For context I 20F dont live with my parents or siblings but I occasionally will help my sister and brother by driving them places because I have a car and they don’t. I helped my sister by driving her to a doctors appointment today because my mom had asked me to but now my mom is asking me to drive my brothers girlfriend to work tomorrow. I don’t really know her and I don’t think they’ve been together long. The first time I met her she was short with me and clung to my brother the entire time. If my brother needed a ride I’d give to him but I’m hesitant on giving a ride to someone I barely know and I also don’t want to be relied on to help constantly.
So WIBTA if I told my mom no to taking my brothers girlfriend to work?
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For context I 20F dont live with my parents or siblings but I occasionally will help my sister and brother by driving them places because I have a car and they don’t. I helped my sister by driving her to a doctors appointment today because my mom had asked me to but now my mom is asking me to drive my brothers girlfriend to work tomorrow. I don’t really know her and I don’t think they’ve been together long. The first time I met her she was short with me and clung to my brother the entire time. If my brother needed a ride I’d give to him but I’m hesitant on giving a ride to someone I barely know and I also don’t want to be relied on to help constantly.
So WIBTA if I told my mom no to taking my brothers girlfriend to work?
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By “being relied on constantly” I mean i don’t want every day off I have be focused on being a personal uber for my entire family.
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> I might be the asshole because I don’t want to take my brothers girlfriend to work even though I take my sister and brother to work and places sometimes.
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NTA. Learn how to say no. It’s not hard
NTA in my opinion. I hope your mother didn’t already offer your services.
NTA. Stop being a free taxi service, even for your kin. That’s how they become entitled.
NTA. Start saying No. Them depending on your for transport needs to be the exception for actual full on emergencies or really unusual situations when they have tried absolutely every other option including actual taxis or ubers or public transit. Not the “go to” that they are taking advantage of. The will only use you to the extent that you allow them to.
Say no.
Why is your mother involved in asking you to drive your brother recent gf? Tell her no. Nothing asshole about it. If she wanted help she would have asked you. Or your brother would have. Your mom had no path in this permission tree so not sure why she went through her. You don’t have to give a reason. Why? Cuz I don’t know her. Driving strangers around has a name. It’s called Uber. Use it.
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NTA. You’re not responsible for friends of the family. You aren’t a taxi.
NTA. Helping siblings is great. Anyone else, hard no.
Tell Mom no and stop volunteering me.
NTA now only drive them in emergency case only. When you do to much favor for people. they won’t feel grateful anymore but will think it’s your duty. You need to draw a boundary or you will become a free Uber service for them.
NTA. You aren’t obligated to give someone rides just because they are dating your sibling. You don’t even live with them. They need to get their own car or figure out their own transport.