After 6 years of relationship, after we (I) clearly had issues, after he knows I had separation anxiety and after me clearly verbalising how hard it’ll be on me for him to move. I want to ask this to him badly, curse him and shout at him for abandoning me here for nothing. He just was intrigued with the life abroad since we were kids.
But somehow he put that on me, he told me his moving was necessary for me to focus on my career, I told him to move within the country but he’d say he won’t be able to control himself if he lived few kilometres away, moving countries could only keep me focused. I try to understand this rationale but I fail again and again.
It hurts that he chose to move thousands of miles away from someone who truly loved him, I simply don’t get it. There were no real plans, no scholarships no job there but he chose it over me??
We’re broken up now mostly because I saw how for granted he took me over last 2 years, which he honestly tried to amend but I can’t seem to forget the pain of abandonment and lack of acknowledgment when needed.
He is a nice guy, but if someone has watched ‘kevin can f himself’ he left me feeling unseen and unheard. Everyone asks me to rethink my decision but I keep asking myself why would he leave you and keep the anger up so that I don’t relapse and go back.
I don’t know this took a lot of courage to do and even more to not go back.
Td;lr : bf moved abroad with no plan after 6 years of serious relationship (high school sweethearts) claiming that it’s for me to focus on my future but I had abandonment issues, eventually we broke up but it still hurts me that he chose to move on leaving me miserable.