Single man in his 20’s wants a family eventually. Parents in their 60’s, healthy but won’t be forever. Great relationship with them, no drama that amounts to any conflict. All I see are pros of us helping each other and spending time together, I’ve gotta be missing something.
Why shouldn’t I buy a house 3 down from my parents?
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If you get along great with your parents and they can respect your boundaries, I don’t see a reason why you shouldn’t. I get along great with my parents, but they don’t always respect boundaries (I’m pushing 40 but they still want to treat me like a kid), so it made more sense for me to move away.
You better hope any future partner you bring home gets along with them. That’s the only potential downside I can see. If your girlfriend/wife isn’t chummy with your folks, they may not love the arrangement.
It’s your life, why look for cons if you don’t see any?
I guess if you need reasons not to do it, could be awkward if you start dating someone and she doesn’t get along with your parents or if they don’t respect your boundaries (ie: randomly coming over unannounced, doing things around the house without asking you, etc)
If you have kids one day it would presumably make getting a babysitter easy.
Honestly the only real reason not to would be 1 it’s unaffordable, probably not a problem for you or 2 you don’t want to. If it works for you and your relationship and it’s what you want to do then do it. It’s your life.
The only issue I could see, and have seen it happen with people who did this, is when you’re in your own relationship and your parents are constantly butting into your relationship.
It’s generally in the form of an overbearing mother who basically treats your house as her own, treats you like you’re still a kid and basically steamrolls over your SO. It can cause issues in your relationship, especially if your SO feels like she’s a 3rd class citizen in your relationship. Kind of like how some guys who get involved with a single mother feel.
A big one is boundaries, especially with relationships. Put another way – taking a girl to meet your folks is usually a really important step. Unless your parents are pretty conscientious about maintaining boundaries, your partner is going to meet your parents very early on.
Is this a bad thing? Not necessarily. But, uh, there’s a reason why jokes about the inlaws are really common.
You can buy a house wherever you want to
If you do this, don’t give your parents keys to the house because they’re gonna just barge in when you got a girl over and it will be awkward as fuck.
I don’t understand, are you living with them at the moment or are you living outside (like far from town) and want to get closer to them?
I would have loved that proximity and I don’t even get along all that great with my parents (but my kids do and that matters more)
Its actually a really good idea if you have a good relationship with them and are planning on having children.
We live next to my wife’s parents on a big property and my son is soon going to build next to us. Then it will be four generations of us.
Why not. I wish I lived closer.
You should. Make everything easier. You can share everything
My friends brother bought his house directly across the street from his parents. It does have its benefits. Especially if you maintain good relationships with all of your neighbors. Keeps the family close and strong plus his mom is close by if he needs a night off. But yeah boundaries are huge.
I grew up next door to my grandparents.
Having observed my mom’s life next to her parents, almost every time she left the house, she would either call or stop to see if they needed anything. The overall meaning of that was that someone always knew where she was, what she was doing and when she would be back home.
There’s a loss of autonomy that comes from that but it didn’t seem to bother her.
It all depends on your parents. Are they the budding in kind or keep to themselves kind?
My mum used to live on the same road as my sister then moved to be on the same road as my other sister. It works wonderfully as it is still a phone call to check if it’s okay to come over rather than just turn up. (Good boundaries are established) However, as the only son I live 2 hrs away.
We live 2 minutes from my mom and 4 minutes from my wife’s parents. It’s been so convenient for us, especially as their health has gotten worse and they’ve gotten older. Any time one of them needs something, we can be there in a few minutes.
A future wife isn’t as thrilled with your parents as you are. It’s a massive downside, marriage-ending downside. No matter what nice-nice noises she will make about it, it’s going to be a problem. This is true no matter how nice she is or how nice the parents are. You need a bit more seperation than a two minure walk.
But…you’re not going to listen. Good luck.