It was my birthday a few weeks ago and my friend Luke bought me a car as a birthday present because I didn’t have one. It’s nothing fancy but I’m beyond grateful to him because having a car has made my life so much easier.
Unfortunately, my boyfriend isn’t happy that Luke gave me such an expensive gift. He said it’s inappropriate for another man to buy me a car so he wants me to return it. Most of our friends are on his side and agree it’s weird for Luke to have bought me the car. I’ve known Luke my whole life and he’s practically family so I don’t see it the same way as them. None of my family find it weird and my brother told me that Luke said I should sell the car if I didn’t want it but he wouldn’t take it back.
I keep fighting with my boyfriend over the car and he refuses to even sit in it now but I really don’t think I should return it as I know Luke and he’ll just be offended.
WIBTA if I don’t return it?
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It was my birthday a few weeks ago and my friend Luke bought me a car as a birthday present because I didn’t have one. It’s nothing fancy but I’m beyond grateful to him because having a car has made my life so much easier.
Unfortunately, my boyfriend isn’t happy that Luke gave me such an expensive gift. He said it’s inappropriate for another man to buy me a car so he wants me to return it. Most of our friends are on his side and agree it’s weird for Luke to have bought me the car. I’ve known Luke my whole life and he’s practically family so I don’t see it the same way as them. None of my family find it weird and my brother told me that Luke said I should sell the car if I didn’t want it but he wouldn’t take it back.
I keep fighting with my boyfriend over the car and he refuses to even sit in it now but I really don’t think I should return it as I know Luke and he’ll just be offended.
WIBTA if I don’t return it?
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> 1. I’m refusing to return the car my friend bought me as a birthday present. 2. My boyfriend has asked me to return the car as he’s uncomfortable that my friend would buy me such an expensive gift but I’m refusing to even though I know it’s making him upset and we’ve had multiple fights over it already.
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Did you ever at any point have a sexual relationship with Luke? Or been aware that Luke has a giant crush on you?
If the answer is yes to either question, YTA
If the answer is no, then keep the car and tell your boyfriend to quit his bitching.
If you and Luke have always been platonic, then no, you wouldn’t be. Tell your boyfriend to buy you a more expensive car first, and then you’ll consider selling it if he’s going to be such a whiny baby over it. However, if you and Luke were more than friends at some point, then YTA.
YWNBTA. Surely your boyfriend also benefits from your having a car, and who cares what everyone else thinks about it? Your boyfriend needs to lose his toxic masculinity mentality.
Depends, have you fucked Luke/ has he ever wanted to fuck you?
Excuse me? Be grateful for the blessing and carry on.
NTA
Keep the car girl. Dump the guy if hes got a problem. People can be friends and that is a definite benefit.
Do not return the car. It’s yours. NTA.
It’s certainly unusual and potentially a red flag, but if you legitimately need a car then returning it isn’t an option.
Red flag alert. Your boyfriend sounds controlling. He can find it odd, he can be puzzled – yes. But to tell you that you should return it – no.
NTA, but I would be heavily questioning why Luke got you something so expensive, no matter if it’s fancy or not. A car is a car.
That’s a high-level gift that I would only give my fiancé/immediate family.
Dump the man, keep the car, a man that doesn’t want tosee you succeed or living easier isn’t t a man worth keeping. Nta
Shoooot girl , keep the car and return the bf to the sender ( his momma ) 🤣🤣🤣
NTA
Your boyfriend sounds insecure and jealous keep the car dump the boyfriend and that’s the boyfriend changes
INFO: Is Luke an ex-boyfriend or lover?