It’s hard for me to learn how toxic my MIL thinks and that she really just does evil things to get a reaction out of me. I’m learning not to react but it’s so hard. She declined to come to my baby shower and me or my husband haven’t said a word to her bc if we did it would get us no where. She doesn’t know how to take any accountability and she’s just make us sound crazy. What helps you not react to toxic behavior? It’s so hard to bite my tongue but wouldn’t she win if I react and say something?
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It’s really hard to not react, but no you are absolutely crushing her when you don’t give her that high of you reacting. Your power is in not reacting. That is how you take control of the situation instead of allowing her to control you. Be happy she didn’t come to your shower. Why would you want someone there who doesn’t have your best interests at heart. I would considering going no contact.