Why is no one talking about the loneliness of women when women identify as lonely even more frequently?

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I recently learned that women identify themselves as lonely in larger numbers than men across all demographics.

This came as news to me. All I’ve been hearing about is “the male loneliness epidemic”, with little or no mention of women also being affected (that I’ve seen).

Why do you think that is?

Comments

  1. Gaias_Minion Avatar

    Because they don’t actually care about addressing loneliness and what steps to take to help people, they just want men to be the victims and women to be blamed for it.

    Not to mention manosphere content tells people that women can’t be lonely and are just looking for attention, bs about how women will always have multiple men on the side, etc.

  2. piterisonfire Avatar

    One demographic whines loudly, ignorant of it’s own hand on it’s social fallout, screaming into a void of messaging boards built around redpilled derangement.

    The other isn’t as vocal, but knows where it stands and often turns to their own community for support.

    Two faces of the same problem, only one gets noticed.

  3. Belou99 Avatar

    Patriarchy.

    We center the wants of men over the needs of women constantly

  4. divine_pearl Avatar

    Uh what did you say care about women, we don’t do that here.

    Women are as lonely as men but instead of whining and blaming others they form support groups, we share our emotional baggage with our friends unlike men who don’t because fear of being called names for it. For taking care of ourselves women will be called all sorts of names including crazy cat lady etc.

  5. pegasuspish Avatar

    I mean, misogyny. Redpill content constantly hammering the message that women OWE men our bodies, time, and attention, and are therefore to blame for men’s unmet needs. We’re not people, we’re possessions. 

  6. ProgrammerRemote3394 Avatar

    Women are generally more open about discussing feelings, including loneliness, so their emotional struggles may seem more normalized.

  7. MythologicalRiddle Avatar

    Because the “solution” for “male loneliness” is for women to give up their independence and cater to the lonely men. We can’t put any expectations on men to help out, not helping other men and absolutely not helping lonely women, that’s like Commie Socialism or something.

  8. Trilobyte141 Avatar

    Because lonely women don’t shoot up universities.

  9. MLeek Avatar

    Because lonely women go to work, come home, pay thier bills and spay the neighbourhood feral cats.

    Lonely men shoot up schools/theatres/thier exes’ houses, are generally less productive under capitalism.

    The “male loneliness crisis” is only a crisis because they are so much more likely to engage in anti-social behaviours and be non-productive.

    Because this is the real crisis — productivity and violence — they want to return to ‘old’ solution, which was to push men to “provide” (regardless of the fact a single income household is virtually impossible) and to give an emotional support women to take out any violence on without ‘wider social harms’.

  10. TechniqueSquidward Avatar

    Sorry but this gives off “all lives matter” energy, sounds a bit like the whataboutism that is used so often by men to diminish women’s struggles no? Like how men complain so often on women’s day about the lack of attention for men’s day, yet don’t bother to garner any attention when men’s day actually comes.

    Different societal problems and solutions can co-exist. Loneliness is a problem for women as well and should be tackled as such, without needing to take away from men’s struggles

  11. failenaa Avatar

    Because 90% of people talking about male loneliness don’t actually understand what it is. They’re separate issues and one does not take away from the other. The issue with the MLE is that men are offing themselves in disproportionate numbers, and feel hugely disenfranchised — especially from other men. Male friendships are generally devoid of emotional intimacy. A man can have a lifelong best friend and not know critical details about them. And it’s easy to blame them for this, but men suffer under patriarchy too. They’re told they can’t express their feelings or it’s too “girly.” Men don’t cry. Men get shit done regardless of how they feel. And that creates this awful group of man babies who see the smallest bit of kindness and compassion as romantic interest.

    And I suppose one may bleed into the other, but women’s loneliness is generally a lot more personal. I think a lot of it comes from having difficulty making connections in adulthood, which is true for all genders. Having people you can truly connect to and open up to. I think social media plays a huge part, too. We can have all these connections where we see and support other women, but it’s generally surface level. You can talk about a problem on TikTok and get a thousand messages of support, but nobody to really talk to. That can be isolating as well. Covid changed a lot too, there are a lot less third spaces and opportunities for making friends. Less hobby groups, less just going out and talking to people. It’s really sad. But each woman’s struggle with loneliness seems to have a different source. It’s not as centralized and pinpointable as it is for men.

  12. sun_and_stars8 Avatar

     Cause we aren’t using loneliness as a justification to cause harm to other or for perpetrating mass violence events

  13. According-Exam-4737 Avatar

    Lonely men are liabilities. Lonely women arent.

  14. Mixtrix_of_delicioux Avatar

    Because our society centres men and expects women to fix their problems, even if they bring them on themselves.