I’m 21M. I come from a middle class family. I had a dream to get a house and settle in life. I am doing my part and have confidence that I can make it. Throughout my life, there was poverty and disrespect towards my family. They worked hard but they didn’t get what they deserve. I have the dream to provide a home to them(my mother loves a cute, beautiful and clean house but right now we don’t have it). My father was abandoned by my grandfather at a very young age(2 years after my parents marriage) and they just struggled really really hard after that. I grew up seeing all of this and always had the goal of providing my family what they couldn’t have.
Coming to my question, I recently broke up with my gf and one of the reason was she wanted to never settle in life. She wanted to work and work and travel and work and what not. Basically she said that she wants to work and travel simultaneously and she doesn’t want to be in a house with my for all of her life. Then I met few people too who had these big ass dreams of settling into a foreign country like norway or Germany. My ex had the dream of achieving nobel prize. I don’t have any of these. I just want to see my family happy. Is it not okay? My confidence is so down after all of this and I feel like even though I’m working hard and results are there, I am not doing enough.
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I’m 21M. I come from a middle class family. I had a dream to get a house and settle in life. I am doing my part and have confidence that I can make it. Throughout my life, there was poverty and disrespect towards my family. They worked hard but they didn’t get what they deserve. I have the dream to provide a home to them(my mother loves a cute, beautiful and clean house but right now we don’t have it). My father was abandoned by my grandfather at a very young age(2 years after my parents marriage) and they just struggled really really hard after that. I grew up seeing all of this and always had the goal of providing my family what they couldn’t have.
Coming to my question, I recently broke up with my gf and one of the reason was she wanted to never settle in life. She wanted to work and work and travel and work and what not. Basically she said that she wants to work and travel simultaneously and she doesn’t want to be in a house with my for all of her life. Then I met few people too who had these big ass dreams of settling into a foreign country like norway or Germany. My ex had the dream of achieving nobel prize. I don’t have any of these. I just want to see my family happy. Is it not okay? My confidence is so down after all of this and I feel like even though I’m working hard and results are there, I am not doing enough.
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