I (20F, autistic) am really confused about my sister’s (25F) behavior toward me.
When I’m depressed or sad, she will feel sorry for me and do everything she can to help me get out of that state. She’ll be supportive, caring, and make sure I feel “normal” again.
But when I’m in a good place, being kind, happy, talkactive, or just normal, she completely changes. She’s cold, dismissive, and honestly kind of a jerk to me. It feels like I don’t even exist to her unless I’m suffering.
Why is she like this? Has anyone else experienced this with a sibling?
TL;DR: My sister is supportive and caring when I’m depressed/sad, but when I’m happy/normal she treats me badly and ignores me. Why does she act like this?
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Some people only feel good about themselves when they are “needed” or “doing better than” others, so they make sure the people around them are always below them and in need of help by being mean to them. This is not normal and is very unhealthy. Keep in mind that if all abusive or unhealthy people were mean 24/7 people wouldn’t be around them.
Not saying she is a full blown narcissist but look up the narcissistic cycle of abuse and love bombing to see more information about this