So my wife has a best friend who she just found out passed away a few days ago. Mind you throughout the 13 years we’ve been together I’ve never met this guy. Understandably she’s emotional and what not but I heard her saying things on the phone to someone that just had me scratching my head. She was telling somebody he was my protecter and my provider. We had a bond that can’t be broken. I didn’t say anything I just let her vent because I feel like it’s the wrong time to confront her about something like this. It just had me thinking like wtf have I been doing the past 13 years?? Am I not those things. Granted she was drunk but still.
I won’t do it now but I’m just wondering if I should say something to her about it after a little time passes. I mean am I crazy for feeling like this? Maybe I’m tripping but her saying all that seems like she was talking about her lover or something and not a best friend. Idk
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shes probably referring to a time in her life when he was there for her
I think you should let that go and just focus on comforting your wife.
Sounds like maybe she was having an affair and he died. She’s sad so is covering it up as a “friend”
i would question what she means by that, but obviously not right now when the time feels better ask her about it because being together 13 years and you’ve never met the guy is pretty insane to me
13 years together and you never met her “best friend”? He was her lover, not her friend.
I tell a lot of people I love then and they are my best friend… etc then I try to remember what I said or do to you. Don’t be a bonehead and try to make this about your feelings. I’m sure he was there for her on her times of need is all. Comfort you wife and be her rock now. Leave the past where it belongs especially if you are content with your lady.
13 years and you never met her best friend? Did he live far away?
Whatever the case tell her you don’t wanna hear that type of shi
It sounds past tense to me. Not related to your lives together, today. I’d say she is reflecting back on their time together.
Bro come one. Did you gaslight yourself? You never met her “best friend” in 13 years? What is with birthdays or other events? Was he married too?
Let that go and just be there to comfort her ….. do not overthink it.
‘My protector and provider” – and the husband hasn’t met him. I’d discuss it with her. Maybe not right now while the grief is so fresh but definitely have a discussion at some point. It can be as simple as “I heard you say..,I’m sorry I never got a chance to meet him” and see where it goes from there.
Have you even seen a picture of him yet to know how much more muscular and powerful he is than you are?
You’re just her friend, the other guy is the one she actually loved and was attracted to. Often times women marry a nice guy like yourself but still need to get sex from a man she is actually attracted to.
Are you not physically strong? No muscles? How can you protect her? She needs a real man such as that guy who is muscular and powerful.