Hi, it’s summer break for me right now, and for reasons I still don’t understand, my mom refuses to cook during the holidays. We’re a ‘raw ingredients only’ household, and while I technically know how to cook, I’m not at a point where I can whip things up completely from scratch, so most times, I just end up skipping meals.
Lately, we’ve had basically nothing to eat in the house. I’ve been trying to figure out alternatives, but it’s been several days, and I’m honestly starving. I even reached out to my dad for help, he doesn’t live with us, but he ordered some food a little while ago. That’s all gone now.
I tried talking to my mom about it, while upset and hungry, and she didn’t even look at me. She just said, ‘Since it’s summer break, you guys can make your meals.’ And to be clear, I’m not asking her to prepare three meals a day. I’d be fine if she cooked one dish and kept it in the fridge for the week. But right now, she’s not doing anything, and it feels like we’re just scraping up every bit of easy-ish food to cook up. Honestly, I want to complain to my dad about it as well but I was told that it’s unfair to complain to him when she isnt necessarily doing anything wrong, especially since shes been in a bit of a mental health dip due to family issues and probably doesnt have to energy to cook for us.
My dad really prioritizes us eating well, so I feel like he might be upset with my mom if he knew what’s been going on. I’m aware of that, but honestly, I don’t know how much longer I can manage like this. The only things left in the house are cooking oil and vegetables like eggplant, which in my opinion, aren’t exactly simple to work with.
My cooking skills are pretty basic; I usually just pan-fry things and add simple seasoning when needed. That works when I have decent ingredients, but with what we have now, I can’t make anything substantial.
WIBTA if i complained to my dad about my mom not cooking when I know he might get mad at her while shes going through a bit of a mental dip?
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Hi, it’s summer break for me right now, and for reasons I still don’t understand, my mom refuses to cook during the holidays. We’re a ‘raw ingredients only’ household, and while I technically know how to cook, I’m not at a point where I can whip things up completely from scratch, so most times, I just end up skipping meals.
Lately, we’ve had basically nothing to eat in the house. I’ve been trying to figure out alternatives, but it’s been several days, and I’m honestly starving. I even reached out to my dad for help, he doesn’t live with us, but he ordered some food a little while ago. That’s all gone now.
I tried talking to my mom about it, while upset and hungry, and she didn’t even look at me. She just said, ‘Since it’s summer break, you guys can make your meals.’ And to be clear, I’m not asking her to prepare three meals a day. I’d be fine if she cooked one dish and kept it in the fridge for the week. But right now, she’s not doing anything, and it feels like we’re just scraping up every bit of easy-ish food to cook up. Honestly, I want to complain to my dad about it as well but I was told that it’s unfair to complain to him when she isnt necessarily doing anything wrong, especially since shes been in a bit of a mental health dip due to family issues and probably doesnt have to energy to cook for us.
My dad really prioritizes us eating well, so I feel like he might be upset with my mom if he knew what’s been going on. I’m aware of that, but honestly, I don’t know how much longer I can manage like this. The only things left in the house are cooking oil and vegetables like eggplant, which in my opinion, aren’t exactly simple to work with.
My cooking skills are pretty basic; I usually just pan-fry things and add simple seasoning when needed. That works when I have decent ingredients, but with what we have now, I can’t make anything substantial.
WIBTA if i complained to my dad about my mom not cooking when I know he might get mad at her while shes going through a bit of a mental dip?
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Not sure how old you are, which could make a lil difference. Talk to your mom, but sounds like she wants a break and expects you to pick up the slack. Have a convo, look up some recipes, and work on those cooking skills if you wanna eat well.
Do you have hands?
OP I need more info, how old are you?
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Honestly OP, NAH. I don’t think your mom is being unreasonable. You have some basic skills and are old enough to learn to cook more in depth.
Watch some YouTube videos, read some blogs, find some recipes, ask you mom to get the ingredients you need, and take your shot. Maybe even ask her to help you. It could be a good bonding experience to grow your independence.
You don’t say how old you are, which would probably influence my judgment.
In my opinion you’re going about this the wrong way. Ask you mom to cook with you and teach you how to make things. If she still won’t and tells you to “just figure it out” get your dad involved. Again, I have no idea how old you are, but her letting you go hungry is not cool.
By the way, you can sauté eggplant and vegetables with some seasoning in a pan. Chop up the eggplant first and put it in a colander with some salt so it sweats out some of its water. Then sauté.
INFO: how old are you?
2nd Info: when you talk about there being no “proper” ingredients, what do you mean? Do you just mean things you know how to prepare or are we talking pantry stables like pasta, potatoes, bread, etc not being there?
INFO: Is there a reason that you do not cook for yourself and, maybe, mom too?
If you are disabled then NTA. If you are able bodied and just unwilling to step up, YTA.
ESH ? not sure not enough info , age and sexe not mentionned, weird story, so i will add because i have people who said to me sex is irrelevant, i asked becuse i met young men irl and on the internet , who refuse to cook because they think it’s a woman job, and some women don’t want to cook too, for my part i think that’s it’s an important skill to have, not to make elaborate diner but to nourish yourself, as they say cooking is a survival skill , hahah i realise it’s not young men, some old men too,
so the situation seem a lot more complicated as the mother seems to have problem and not able to cook, the lack of ingredient is concerning but 15 seems young but it’s a ggod age too start to learn cooking not elaborate plate but simple, first is to buy ingredients and watch some vidéo , and don’t forget your security,
If you’re more than about 12 years old, YTA.
That sounds like manipulation I going throught a different but similar situation would go talk to my dad and tell him while it sounds like your mom’s trying to emotionally manipulat u by saying don’t tell your dad just think is your nesity to have food more worth than your relationship with your mom and it is
It’s better to not go anorexic and have a good relationship then be at a healthy stance and a bad relation ship overall I would tell your dad
You are not the ass whole your mom is
If you have money, just go to the market and buy some frozen dinners or a pizza. It is not rocket science to cook. If you have no money, get a little job.
YTA
It sounds like you’re old enough to make your own meals. You even acknowledge that she is dealing with family issues and doesn’t have the energy to cook. There are plenty of recipes and cooking tutorials online. Feed yourself. If it’s a matter of ingredients, talk to your mom about how to best get the ingredients you need (you go grocery shopping together, she gives you money to do the grocery shopping, etc) but don’t expect her to magically stock the kitchen for you.
Your story flips between no food in the house to my mother won’t cook. What is the real story here?
If there is food and you are a teenager, who obviously uses the Internet, you can cook. No excuses. She is not your maid.
If there’s raw ingredients in the house then YTA. You can post on Reddit but can’t Google how to cook pasta or whatever? You have a billion easy recipes at your fingertips.
Dear lord. Cook the food. Look at a cookbook. Consult the internet. Everyone has to learn at some point, this is that point for you. The food is right there. Cook it.
YTA, jesus.
YTA. By 14 one of my chores was cooking the family dinner a few nights per week. It wouldn’t hurt you to help your mom out a bit and you need to learn to cook
I don’t think it matters how old you are, as you said you know how to saute. My child started cooking at 8 or 9 for fun. What seriously concerns me is the lack of ingredients in your household. For that, yes you need to talk to your dad. If she’s unwilling to actually grocery shop and provide the ingredients to sustain you, that is neglect and grounds for CPS to come in and take a look. If you want to avoid that mess, I highly suggest you talk to your dad.
If you’re old enough to type all of this out like this, you’re probably old enough to learn some new cooking skills.
r/cookingforbeginners might help you out.
You admit that your mom is having problems and dealing with a lot of issues so try to give her some grace and step up to help her out. Maybe offer to make a deal with her that if you guys can stock things like rice or pasta along with veggies, you’d be willing to learn cooking a few more things until she’s in a better mental place again. Aside from helping her right now, it’ll help you out in life in the long run.
No judgment because you seem young and don’t seem to be demanding that she hop up and make your packet of ramen for you or anything super entitled like that.
Can you take a photo of your fridge and pantry and post it here? Or list all the ingredients you guys have on hand right now? Odds are you have more than just oil and eggplant.
You said your mom isn’t cooking, but you didn’t say she’s not grocery shopping. So I’m willing to bet that you actually have a lot of foods on hand that are available to cook, you just either don’t know how or don’t want to put in the effort to cook them.
Since you’re on summer break, and don’t mention having a job or summer tutoring or anything, I’m very certain you can take some time to learn some cooking basics. Gordon Ramsay has a very in depth intro cooking course on youtube, and you can easily find a lot more stuff online.
With the info you’ve given us, YTA.
INFO: How old are you?
When you say there are no ingredients, do you mean nothing at all? Or just no ingredients you know how to cook?
There are countless easy to make recipes on line. There are even sites where you can put in the ingredients you have and it will give you a recipe (avoid AI!! AI recipes are crap at best and deadly at worst).
OP, how old are you? If you’re a teen you’ve heard of YouTube. You can learn VERY easy dishes in no time. If you’re able bodied and have the time (summer break!), then you can cook for yourself AND your mother.
I reserve judgment since more info is needed.
YTA. You say your mom’s having mental health issues so your solution is to whine to your dad rather than stepping up to help.
If you can write a complete novel of why your mother should be your household servant then you can cook. Doesn’t have to be complicated. In fact, I bet whatever device you’re using to post your tale of woe includes plenty of places with instructions and even videos on how to cook various things. Search for recipes using the ingredients on hand. It’s easy.
YTA, of course
If you can hold a phone / device and create a post here, you can boil water and pasta if nothing else. Or fix a sandwich: you know, two slices of bread and stuff between them.
Like others have said, impossible to judge without knowing your age. Up to a point it’s a parent’s job to make sure their children are properly fed, and if they’re not up to cooking from scratch they need to make sure easy oven meals are available.
Of course, what you’ll find on this sub is wildly different views on what age it is appropriate to expect a child to cook for themselves, and I find people’s views on that seem to be pretty entrenched based on their own childhood.
It is actually a kindness to your mom and to anyone, to have them experience consequences to their actions, especially when it’s due to a health problem.
Consequences are the only thing that will get her to seek treatment/access care.
Just because she doesn’t want to cook doesn’t mean she doesn’t have to supply groceries for underage children. Go to a grocery website that delivers. Put in your order and have your mother or father provide a credit card. They may want you to eat healthy but if you don’t know how to cook you will have to rely on more processed or prepared meals. You can watch some YouTube videos on how to prepare meals. Make an ingredients list for shopping. Parents are legally responsible for providing food for you. You could threaten to call child protective services if they don’t provide any food to you.
When you say no food in the house, do you mean no pasta or noodles or bread or anything? Do you have any sources of protein? Like lentils or meat or cheese or beans? Also who else is living in the house with you and your mother?
Do you have enough internet to be able to watch videos about simple cooking methods?
You need to provide more detail about yourself like your age and if either of your parents has ever taught you anything about cooking.
INFO:
Exactly what is your complaint? That your mother isn’t cooking? Or that there is no food in the house?
How old are you?
More info needed…..How old are you? Is there no food in the house? Is mom not doing any grocery shopping? Does mom work during the day?
if you’re having a hard time figuring out what to cook, type out all of the ingredients you have in your notes app (so you have it saved and don’t have to make up a list each time you do this), copy and paste it into chatgbt and tell it to give you meal ideas and recipes. then you can find recipes for those meals. you can even ask chatgbt for beginner recipes for u to practice your cooking.
No idea how old you are but she’s not your servant. Learn how to cook. Make a sandwich. You have many options other than whining about mom not cooking.
Need more info. Is there no food in the house or is there just a bunch of raw ingredients that you then have to turn into a dish?
Watch YouTube and learn how to cook.
Looks like you’re in high-school. I used to cook for my entire family back then (i also enjoyed cooking though).
If you can do the basics, I think you can cook for yourself. You likely just need a little inspiration so I’d recommend just using Google to get some meal recommendations based on the items you have at home. I think they have apps for this too where you write everything you have, and it’ll output a bunch of recipes with steps!
Also sorry your family is shifty. Hopefully you can get out of it all soon!
Like everyone else, I need to know how old you are before judging. You certainly sound old enough to feed yourself, but that’s really hard to do if there’s no food there. I’m assuming that you’re not old enough to buy your own things.???
NTA if mom doesn’t grocery shop. Make a list every week and give it to mom & dad. Maybe ask dad to just deliver the same list every week. Yep its a weekly thing
Once you’ve got ingredients YTA if you don’t cook once a week. I do not know how old you are but my kids did 1 meal a week at 10. My grandson does all his breakfast & lunch at 11, my granddaughter does her breakfast & snacks at 8 (they currently live with me). I’d do it but they like exploring their own tastes. They could eat the previous night’s leftovers but that normally winds up going to the chickens. I think you might be over 10 so its time to learn a few simple things. BTW we do not buy processed foods and I’m vegetarian, so maybe my kids were / my grandkids are talented. But you can learn. Step up to the challenge
ESH
If you are old enough to make an articulate post on reddit, then you can read and execute simple recipes.
If mom is having MH issues, then she needs to address them so that she can contribute to a functioning household, as all of you should do. Dad going after her re meals isn’t going to fix the problem.
This is a whole-family problem, so it requires a whole-family solution. Work with your parents, don’t pit one against the other.
This is actually a really good way to utilise AI.
Put the list of food in the fridge into ChatGPT, say you are a beginner and ask if for 5 simple meals you can make!
If you’re old enough to be using Reddit, you are certainly old enough to cook simple meals for yourself.
There are thousands of cooking channels on YouTube, many/most providing super easy to follow recipes. Have a look, talk to your mum about teaching you specific dishes that she makes but there is a huge amount you can easily learn by yourself.
Not enough I do here
NTA, but how old are you? If you are over 12 you should be able to make a few things.
Ask mom to buy raw ingredients that are easy to prepare – eggs, pasta, rice, oatmeal, tuna, potatoes, bread. Learn some recipes. It’s a great opportunity to learn how to support yourself and you might learn to like it.
Info: has anyone taught you to cook? Personally I find it a bit weird but I enjoy cooking for my family. If your mom is burnt out and doesn’t want to cook 3 meals a day for a teenager I do get that. But someone has to teach you before expecting you to do it.
Based on what you say, I’m going with NTA because you are not complaining about her not cooking, but the lack of anything available to cook with. I’m a good cook but there isn’t much I can do with cooking oil and eggplant that makes a filling meal. Try talking with your mom one more time about the need for ingredients to be available – which is totally separate from expecting her to cook for you. If that fails – pull in your dad. It is not reasonable to expect you to not eat because she is on break.
When do you get the casts off?
INFO. If your dad prioritizes y’all eating healthy then why don’t you stay with him and he can cook for you? Or why doesn’t he meal prep weekly and send food? Or why don’t you learn to cook.
So many options besides your mom being the only one responsible for cooking.
Learn to cook – it can be your summer project.
Based on comments I’m reading, you just turned 15 so old enough to take matters into your own hand with the help of your sibling(s) (you don’t mention how many you have and how old).
Fist step, meal plan. You can go on any platform or even ask ChatGPT to whip you a simple meal plan for a week or two. Make sure to mention you’re a beginner cook and need simple recipes with clear instructions and include what you do have at home (oils, condiments, etc). It could literally be as simple as burgers and a side salad, shepherds pie (the first recipe I ever learned when I was 13), spaghetti and meat balls, tacos, etc.
Step 2, you tell your mom that you’ve looked through the fridge and pantry and there’s not much to cook with so you’re happy to whip up a meal plan and go grocery shopping as long as she gives you the money (if not responsive, there’s clearly a huge problem with your mom and you need to involve your dad, he might give you the money for the groceries). If you can’t get to the grocery store (mom is unwilling to come with you or drive you), you can always look up which grocery store delivers to your area and order online for same day delivery. Or get a trusted adult to drive you over.
Step 3, learn how to cook through online recipes or social media videos. You can make full meals with minimal ingredients and simple instructions. You could get frozen burger patties and buns and just pan cook your patties. Whip up a side salad and here you go, full meal right there. Tacos are like the easiest thing too. You get ground beef, cook it in a pan with taco spices (you can find pre-mixed ones at the grocery store) and buy the shells and you just shred some lettuce, grate some cheese, cute a few tomatoes up and voila, full meal in 30 min or less.
I’m not saying that you’re mother is in her right mind here and I find it weird that your dad is not more involved in what’s going on but sometimes kids find themselves in situations where they just need to step up and make it work. I hope I gave you enough info to get you started.
Not knowing how to cook is one thing, especially once you’re older. I don’t know your age but if you’re over 12 you need to learn how to make simple things for example: grilled cheese, hamburgers, pasta, etc.
But from what you’re describing, it sounds like there might not be much food in the house to cook in the first place. That’s a bigger problem.
Even with basic ingredients like flour, pasta, or potatoes, you can make simple things like pancakes or pasta dishes. But if there really isn’t enough food around, that’s something that needs to be addressed.
If your mom isn’t listening, I’d suggest talking to your dad about it. Hopefully, he can help make sure there’s enough food in the house.
When my son was 14 / 15 I was in a serious mental health crisis. He could have easily gone to his dad, but he preferred staying with me mostly (officially 50:50, but the situation at his father’s was often kinda exhausting for him), and when I had a really bad phase, he started cooking. Asked me, tried stuff out, consulted YouTube. And he didn’t just cook for him, he cooked for both of us. Later we made the deal that when one was cooking, the other would do the dishes. It was often stuff from the freezer, or easy meals, but I wasn’t really able to do elaborate meals even on good days either.
YTA you’ve known for MONTHS according to your post history that your mum has mental health issues and you have a twin who is more than capable as are you to cook a meal, your 15 not 5, if you spent half the time you were asking about getting insta followers on a school account into looking at you tube then you’d be able to learn something quick and easy. Your mum is not your personal chef.
Sandwiches, ramens, hot pockets. The choices are endless. Get some money from Dad and go grocery shopping. I worked 12 hr shifts so my kids learned early how to fix meals. Surely your mom has cookbooks, read them. As long as your mom or dad is providing money for groceries your set, if they are not that’s neglect and abuse chickie and needs addressed by the authorities.
Need to know hold how you are but being someone who grew up with parents that worked full-time we do sometimes have to fend for ourselves. Use the Internet and AI for help!
YTA. There’s tons of cooking tiktoks or YouTube videos if you aren’t sure about something. Why can’t you throw together some pasta, a protein like chicken and make a simple sauce/some veg to go with it? Easiest dinner in the world!
YTA.
You are 15, have access to the internet and time to learn how to cook.
By your age my kids were doing the baking, cookies, cupcakes, brownies, pizza dough and more.
They could cook several different dinners, spaghetti, pizza, meatloaf, various pastas/sauces, make noodles from scratch if needed, risotto, various chicken recipes, a huge variety of vegetables.
Get off your lazy backside and help your Mum.
Time you made the effort to learn how to cook proper meals. You may be coming aware that being able to cook is a basic survival skill and you can be proud of yourself for taking a step towards adulthood. Talk to your dad about the lack of supplies, but be compassionate to your mum. She may need and appreciate your efforts.
OP should have mentioned in the post that s/he is 15 and not able to buy groceries. It’s the lack of groceries that makes it impossible to prepare meals.
Therefore NTA and its neglect to not provide food for your kids, even when depressed and the kids shouldn’t be with the mom atm.
ESH if you know how to post on Reddit you can go online and figure out simple recipes and cook for yourself. Mom shouldn’t completely abandon all cooking to you either.
I think you should talk to your dad. as a child, you need to be in a safe environment. if your mum’s mental health is so bad that she doesnt have the energy to make the occasional meal, she needs more help. also you should probably be staying with your dad while until her MH improves.
for now, what do you have at home? if you give me a list of ingredients, I can suggest some very basic recipes.
but do call your dad immediately. its not snitching on your mum, you will actually be helping her by telling your dad
If you’re old enough to post to Reddit you’re old enough to cook a meal. Close Reddit and Google some basic recipes.
I applaud you for recognizing that your mother is in a “mental dip”. Please give her some grace and extra love until she is back to her norm… I would say this is a good time to deviate from “raw ingredients only”. Is that something you strictly adhere to, by choice?
You can go grocery shopping with a list and try to whip up some simple meals? Or even frozen pizza/meals… I don’t think this is an AH problem. You are hungry, you’re still technically a child and need some direction to better fend for yourself.
Who grocery shops? Your mom? Hand her a list of what you want. Deli meat and sandwich stuff? Is she broke? Just doesn’t care about food?
They are 15 years old. Yes they can cook simple things but no I don’t expect a teenager to know how to go grocery shopping let alone have money at disposal in a common area where they can grab and go… like wtf is wrong with people. Grown ass adults can’t grocery shop efficiently or have a car or again MONEY. Make a list and ask her for $100 bucks and they keys lol
She needs help tho. But the children can’t be neglected there should still be ingredient in the fridge and freezer for them. I’m sorry your mom is down rn.
NTA. OP, please add your age to your post so the people commenting stop being asshats.
My son is 15, and he can do ramen, cereal, toast etc. But from your description, you have NONE OF THAT in the house. Which makes everyone else the AH.
I respect that you understand your mom is having mental health issues and you are not casting blame. Communication is important for sure, but if your mom is in a low cycle she may not talk through this and the reality is that it is ok to talk to your dad and get help. There is no reason for you to go hungry if dad can help.
Good luck!
If you don’t like the ingredients, go buy what you like. If you don’t have any money–we don’t know how old you are–ask your mother for money and do the grocery shopping for the house.
There’s no need to be a tattletale. You’re on summer break. Cook for yourself.
Eggplant doesn’t have to be a project. Rinse it, use a fork to poke some holes in it, and put it in a 400 degree oven until it collapses. If you can grill it outside, even better. Then you season it how you like and eat it as is, or have it with pasta or rice or on a roll or whatever.
To everyone saying he he or she should just be cooking their own meals it doesn’t sound like the mother or dad have taught them how to cook. Yes they can go online and find recipes but it does help if somebody teaches you tje basics at least. Teaching your children how to make food is part of a parent’s job. My parents did not teach me how to cook and it took years as an adult paying for my own food to get that skill.
So tell us a little more about what you have stocked in the pantry and refrigerator to make? Commenters are saying you’re old enough to cook but you say you don’t have sufficient ingredients. What do you have? Can she give you money to get anything fresh?
NTA. And I’m going to take a different tangent here. It sounds like you are a minor, and as such, your mother is obligated to take care of you. And that means feeding you! If there truly isn’t any food in the house, then your dad needs to know about it. If there just isn’t any food that you like, well that’s another story (although I still think your mom should have food there for you. Does your mom work, or is she at home all day? That plans into this as well. If she is home and just ignoring her duties, that is child abuse. Take pics of what is in the house for you to eat, and send it to your dad. That would be my first step.
Instead of just making a meal yourself you just don’t eat? Yta. You’re old enough to learn how to make even basic meals for yourself. Your mom shouldn’t be cooking every meal for you unless you’re too little. Smh
NTA if your mother is not providing any food for you and there is literally nothing to eat in your home. Can you go live with your dad for the summer? Can you tell your mother you will gladly cook for yourself but she needs to provide groceries, or give you the means to order?
I am shocked at all of the negative votes you’re getting here. One of the absolute bare minimum expectation of a parent is to feed their kids. I have a 15yo and a 12yo and if I know there’s a day where I’ll be too busy to cook, I plan ahead and make a meal that reheats well or have sandwich ingredients or other foods that my kids know how to cook. I’ve also taught my kids how to cook a few basic things, which it doesn’t sound like your parents have done. For that reason, NTA. I’d talk to your dad about getting some simple foods you’re comfortable making along with asking for some basic cooking instruction since you seem quite fearful of it. My daughter used to be afraid of our stove, but now she loves to cook and bake and whips up full meals regularly. You can do it!
Sounds like it’s time to learn how to cook from scratch.
Cuz yo mamma ain’t yo maid, and you got two hands, have internet, and know how to read? You got this.
Ywbta- you for being 3 years from being an adult and refusing to learn something you can find on YouTube.
Are you under 12…go get some relatives to intervene, under 14…tell mom to teach you how to really cook from scratch, it’s definitely high time for it, anything above 16…Google is your friend, stop being lazy. Eighteen and above…you’re kidding, right? 🤔
Your dad really prioritizes you eating well? Then why don’t I see any mention of even the possibility of his getting in kitchen and cooking?
How old are you? I’ve been cooking simple meals since I was 10.
Point being, the responsibility of cooking shouldn’t all be on your mom.
When I was your age, my mom worked a 2nd shift job and I was in charge of making dinner a few nights a week. Cooking is easy, especially the more you do it. You Also have access to the internet with endless recipes and cooking information. So if you have raw ingredients to work with, you can make yourself food. If your mom isn’t keeping the house stocked with food so that’s a whole other issue. Without more information, ESH
“She isn’t really doing smyrhing wrong.”
Incorrect. She is not feeding her children or providing them food they can reasonably prepare themselves. That’s called child neglect where i come from. Tell your dad and ask to move in with him. You don’t deserve to be somewhere that you’re not being cared for.