My 17 year old sister is pregnant, and the father is a 37 year old man. Somehow this is legal in texas but it still feels completely wrong to me I was furious when I found out but I’ve been trying to stay calm for my sister’s sakeshe doesn’t need more stress right now the guy’s also a felon and already has multiple kids he doesn’t take care of i’m seriously considering review bombing the places he works getting him fired and making sure people in his community know what he did would I be the asshole for doing that?
Wibtah for exposing a 37-year-old who got my 17 year old sister pregnant and getting him fired?
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Nope. NTA. Expose him all you want.
Don’t fuck with the whole company. There are ways to go about this, but unfortunately if it’s legal, nothing will happen.
You should talk to the employer instead of bombing a company for one guy.
This man has to support this child for your sister to be successful. Anything you do cannot negatively impact your sister or future niece or nephew. Pick your spot but for now your sister is in a world of trouble and needs all the help she can get. Don’t make it worse for her.
You wouldn’t be an asshole for doing what you’re thinking, but if the dude’s a felon, it might come back to bite you in the butt.. dangerously. Be careful. Your sister’s life is forever altered now.
YWBTA, but I totally see why you want to do it. The only thing that should stop you is that it might make it harder for your sister to get child support from him if he stops working, or starts working under the table. Start looking into what needs to happen to make him pay his share, since by the sounds of it he probably won’t volunteer.
He deserves to be exposed. Harshly. But i don’t see how that would help the teen mom here.
Not at all. That’s how you help keep other people safe. NTA.
NTA but he certainly is. Your sister is in for a world of trouble raising a kid on her own.
Have you given any thought at all to your sister? To what publicly outing him would do to her? and to her child in the future? Or is this just all about your rage?
You WBTA if you don’t.
Never the asshole for exposing predators.
17 is old enough to live outside of the parents home in Texas. It’s the only reason I see why it’s legal. I think it’s disgusting because he’s old enough to be her father, but think about the consequences for your sister if you expose him you expose her too
Also adding this in.
You would be doing this out of malice which could in turn get you sued.
No. NTA
Nope! Expose him!!!!
Take her cross state borders and abort the child. You give your sister a better future. She does not need to be shackled to this guy the rest of her life.
What a stupid question
NTA. Expose him, destroy his life if possible. Make sure everyone knows what kind of person he is. Have your sister put his name on the birth certificate of the child, and go after child support when the baby is born.
In the state that I live in, this is not illegal.
Expose that predator POS
NTA but your sister needs an education about a lot of things….
Dude, you expose him she gets no child support. But you already said he doesn’t take care of any of his kids.
I say it loud. It is also not legal. 18 is full legal age of consent. But under 18 has special provisions.
Texas does have a Romeo Juliet law under 18. This is to protect 16 year olds having sex with 17 year olds, etc. They’re in the same mental cohort and you cannot punish young people.
14-17 years old may have sex with someone within 3 years of age, maximum. This means a 17 year old can have sex with a 14 year old. A 15 year old with 18. A 16 year old with 19, and a 17 year old with 20. Maximum. That’s the highest.
He is 37, which makes the sexual act ILLEGAL and STATUTORY RAPE. He is 20 years older, outside the maximum 3 year age difference. Anonymous report to the Police station. The pregnancy is proof of the deed.
Would it solve anything? Get your sister an abortion so she doesn’t ruin her life.
NTA
Don’t stop there. Get him arrested
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NTA. Legality doesn’t automatically mean it’s right. A 37-year-old fathering a child with a 17-year-old may be legal in Texas, but it’s absolutely not normal or ethical. Your sister’s well-being matters most…if outing him and jeopardizing his job gives her more protection and accountability, it’s understandable. Just be thoughtful about repercussions for her and any legal implications of your actions.
NTA. I wish there was a place that women could go and expose these predators to help keep other women safe.
You wouldn’t be. Predators always deserve to be exposed.
NTA but please don’t do this. If he is already a felon and banging 17 year olds, he’s not only a shitty person, but could be dangerous too. He could come after you, your sister or some custody of the baby
Blast him everywhere
You would not be the ta, in fact you’d be a hero, try and get him arrested, he seems to deserve it
If he has broken no laws and is not behind bars, then you may be removing the only source of child support your sister has any hope of getting.
And depending on your sister’s current connection with him, you might make her life much more stressful.
I agree it’s ethically repugnant. Bide your time and see how things play out.
The only thing is if you get him fired, that’s going to compromise you sisters financial stability pretty significantly. What you are thinking of doing would likely hurt her almost as much. I’d think twice about it for that reason even if it is justifiable
Is it possible to take her out of state on a “vacation” for her reproductive care decisions?
Nta. Expose him to anyone you can.
Take your sister on a trip to Colorado. This man is not going to help her through this or take care of the kid.
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It’s the age of consent in Texas so not sure why a company would fire someone for doing something legal in the state. It’s probably a better idea to help your sister take care of the situation by buying her a ticket to CA before it’s too late.
BLAST HIS FUCKING ASS ALL OVER THE INTERNET!!! PEDOPHILE!!!!
NTA but before you do think carefully about what your 17 year old sister wants. It’s her life that could blow up in response, not yours. Any harassment backlash will likely be directed at her, and complicate how she deals with the situation. If she’s keeping the baby and is hoping to get child support, it could also make that harder.
Under no circumstances should you refrain just to protect the predator. He absolutely deserves it. Just think about the long-term consequences for your sister, and make sure she has the supports in place to deal with them before you act on an immediate desire to get revenge.
All these people talking about child support and you said he doesn’t take care of his existing kids. Expose this weirdo.
I understand that religion is a big deal in Texas. Might I suggest that you reach. out to all the local church ladies and prayer groups that you can? Ask them to offer up prayers on behalf of your sister and her child, as given that the father is a 37 year old dead beat, she’ll need all of them…..
This is a passive aggressive way of not only spreading gossip, but hopefully getting said Christians to offer up not only prayers, but actual help.
EDIT: This is not about the prayers, Dear Reader. This is about how, having lived in the South for a bit, I am aware how quickly gossip can spread, and ruin reputations. I also hope that the good people of the churches might think to do a fundraiser for the young mother, reach out with offers of baby items, and other such things. For those who believe in prayer, that’s just the cherry on top.
NTA. Go off.
RIP that shit open
Should expose him to the police tf
YWBTA you’re understandably upset, but this (from what you’ve said) has nothing to do with his place of work and review bombing will affect their business. As for him, I think it would be best to focus on what your sister needs, do your best to ensure innocent people don’t become collateral damage.
NTA dude needs a WOOD CHIPPER!
You ain’t the asshole. I’m 44 and I find it repulsive men my age do this kind of shit.
NTA. Burn that son of a bitch.
NTA, disgusting.
Dont punish the guy for your sister being extreamly dumb. She didnt get pregnant by staying home and studying.
He didnt break any laws. And if amything, you want him to still have a job, so he can pay alimony (or judge has where to take the money from, if he refuses to pay)
Nta. I’d probably do more than “get him fired.”
If you’re not exposing him to police what’s the point?
So your nephew or niece will be closer in age to their mother than their mother is to their father. That’s crazy
Edited to change and to or between nephew/niece
So you get him fired so we can’t pay child support that’s not very smart nor is the 17-year-old who’s fucking an old man who is a felon
Don’t review bomb the workplace, just review bomb HIM. “We were served by this guy, can’t remember his name, but he was [description, not too detailed but enough]. He was rude, unhelpful, and pushy” kind of thing. Don’t get highly specific (“he pushed my elderly mother and she ended up breaking her hip and needing the hospital” kind of thing) which management would be inclined to actually investigate, but keep it simple and ‘he was rude and unhelpful’ (but don’t say he got abusive or insulting. Just that he was ‘impatient, didn’t take the time to explain anything, and when we asked more questions he told us to google it’).
You don’t want the companies coming after you because you’re saying ‘this place sucks’, what you want is to say ‘I usually enjoy going to this place, but sadly our treatment by this employee really ruined our experience and makes us not want to return’. NTA
ETA: everyone’s talking about ‘you’ll remove your sister’s ability to get child support’ while ignoring the fact that you’ve said he has multiple kids that he doesn’t take care of. If he were to get a job that required him to pay child support (and that’s a fucking huge IF), all those other kids would be prioritized over your nibling.
NTA. Do it
NTA PUT THAT PDF IN JAIL!
Assuming her age means there’s no legal recourse here, go forth and wreck this guy’s life in whatever ways are legal. If that’s as simple as disclosing his actions to people who know him and might deliver him some consequences, there’s no moral quandary here at all.
NTA. Let him have it.
Not illegal (unfortunately) and he prob won’t care what you do (Felon, Multiple baby mamas). But go ahead, you may be disappointed. NTA.
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Age of consent is 16 in 32 states, 17 in 8 states ( including Texas), and 18 in 11 states.
Nope,nope,nope he should be looking over his shoulder from now on. By the way nope.
NTA but even though he’s a bum because what he did technically wasn’t against the law he could potentially sue you for slander. Getting him fired and spreading false information is slander by definition. Now on the other hand this guy probably deserves it, and seems like a piece of shit but do you want to open yourself up to the repercussions from that? You do whatever you have to but weigh the pro’s and con’s. It’s also entirely possible that you ruin this guys life and he’s not smart enough or doesn’t have the resources to do anything about it. Regardless I wish you the best of luck and that guy gets his karma.
NTA but your sister should think hard about abortion or adoption.
He’ll probably be a scofflaw, but go through legal channels to get an order for child support.
You WNBtA, but if it’s legal, don’t be surprised if he loses nothing. It’s a messed up situation. I hope she has access to reproductive care. He sounds like a deadbeat. 😔
Abso-fuckin-lutely NTA. Expose away.
Someone who committed statutory rape? A sex offender? Report NOW!!!!!
Probably doesn’t matter since he’s already a felon. Hope your sister makes better decisions though.
NTA
But importantly ur sister must prioritise abortion immediately
Don’t get him fired, then he can’t pay child support.
Nta. Plenty of Facebook groups that expose predators, why has nobody been to the police though? Age of consent is 18 in Texas so it’s statutory rape.
NTA but I’m not sure how that would help. You are more likely to re-enforce an “us against the world” mindset in your sister. Everyone already knows he’s a felon and deadbeat dad.
Get her an abortion in a legal state.
Also, while she is a victim and he is a monster….a 17 year old should still know better than getting with a 37 year old who already has several kids. Get her some logic
Nope. I’ll rent the wood chipper.
Nta I don’t know how that’s legal in Texas. God United States is disgusting. I hate living here anymore. And if he is a felon got a teenager pregnant and isn’t going to help. Yes, review on his work. Let them know what kind of scumbag they hired. Maybe if you’re lucky, they’ll help in some way, shape or form or at least corporate. Might send some kind of apology or something I don’t know. I don’t know why people can’t keep it in their pants until they’re of proper legal age. I’d prefer if they’ve had you know some life experience go out date some people closer to your own age. See you know what makes you you for a while first before you know going for someone like that. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing if it’s their idea and what not. But at the same time you need more life experience before trying to commit to something like that or something that can end like this.
If you expose him and he loses his jobs how is he going to pay child suppose? Think smarter not harder. Your sister is going to need the $ because it doesn’t sound like he is the type to physically stick around. Also, you are setting her and the baby up for ridicule down the line. The internet is forever. Hit him where it really hurts. The wallet. And NTA if you choose this route.
“Review bombing the places he works at”
Lolololololol
Take it easy champ! Review bombing a pedophile felon can be a gateway to a “sternly worded email”.
I’m not sure what planet you’re from, but here on earth, we don’t “review bomb” felons who sexually assault our UNDERAGE sisters. We report them to the police…. after we’ve taken a baseball bat to them.
NTA BUT if he is fired he will have no income to support your sister and nephew or niece
If he loses his job, how will he pay her for child support? Maybe don’t act too rashly and end up hurting her in the process.
Omg this sounds like my brother…. He’s 36, w felon, in Texas, and has tons of kids he doesn’t take care of or pay for. I don’t have a relationship with him because of his life decisions….
Please don’t let this be my brother….
You probably don’t want the baby daddy to be jobless…..
100% the AH, go after him all you want but don’t hurt someone’s business. They probably have no idea he did this or who your sister even is.
So you make sure he doesn’t have work so he can’t pay any child support? Your logic is flawed.
I get you are angry and that man definitely is TA. But what you want to do here is not helping your sister.
YWBTA
nta but if you want any chance at child support he needs a job. altho i get he’s not paying for any of them . maybe give the sister a chance to think about what she wants to do, she might even want to do it herself
OP- I sent you a chat, I’m hoping this isn’t my brother you’re talking about….
I think this is statutory SA. He could get in serious trouble for that, especially with the significant age difference. You can and need to process charges. Get him “in trouble.” Actions have consequences.
NTA, and for those that are arguing ItS LeGaL, child marriage is legal in 37 states. What’s legal and what’s right are often two separate things.
Hows buddy gonna pay child support if you get him to lose his job?
Won’t getting him fired put more burden and stress on your sister and their child?
You’d be if you didn’t expose him. He’s a predator
Definitely not the AH. Expose him. Have him arrested. Or at least get him on the hook for the support he has to provide.
Can you prove any sexual activity before she turned 17? NTA for wanting to publicly shame him.
NTA but with a heavy reminder, he definitely isn’t going to be helping your sister without a job.
ABSOLUTELY NOT WTF
NTA. Sentences are your friend.
No? Why is this a question
Jesus fuck it’s so hard for me to accept that there are moms in the world who are like this because I just could not imagine ever not being the safest place for my kids to land no matter what. I’m so sorry OP 😔 There is a special place in hell for mothers like this. One thing I promised myself years and years ago that I was NOT going to make the mistakes my own mom did and now all I care about is being the best mom my kids could ever ask for. That overshadows my own need for comforting from my own mom so I guess I’m lucky in that respect. When it’s time for you to become a parent (if you do), then take what you’ve learned and be the best parent your kids could ever hope for.
If he looses his job he wont be able to pay your sister child support. So at least keep that in consideration.
NTA
Exposing a child rapist is the coolest thing you can do.
NTA if you intend to help take care of the child. If you get him fired how can he pay child support?
I honestly thought this was a shit post but…
“In Texas, the age of consent for sexual activity is 17 years old.”
I thought every state had updated to 18 being the age of consent with “close in age” exceptions but I was wrong!
Nta
Yikes. At least 2 comments are basically I think I know this guy. Something tells me there are way too many 37/17 y/o couples in Texas. The world is terrifying.
Can’t pay her child support without a job. How did he earn his felon title? You may want to think about a few things before painting a target on your back for a now jobless felon.
It will now be your job to help your sister teach that child to be a better person. If you try and count on the father the child is probably screwed.
Christ, the comments here are disturbing.
I mean obviously NTA, however, I googled and found this –
https://statutes.capitol.texas.gov/Docs/CR/htm/CR.42.htm#42.017
https://www.sll.texas.gov/faqs/age-of-consent/
The Romeo and Juliet law only applies to people 15-18 with a 3 year difference.
This “relationship” is a TWENTY (20) year difference. This is super illegal and should be reported, your sister is being groomed and baby trapped
Insane to me that’s legal. He should be on a watchlist
That would solve nothing. Even if he wanted to do something. If he has no job. How can he have money for the baby? Assuming she lives with your parents. Your angry should really be aimed at them for letting this go on in their house, but Ultimately though, it’s her bed let her lay in it. Mind your business. She’ll have a hard life, but It is what it is.
Well, did he already pay for his crimes? If not and he’s a fugitive, you should call the police. If he’s served his time and isn’t on a registry, unless he’s committed another crime since, you have nothing on him and bad mouthing him for a past he’s paid for can open you up to civil and potentially legal ramifications.
Which is it though?
NTA. This is disgusting! I’m 36 and I can’t even imagine sleeping with someone that young 🤢
how would that get him fired 💀 he broke no laws. get a life loser
NTA.
Also, if she sent any nude pictures to him, or he sent any to her, the age of consent in Texas becomes 18.
Texas is so backwards
No you wouldn’t be TA but how will it help your sister ?
Yeah he’s gross AF & you don’t like that she’s pregnant but she’s gonna need child support ,so gross guy needs that job.
NTA but I’d hop on over to an ask a lawyer subreddit to check if that puts you in a position to be sued or for him to press harassment charges since he’s done nothing illegal. Also keep in mind you may be risking your safety as well as your sister’s and the rest of your family if you do this.
NTA, but if you get him fired, there will definitely be no child support. Not like he will pay anything anyway.
Nta. However, if it’s his kid, and he’s going to have to pay child support/help your sister with bills and supplies, etc., getting him fired isn’t going to do anything helpful. Might make you feel good for vengeance or whatever, but in the long run, him having a job is better than not having a job…
what about driving to a different state for an abortion if your 17yo sis doesn’t want the fetus/if the gestation period is at the right time frame for an abortion?
Nta but then if hes fired, and gets another job and you continue to get him fired… how will he earn to help support the child? Assuming the child is being kept and not adopted.
Makes it easier for him to financially support the kid. Think for a minute.