So, the title kind of says it all. I’ve got this cousin, he’s pretty different from me, especially in how he talks and acts. I have a girlfriend, and even when I don’t, I’ve never talked about women the way he does. He’s always going on about intercourse, butts, and how he “could’ve had a chance” with someone.
Just earlier, we were in line and he started talking to two girls. He was kind of rude at first, then started this awkward back-and-forth. They mentioned their friend was single, but it didn’t even register with him. Now he’s complaining, saying stuff like “They were into me” and “I coulda hit that.”
Literally last night, he was talking to a friend who’s moving soon. He said, “I’ll miss you, I’m sad now.” Then today, he admits he just wanted to sleep with her.
Now he’s hyped about this 4th of July beach party—only to meet girls and “get butt.” I told him I don’t want to go, because I don’t. I’m not trying to be his wingman, especially when most of those girls are taller than me anyway. Now he’s calling his friends, saying I’m selling and that he can’t go without me. Claims other friends would’ve “had that locked.” (We’re on a family vacation with our moms who planned for us all to see the fireworks together anyway, so its even more messed up. Not to mention, we’re black in a VERY white area and I dont want him getting misjudged for his foolish flirting)
TL;DR:
My cousin’s practically obsessed with chasing women and sex, and now he’s mad I won’t be his wingman at a party.
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So, the title kind of says it all. I’ve got this cousin, he’s pretty different from me, especially in how he talks and acts. I have a girlfriend, and even when I don’t, I’ve never talked about women the way he does. He’s always going on about intercourse, butts, and how he “could’ve had a chance” with someone.
Just earlier, we were in line and he started talking to two girls. He was kind of rude at first, then started this awkward back-and-forth. They mentioned their friend was single, but it didn’t even register with him. Now he’s complaining, saying stuff like “They were into me” and “I coulda hit that.”
Literally last night, he was talking to a friend who’s moving soon. He said, “I’ll miss you, I’m sad now.” Then today, he admits he just wanted to sleep with her.
Now he’s hyped about this 4th of July beach party—only to meet girls and “get butt.” I told him I don’t want to go, because I don’t. I’m not trying to be his wingman, especially when most of those girls are taller than me anyway. Now he’s calling his friends, saying I’m selling and that he can’t go without me. Claims other friends would’ve “had that locked.” (We’re on a family vacation with our moms who planned for us all to see the fireworks together anyway, so its even more messed up. Not to mention, we’re black in a VERY white area and I dont want him getting misjudged for his foolish flirting)
TL;DR:
My cousin’s practically obsessed with chasing women and sex, and now he’s mad I won’t be his wingman at a party.
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> Well he wants me to go to a party, and im constantly declining. He feels insulted or abandoned and is practically calling me the asshole.
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Your cousin is an asshole. You are not.
Follow your own moral compass, not his.
NTA. Your cousin sounds exhausting. You’re not obligated to be his wingman, especially with those motives.
So you guys are like 14 right?
NTA
Don’t engage with your cousin’s disgusting behavior. Don’t go to something you don’t want to attend. Go see some fireworks and enjoy your vacation.
Cousin probably talks a good game but gets none😂
NTA-Your cousin is definitely getting slapped in the foreseeable future
>I’m not trying to be his wingman, especially because most of those girls are taller than me anyway.
Um, what?
Too bad you hang out with this shitty, misogynistic asshole. That little incel has never had sex, but has to brag about it? No, he hasn’t. You should go NC.
NTA that’s a lot of writing for saying your cousin is a virgin and desperate to not be anymore
INFO
> Now he’s calling his friends, saying I’m selling and that he can’t go without me.
Selling? Selling what?
ew. NTA
He needs to get serious
NTA, just avoid this person altogether
NTA. Don’t give in to his pressure or act like an AH pickup artist. You understand to treat women as human beings instead of sex objects, and it will always do you better for actual relationships.
Height or your own attractiveness to girls really isn’t a relevant factor? So maybe don’t mention that, it really weakens your point.