Context: I’ve hooked up with some women and literally have issues finishing at times or have to be intentional about it. There’s other women who I have sex with and I feel like I’m fighting for my god damn life to not finish in short order.
There was a period of time where I couldn’t finish with women in my teens but am well past that now. I also notice that sometimes if a women doesn’t go ham on my junk and takes the time to let me ease into it I also get that same experience of being able to finish on my own terms. I’m not 100% sure what’s going on and sex isn’t a massive priority for me but maybe there are some men on reddit who are more well versed that could help explain or offer some perspective.
Appreciate any advice, perspective, and time given. Thanks everyone!
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I mean at a glance it just sounds like you either cum too often and your dick’s overstimulated or you’re not that into the women you sleep with/not that turned on during sex.
Either that or there’s some medical stuff going on, but not really qualified to give that kind of advice.
Sounds like you just don’t have a good mind-body connection. Being aware of your arousal in relation to what you’re doing. It’s all mental.
Sometimes you’re more anxious or hyped up with certain women. That adrenaline hits and suddenly you’re finishing faster than you planned. With others, you’re calmer, so your body’s less reactive.
Wait y’all have had sex?
I’ve had that issue too. Seems pretty natural to me. For me it was all about comfort level and how sexy they behaved. I’m also a bit of a demi (sexual connection coming from an emotional connection). Sometimes I finish fast and sometimes I don’t. Been married for 20+ years and it still happens.
What is this “going ham on your junk” you speak of?
Sex with different people and under different circumstances is going to yield different results. Why would you bust the same for a faster high paced session as a slow session when that’s illogical? Why should you bust the same for different women whom you have different feelings towards whom have different anatomies?