I’m genuinely curious I heard stories of people finding their person. Check every box but they can’t seem to fully commit to them. They rather just end it than commit but continue to miss and watch them from a distant, which a weird move cause didn’t you fumbled it?
Why people scared of commitment?
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I’m genuinely curious I heard stories of people finding their person. Check every box but they can’t seem to fully commit to them. They rather just end it than commit but continue to miss and watch them from a distant, which a weird move cause didn’t you fumbled it?
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I think some people are just scared of eventual rejection. Full commitment means full vulnerability in a relationship
Some people are cowards.
Most people aren’t.
Lemme guess, this is about someone specific isn’t it?
Some are “scared of commitment”.
But most just don’t see it the same way women do; that’s not fear. A lot of women hold commitment as a goal in itself, and it’s mostly because it’s something that in general men control to a greater degree than women control.
But commitment isn’t a goal. It’s a side-effect of a long term deep relationship.
If you expect commitment as a goal, it’s because you’re already expecting the base of the relationship to be entirely on your terms rather than a communal act.
People aren’t afraid of commitment per se. They have deep reservations of uncertainty that may lead into chaos and disruption, if not destruction. Nobody wants to lose their sense of inner peace. We live in time in life where the exchange of information/data gives us access to knowledge allowing us to better pick and choose what in life we wish to engage in. Inner peace has to be protected.
Im not interested in marriage. Everything else I’m cool with.im not religious, I dont see why the state has to regulate my relationship. It turns breakups into expensive sometimes years long ordeals… pass
Some people don’t want to be tied down especially to a person who thinks some mythical checkbox entitles them to commitment. Just go for people who know what they want not someone who doesn’t want to be tied down and you won’t have this problem.