I (25F) don’t drink any alcoholic beverages. My family is going down to my sister’s place (2 hours away) this weekend for a beer festival. I was asked if I would be the DD for them all since I’m not drinking. This wouldn’t be an issue if this beer fest was close to where I live and I can just go home after dropping them off; but no. I would probably be forced to stay at the festival or even babysit my nephew (I’ve’ve made it clear I won’t babysit him alone before the age of 5 or whenever he starts school).
I’ve declined this and my sister proceeds to try and ask me again and again offering me money up to $50. I still said no and it was dropped. I’ve said someone has to keep an eye on the pup. Not to long ago, my sister texted me asking me what it’ll take to convince me to come down this weekend to be the DD. I have not responded to her message. At this point I feel like I would be a bad person for not coming down or try and be guilt tripped by either my mother or sister into going when I already said I don’t want to go.
So WIBTAH if I stand firm in my decision?
Edit: I guess I should make it more clear lol my bad. We would be staying at my sister’s place for the weekend instead of me driving over 2 hours to pick them up. Either way though I’m only wanted down there to be the DD
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I (25F) don’t drink any alcoholic beverages. My family is going down to my sister’s place (2 hours away) this weekend for a beer festival. I was asked if I would be the DD for them all since I’m not drinking. This wouldn’t be an issue if this beer fest was close to where I live and I can just go home after dropping them off; but no. I would probably be forced to stay at the festival or even babysit my nephew (I’ve’ve made it clear I won’t babysit him alone before the age of 5 or whenever he starts school).
I’ve declined this and my sister proceeds to try and ask me again and again offering me money up to $50. I still said no and it was dropped. I’ve said someone has to keep an eye on the pup. Not to long ago, my sister texted me asking me what it’ll take to convince me to come down this weekend to be the DD. I have not responded to her message. At this point I feel like I would be a bad person for not coming down or try and be guilt tripped by either my mother or sister into going when I already said I don’t want to go.
So WIBTAH if I stand firm in my decision?
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If they’ve got $50 for you, they’ve got $50 for an Uber. NTA
NTA. I wouldn’t do it either.
NTA, a beer festival is not much fun for a non drinker. They just want a designated driver and a possible babysitter. Stand firm.
NTA I would 100% never drive 4 hours to give someone a ride to drink. I am not a taxi service and I hate driving. $1000 and a hotel room with spa package and I am in though.
No. You would not be an AH if you stay firm on your no answer. No is a complete sentence. Stand firm on your decision if that is what you want to do. You do not have to give up your day off so they can drink.
Have they not heard of Uber? Teenagers make wonderful babysitters, too.
nta there are those who don’t understand the word no. it sounds like you would be the babysitter for all regardless of ages. hold firm be well
Would you open to driving just to pick them up but not attend the festival? Is public transport, taxis or Uber not available in the area?
Um uber and lyft exist?
Info.They don’t have Uber in her town?
YWNBTA. Is Uber not an option to take them home? Also, two hours away and the possibility of being forced to stay for an activity you won’t even join in? Stand your ground.
Girl don’t let yourself be guilted into this.. first off, why can’t the family stay at your sister’s place and leave in the morning, secondly do they expect you to be driving them two hours late in the night? What’s their plan. Ubers exist NTA
No means no. Full stop and you have every right without needing to endlessly explain yourself to say no
"This is not a fun plan for me. This is a great plan for you. Frankly, I’m tired of always being the drunk babysitter, and I’m not up for spending another day around a whole shitload of drunk people, taking care of everyone, and hating every second of it. I don’t like being around drunk people. Even family. Get an uber. Get a taxi. Pay someone else. But I’m not it. I want you to stop thinking of me as your chauffer. I don’t drink because I don’t like it. What makes you think I want to be around a bunch of people too drunk to drive. ALL DAY. No."
NTA.
NTA. One of them can abstain instead.
YWNBTA. Next time they ask, tell them to call a party bus.
Please, please stay firm otherwise you will spend the weekend being bored out of your skull, babysitting a child you don’t want to mind, and looking after a group of increasingly inebriated people, none who will not appreciate the sacrifice you’ve made to do this. This does not sound like anyone’s idea of a fun time. NTA
No means no
NTA
Can you go stay at your sisters place while they are at the festival or visit some other attractions in her town? Can your sister hire a babysitter? I think it’s nice to do a favour once in a while but certainly not consistently. This sounds like a long day, so unless you can find some alternate plans you like in that town and they compensate you for gas and a bit extra for a nice lunch or something , not sure I’d want to do this, especially if they expect babysitting too. It’s a bit much
NTA. Uber and lyft exist for a reason
NTA, if she keeps asking, tell her to pay $5000. in cash, up front, and also she has to pay for any damages to your car.
Speaking as someone who doesn’t drink – the mental LOAD of keeping an eye out for a bunch of drunk people at a venue Very Much NOT made for you is….well, it’s alot.
NTA. Remember: If you say No to something and people get angry…it doesn’t mean you should have said Yes.
Send her a link to the Uber and Lyft apps.
Fifty?
One of my nieces did this for a friend’s regular golf outing, she cleared three hundred for a day’s driving.