this point in my life, and finding who I buried in that marriage is a better use of my time.
It took me years to realize there’s nothing truly good for me there. I’ve tried more times than I can count, countless first dates, two failed relationships, a couple of situationships, and a few flings. In the end, most of them had nothing real to offer..
I find that I cannot tell if I fancy someone from a picture it has to be a in the flesh view of them. All of my ex’s showed me their old dating profiles and honestly? I’d have never swiped right for them but met them IRL and loved them.
On the flip side I’ve also matched with men on dating apps who I think are my type until I meet them and realise before a word is even spoken theirs no attraction
Because I feel like I’m shopping for a person. Which to me feels way too weird to do for a relationship. Feels like desperation. I’d be offended if I was ever on one. People can say whatever about themselves online and be believed. Sounds exhausting.
Dating is just too much rejection, and it takes a toll on the self-esteem. If I happen to meet someone in the wild, I’ll give it a shot. I’m not going to use an app to seek it out, though.
I hate taking pictures of myself. Also I have a restraining order against my ex who thinks I moved out of state. So if anyone who knows him sees me on the apps 20 miles away, he’s going to try and stalk me. Fun stuff!
I don’t date men anymore, but with men they were always just completely useless because men swipe right on everyone and then you get like a gazillion meaningless matches in a day and that’s just too much to handle. Also so many men on there are weird freaks.
With women the experience of using the apps is nicer and I did do it for a while, but I just prefer to meet people organically.
I just haven’t heard anything positive about them. I’m curious but I’ve also heard absolute horror stories. I’m not ready to date again just yet but I’ve been trying to make more friends via social groups in my area to eventually hopefully meet someone organically. It would be great to start out as friends first.
It’s not organic as far as meeting people and doesn’t feel authentic. Feels like we have too much accessibility to everyone. People get to pick and choose and have a large amount of options to choose from. Very transactional
I’m much more attracted to a person’s energy than their looks. When I was on dating apps I would match with handsome men and have nice conversations. And then the first date would happen. Vibes are off. Conversation doesn’t flow. I want a genuine connection with someone. From my experience, that’s very hard to find behind a screen.
I don’t find myself attracted to people I’m not friends with first. Expecting someone on a dating app to become my friend just in case I fall for them one day seems unreasonable.
I’ve tried it once or twice and it’s the same, men are so lustful in the dating apps just like they are somewhere else, I’m so exhausted of dealing with immature and lustful men, I wonder is there any good men left out there.
They enable me to keep making the same mistakes, over and over, and with not enough time in between to really grow and process what I’m trying to do. Somewhere along the line I lost the plot, and apps keep it lost.
Feels so superficial, you can’t really tell what a person is like from pics, and by the time you’ve gone through the trouble of creating the profile it’s like meh I don’t even wanna chat anymore
The type of man I want is not on hinge. I also just feel that in the past when I used them it was hard to find someone with an actual connection and common ground. The conversations are insanely surface level and awkward feeling for me.
The last time I used a dating app was 12 years ago, and the people on there were weird. Guys always asking for nudes. Some people were looking for partners to fulfill certain kink fantasies (fine for some, just not for me). And catfishers.
I recently deleted the apps I was on before me it was incredibly demoralising and crushing my sense of self worth. It’s a constant cycle of matching, having either nobody reply or crappy short convos that fizzle or get sexual. And then when you do get actual dates it’s a revolving door of vulnerability that leads to nothing but hurt every time you have to open up or get your hopes up only to have it go nowhere because they aren’t the right person and you didn’t feel it. It is so artificial and fake and forced.
But I also know that I’m so busy with work that I generally don’t go out in order to meet people and I work in a female dominate industry so almost zero chance of meeting anyone naturally.
When I was on a dating site (a website, not an app), almost every message I got from guys was either rude or overly sexual. Out of around 50 people, only two were able to talk to me like a decent human being. That was 10 years ago, and one of them turned out to be my life partner. I’m so glad it only took us two weeks to find each other and then delete our accounts.
Because I don’t know how to connect with people that way or feel attraction to them on the basis of a dating profile consisting of a few photos and words. I don’t like chatting to strangers, I have a lot of social anxiety, I’m not interested in going on a date and using up my limited social energy just to see if maybe there’s a spark with some random stranger, and it all just sounds tedious as hell.
Another reason I wouldn’t use one is that I’m happily married, so.
I’m not keen on needing to pay to communicate with people. But I also find it tedious to message people and wait for them to respond back. Much less keep a convo going.
I’d really rather we treated it like a blind date where if we realized we’ve swiped right on each other or matched, we can just immediately set up a first date and move on from there.
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Why? Because good things never come of online dating.
Its always fake
I’m happy with my wife and don’t want additional relationships. Also from what I hear they’re mostly men pretending to be women or couples where the man is pushing for a threesome. If I want more partners we meet them organically in person.
I’m not looking for a relationship since I’m in one currently. Jokes aside, my friends are on the apps and they hate it. I did use tinder when it first came out like 12 or so years ago and didn’t enjoy it. I don’t know why some people use it when they don’t like it.
It would really piss my husband off but he cheated on me in my dreams this week so maybe I will…
>!I know dreams aren’t real, I’m not taking this seriously, we’re laughing about this together!<
Because I’m happily married. We happen to have met on a dating app though.
I just think they’re stupid and a non-organic way to meet someone.
Too transactional. Lots of unicorn hunters. Far too many ghosters Sexploiters arent sexy. Misogynists are everywhere, and—weirdly enough—too many teenagers (18-19 y/os). I used it briefly and am not interested again.
im afraid of people i know finding me . id like to know new people even though i do have options in real life but what if someone recognises me. no thanks
I want my man to fall from the sky into my room, with sword dangling on his waist and books of wisdom/romance/poetry on his hands and talking in middle age english. Unfortunately dating apps doesn’t have this kind of men there.
Never liked that idea!
When I was single, the apps gave me poor results. It was a mix of Asian fetishists, mommy’s basement boys, and one persistent stalker.
I met my husband through work. And I’m happy with him. 🙂
Im married
the whole process of online dating feels too contrived/artificial to me, and i don’t enjoy it. i much prefer meeting people organically in my everyday life
Because it’s a scam and I don’t like to work for free as bait so man will pay.
I dislike the smell of 99% of the population and I absolutely can not tell from photos if I will like someone’s smell. Online dating makes zero sense for me.
I have had 40+ first dates through dating apps and knew with all of them after 2 seconds that this would not work out.
Meanwhile when I am somewhere where I meet a lot of new people, I am immediately attracted to at least a few.
The men on there are thirsty and desperate
It completely drains my energy, and it is better spent paying attention to my dog. I have only had terrible relationships and AWFUL dates from the apps. I have completely lost interest and would much rather meet the love of my life organically.
meat market, so hard to find someone serious to commit a relationship with.
I tried them briefly and met a who’s who of human crap. I eventually met my husband the old fashioned way, in a pub.
Every conversation lasts about 15 minutes before they start talking about sex and hooking up. I’ll pass
its usually bottom of the barrel men
I find texting to strangers boring since it rarely leads anywhere and searching for a partner online lacks the romantic aspect for me. I never get any spark from anyone before I meet them in person so it’s hard to keep myself interested.
Because men can’t keep a proper conversation. The convo starts normal and good and then they go full on sexual from a non sexual answer.. Like??? Why???
My mom drilled a fear in me from a young age of getting kidnapped and murdered. You don’t know who you’re meeting on those apps. I’ll stick with the real world and pray God leads me in the right direction.
I’m married but quit long before I met my husband. The apps just weren’t a particularly rewarding experience for me. Lots of behavior I’m just not interested in tolerating. Also I hate texting on my phone.
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Because it’s boring, I prefer meeting men outside in the street randomly
First, I’m not interested. I’m monogamous and happily married.
Second, I prefer meeting people through more organic and naturally interactive ways. It wouldn’t occur to me to use an app for that
I’m in a relationship now, but back when I was single, I was on three different dating apps. All of them were horrid experience.
One guy turned out to be a stalker, another took me on a date to a local cemetery, and another one got so offended when I rejected a kiss that he wrote me a whole essay as to why he would be ashamed to even date me and why his family would never accept me (honorable mention, I only knew him for a day).
Crazy experiences all along.
Also, the fact that most of the people just didn’t take dating apps too seriously. I was looking for a serious relationship, and I feel like I just kept getting matches with people who were either using the app to kill some time (boredom) or find one night stands.
I know there are success stories, but the app just didn’t really work for me.
Luckily, I found my love once I went to uni and we’re still together.
I think people use dating apps for hookups and not for love
I’ve used them off-and-on before, but these days I find them distressingly unromantic. I want to meet people in ways that feel more organic and natural, such as through shared hobbies/interests/activities, because it allows for a more romantic slow-burn build of attraction (which is how my attractions tend to work), it gives me a better sense of how someone acts/behaves/shows up for the people in their life before deciding whether to date them, and most people are just way more interesting in-person than in their dating bio.
It’s stressful and for every one good guy there’s 20 bad
I just get overwhelmed with the swiping and small talk—it never feels real to me.
Any man on a dating app means the woman in his life don’t want him. Sooooo why would I?
I’ve had too many bad experiences using them.
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Well, I’ve been in a relationship for almost 18 years but even if I was single I still wouldn’t use a dating app. My bio mom did a lot of the chat rooms back in the 90s and brought home the unfavorable type of men.
I find it overwhelming responding to people via text. The talking and dating multiple men simultaneously is actually exhausting and creates a lot of anxiety for me
I did.
Because I’m tired. I’m tired of the constant swiping, fixing my profile over and over, being roasted, men being overly sexual/rude/nasty with me. I’m tired of being stood up for dates, dealing with men who have bad/hidden intentions, being anxious I’ll be kidnapped/murdered. I’m just…tired. I once had in my profile that I liked video games/anime. Some guy I matched with told me, and I quote: “Guys don’t like girls who play video games. But since you’re cute, they’ll make an exception for you.” he also told me that anime and video games are cringe and a waste of time, and that I should just go outside. I’m tired boss.
Because I’m not fussed about dating. If I happen to meet someone in life and get on with them and want to date them great. But if not I’m very content and happy with single life. I wouldn’t go out of my way to find someone to date.
Because I don’t want to date right now, and if I wanted it would be “old-school” way
I’ve tried and all attempts failed. Now, I try to meet people organically IRL. It’s tougher, but hey, I’m resilient.
I have a husband. I use bumble best friend and I have made two great friendships there.
i provided my fair share of free sex to men in the early 00’s. now i built a self-esteem.
also tbh i’m not interested in dating because most my relationships where bad. is it my fault ? probably, but is it a reason to ask for more ? hell no.
Not looking to date.
I’ve been told I’m a silly/odd person by friends in a way that doesn’t translate well to online conversation. I’ve had very easy success in real life and none online.
I used a dating app for maybe a week after a breakup when I was 21. For every halfway decent conversation there were way too many unsolicited dick pics and pretty much rape threats. For the record, my profile did not mention sex or allusions to looking for “casual” in any capacity. I gave up and never tried it again
It’s just all so hollow and vapid.
I tried before. My matches were either immature, lukewarm or there just for an ego boost – and I have filtered very hard. Being ghosted or treated with disinterest constantly affects my self esteem. Getting to know a guy just to discover misogyny, lack of empathy and emotional unavailability all over again is discouraging.
I think I am at a point in my life where it’s very hard for any man to meet me, but should there be any, he wouldn’t be subjecting himself to the cesspool that dating apps are either.
I met my boyfriend on Tinder so I don’t need them anymore! One of the lucky ones
When I was young and pretty, apps seemed staged and inauthentic…more like means for casual hookups than actual relationships. I didn’t have trouble meeting people organically back then, so using an app struck me as a last resort (kind of desperate. )
now I’m too old to bother, and not interested in dating random weirdos anyway.
Too many appalling experiences LOL
It’s an utter waste of my precious time when I could be using that time to meet someone IRL doing the things I enjoy. Also, better setting to potentially find partner sharing same interests.
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Because they really show what poor communicators people are. Wyd? Hey sexy! And that’s from the 10% on there that are actually attractive and not total rednecks. Just low quality of people on the apps because the decent catches have given up
It’s too intentional for me and too similar to applying for a job.
Because I was married before dating apps existed.
Disproportionately avoidant dudes – “please just give me one chance….. to waste your time”
Because I’m married now
Because the men I’ve met through them have been absolute garbage.
No pheromones, no aura
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Because I don’t feel like choosing my partners from a catalog.
I don’t need one. Someone hits on me every time I step outside my house. 😅
It’s also exhausting trying to keep up with all the same conversations with different people.
Way too contrived, every person you meet is a meeting under the pretense of auditioning for whatever relationship they have in mind. It doesnt work.
Well, I didn’t for years because I thought it would ‘just happen’. I dressed nicely, made an effort, smiled, traveled in public transportation every day, worked in a huge place, but I was a workaholic and so was everyone else. Nothing ever happened.
Went on Tinder, but conversations were weird and a guy stood me up. Deleted Tinder. Made a profile on OKCupid to dramatically narrow down the search, got 50+ messages that same evening, including one from my now husband. Done.
the guys on there are only looking for a warm wet hole. they will lie and say all the right things and then as soon as you put out they will disappear. also i think talking to multiple people at once is gross and overwhelming. i also don’t believe in talking stages. you’re either in or out
At this point, I’ve only ever dated men after connecting via apps. It’s been extremely disappointing that all of them seem to flip the switch on who they actually are after months or years of dating. All experiences that led me to more growth and understanding…. BUT- I’d like to just focus on me and with that meet someone organically through my career, college or while enjoying hobbies. In no rush anymore and happy to wait until it feels right.
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I think the goal is to find someone out in the world that has a similar interest.
So typically, in the gym, arts/crafts store, bookstore, shooting range, surfing/beach.
When going about online dating, it’s so much easier to lie online(not saying it doesn’t happen IRL), and like others said, just feels inorganic.
There’s something about dating apps that seems more like a business transaction or free trial. You don’t really get the best friends—-> gf/bf status. You both go in there with a goal to find a relationship, making it feel more forced.
Maybe I’m speaking for myself, but I want to know the person as a friend before seeking them as a partner.
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Becuase im happily taken 😂
Before that, I felt it was very artificial. Guys my age was just after sex.
Though on a funny note, I made a joke about online dating to my dad when his girlfriend (now wife) was about. Thats how I learnt they met on online dating… awkward
They’re just kind of terrible for lesbians. Scams, unicorn hunters, so many people looking for poly, random ass men in there, etc.
I’m not single. But even if I was, I could never do dating apps. I’m extremely camera-shy, to an almost-pathological extent. The idea of putting photos of myself out there to be seen and judged by others is mortifying.
Feels very fake and I’ve never gotten anything good out of them so I gave up and decided love isn’t for me.
I hate small talk and randomly meeting new people 1:1…it is truly gut wrenching and nauseating. I’ve gone on many first dates via an app and they’ve all made me want to puke beforehand and I have simply never felt comfortable.
As a result of this, I’ve been single for over 5yrs tho so take it as you will. I hate that dating apps are now the norm for dating.
I did, I’m not in a long term relationship.
Men expect free sex. I’d rather meet someone organically.
So many reasons.
I like to meet men organically. I can get a good feel for who someone is throught their voice/tone, mannerisms, etc. Can’t get any of that through a computer.
I feel like it rewires your brain negatively. You just essentially swipe based off of appearances, and I feel like it trains your brain to not be content. That constant swiping makes you always look for the next one, or “maybe there’s a better one out there.” You should get to know someone. Be content in the moment. I feel like it trains you to be more shallow.
People have an easier time being negative, mean, pervy, and weird when they don’t have to look you in the eye. I don’t need that.
It makes me feel like I’m auctioning myself off or something. Just not my thing.
Obviously there are ways around these issues, I’m just not interested enough to pursue the apps.
I downloaded/deleted/redownloaded for years and deleted them for what I hope was the last time after a man I matched with and was going to go on a date with admitted that he fell into a category that was a “hard no” according to my profile but would still like to date me. Since then I’ve been trying in-person events and at least they’ve been less soul-crushing than mindlessly swiping was
The men are disgusting. Regardless of how you meet them really. Less access they have to you if you’re not in apps
Guess I’m quite traditional in the dating world and want to experience meeting someone romantically through shared interests, clubs or through mutual friends and let it all happen naturally – just like I’d witnessed it happen with all my close friends and their romantic partners.
Plus too many mind games on dating apps. Too many unspoken rules and people treating it like a sport rather than using it as a way to find their SO.
The person I’ve been seeing off and on met through friends in 2011. When we aren’t going together dating apps weren’t a good idea for myself. So I will just be alone for the time being.
Because I’m happily married!
I don’t like being sexually harassed; I used to use them, but I’ve since given up
I’ve been chronically ill for a long time. My marriage worsened it, then left when I got sicker, and when trying to recover independence from a marriage where you were a dependent and left with nothing, it’s rough. I don’t think i could trust anyone in a relationship at this point in my life, and finding who I buried in that marriage is a better use of my time.
I have too much on my plate to be dating right now.
Seems like a lot of work.
bc ur expecting to fall in love, takes the fun out of it
It took me years to realize there’s nothing truly good for me there. I’ve tried more times than I can count, countless first dates, two failed relationships, a couple of situationships, and a few flings. In the end, most of them had nothing real to offer..
Don’t like the kind of men that are usually found on dating apps.
I find that I cannot tell if I fancy someone from a picture it has to be a in the flesh view of them. All of my ex’s showed me their old dating profiles and honestly? I’d have never swiped right for them but met them IRL and loved them.
On the flip side I’ve also matched with men on dating apps who I think are my type until I meet them and realise before a word is even spoken theirs no attraction
Maybe it’s to do with pheromones
Bcz these apps just want money
Serial killers
Because I feel like I’m shopping for a person. Which to me feels way too weird to do for a relationship. Feels like desperation. I’d be offended if I was ever on one. People can say whatever about themselves online and be believed. Sounds exhausting.
Dating is just too much rejection, and it takes a toll on the self-esteem. If I happen to meet someone in the wild, I’ll give it a shot. I’m not going to use an app to seek it out, though.
You don’t list a Maserati on Craigslist.🤷🏼♀️
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I don’t think my boyfriend would be happy with that.
Because it made dating feel too transactional when it should be a fun experience. At least in the early stages lol.
Because I have a man but if I didn’t I wouldn’t use it.
bc it’s awful and i need authenticity
I don’t think my husband would appreciate it.
It feels kinda odd like I’m shopping for a man. Feels forced and not natural. Also I don’t find many guys that are my type on there
I hate taking pictures of myself. Also I have a restraining order against my ex who thinks I moved out of state. So if anyone who knows him sees me on the apps 20 miles away, he’s going to try and stalk me. Fun stuff!
I don’t date men anymore, but with men they were always just completely useless because men swipe right on everyone and then you get like a gazillion meaningless matches in a day and that’s just too much to handle. Also so many men on there are weird freaks.
With women the experience of using the apps is nicer and I did do it for a while, but I just prefer to meet people organically.
I’m married.
I just haven’t heard anything positive about them. I’m curious but I’ve also heard absolute horror stories. I’m not ready to date again just yet but I’ve been trying to make more friends via social groups in my area to eventually hopefully meet someone organically. It would be great to start out as friends first.
I’m married and I’m afraid I might find my wife’s profile on there.
I do
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Hopeless romantic does not work with online dating lol. Wanted to meet my partner romcom style.
Simply don’t have the energy to do all the swiping and texting.
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I tend not to bother granted I didn’t have a good time with a lot of people I matched with.
I’m too scared of being perceived
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It’s not organic as far as meeting people and doesn’t feel authentic. Feels like we have too much accessibility to everyone. People get to pick and choose and have a large amount of options to choose from. Very transactional
it’s kind of unnatural when you really think about it
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I’m much more attracted to a person’s energy than their looks. When I was on dating apps I would match with handsome men and have nice conversations. And then the first date would happen. Vibes are off. Conversation doesn’t flow. I want a genuine connection with someone. From my experience, that’s very hard to find behind a screen.
Because I’m married. Husband says no dating.
No Date No Waste.
Because I don’t date.
Negative experiences. I even came across people who I know on there too. Ew no!
I think that people on a dating app are too desperate , i want the universe to conspire tho te point is i want to be loved than lusted over
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I don’t find myself attracted to people I’m not friends with first. Expecting someone on a dating app to become my friend just in case I fall for them one day seems unreasonable.
Also, I’m scared of getting murdered.
i have a life
because dating apps are just dick pic generation engines
they don’t actually involve any amount of dating
that’s been my experience, anyway
I’ve tried it once or twice and it’s the same, men are so lustful in the dating apps just like they are somewhere else, I’m so exhausted of dealing with immature and lustful men, I wonder is there any good men left out there.
They enable me to keep making the same mistakes, over and over, and with not enough time in between to really grow and process what I’m trying to do. Somewhere along the line I lost the plot, and apps keep it lost.
I gave up on trying to date.
Exhausting.
Feels so superficial, you can’t really tell what a person is like from pics, and by the time you’ve gone through the trouble of creating the profile it’s like meh I don’t even wanna chat anymore
‘Hey I’m good how are you’
‘Thanks’
‘Lived here about 10 years yeah’
Zzzzzz
I hate how I look in pictures and hate responding to dms and texts. I’d rather talk in person.
Last time I had dating app in use, the first match & message I got was “Can I have a picture of your butthole?”
I then deleted all those apps and went to buy delicious meal for my cats and some wine to myself.
Because seeing someone in person is WAY more than seeing them online. Catfishing should be forbidden everywhere on Earth.
The type of man I want is not on hinge. I also just feel that in the past when I used them it was hard to find someone with an actual connection and common ground. The conversations are insanely surface level and awkward feeling for me.
Tried it … don’t like it … just looking for easy hookup and/or sex
The last time I used a dating app was 12 years ago, and the people on there were weird. Guys always asking for nudes. Some people were looking for partners to fulfill certain kink fantasies (fine for some, just not for me). And catfishers.
I find it degrading, like I’m being posted for sale or rent or something.
I recently deleted the apps I was on before me it was incredibly demoralising and crushing my sense of self worth. It’s a constant cycle of matching, having either nobody reply or crappy short convos that fizzle or get sexual. And then when you do get actual dates it’s a revolving door of vulnerability that leads to nothing but hurt every time you have to open up or get your hopes up only to have it go nowhere because they aren’t the right person and you didn’t feel it. It is so artificial and fake and forced.
But I also know that I’m so busy with work that I generally don’t go out in order to meet people and I work in a female dominate industry so almost zero chance of meeting anyone naturally.
When I was on a dating site (a website, not an app), almost every message I got from guys was either rude or overly sexual. Out of around 50 people, only two were able to talk to me like a decent human being. That was 10 years ago, and one of them turned out to be my life partner. I’m so glad it only took us two weeks to find each other and then delete our accounts.
Because I’m taken and theres no need for it. (But in all seriousness I just meet people in person.)
Because I don’t know how to connect with people that way or feel attraction to them on the basis of a dating profile consisting of a few photos and words. I don’t like chatting to strangers, I have a lot of social anxiety, I’m not interested in going on a date and using up my limited social energy just to see if maybe there’s a spark with some random stranger, and it all just sounds tedious as hell.
Another reason I wouldn’t use one is that I’m happily married, so.
The people I would eventually like to connect with (romantic partners or friends) are not on them.
Because I’m cheap, lazy and impatient.
I’m not keen on needing to pay to communicate with people. But I also find it tedious to message people and wait for them to respond back. Much less keep a convo going.
I’d really rather we treated it like a blind date where if we realized we’ve swiped right on each other or matched, we can just immediately set up a first date and move on from there.