We fell in love in college after 7 years got married with lots of difficulties, my wife family rich, my family poor. They demanded the wedding should be grand. I took loan more than 10lakh for marriage and they spent around 20( they say) but very grand many impo people came bla bla. The loan I took my family don’t know, she was soft and good girl at start later started annoying for attention but I liked her, thought many times we can break up in love phase but lastly came to marriage. Then their family all good no issue they treat me like a son. But she was having hard time in my family. She said they are behaving differently when I’m with her and not with her. It’s hard for me, but still chose to come out and live just the 2 of us. I was earning more than a lakh per month but had loan emi for 70-75k. She is not working trying for govt.jobs for 4 years now, it was frustating for me. Go to her parents house every week or every 2 weeks. I too will go but she always lazy in our house but not in her parents house I’m getting more loan now it’s 15 lakh. No cooking always Swiggy. Not cleaning house. Always she says she is in pain. But I can see her pain but not sure where it goes when in her parents house, people think I live luxury wed a rich girl, but I didn’t get any dowry or anything, really I’m in loan. A lot of loans.
We didn’t have sex often saying it’s always paining or not in the mood. Sometimes she makes me feel like I only want that. I’m not very romantic in buying gift or surprises but I do surprise her and give gift sometime but can’t do often
Not sure what to do, she feels for her cousin who is suffering between of wife and mother.
I’m in same phase but she didn’t see me, sometimes blackmails of divorce. Before marriage blackmail of breakup.
We will be happy and when I ask her something it goes wrong she will say “ I’m not blessed for a good life” or something like that if I say the same thing will argue what all she did for me and ask what I did for her. And I don’t get anything after some days she will says thanks for doing this that that for me.
My mind is fucked- love going away not sure why I earn who I live for why should I work hard?
Women can share problems with friends and home. But Men they can’t share with anyone.
My heart aches and feels like dying
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This isn’t love it’s emotional starvation dressed in sacrifice. Walk out or wake up because no marriage is worth dying inside while pretending everything’s fine.
I’m sorry you are going through such a hard time. Would you ever consider speaking with a therapist? I think you need to share your frustrations with a trained neutral party who can help you decide next steps.
No one’s life should be like this. I would break it off and find happiness.
Omg. Where to start????? First off stop trying to be some one your not. Do you love her? If you do you both need to have a long talk. No more gifts. Tell her you want/need sex more. It’s good her family is nice to you. But that’s the least they can do. You desearve to be happy. So set boundaries.
Has she seen a doctor
What about my pain for having to read that?