My wife (28F) and I (28M) have been married two years. Things have been great. We do a good amount of traveling. She works a typical 9-5 fully in person. I work remotely.
I love dogs. I had one growing up. But I love dogs so much that I don’t want to give one a bad life where they are in day care all the time. And I know how much work it is to raise a puppy.
My wife and I are constantly on the go. Weekends will either be trips or visiting family who live far.
Lately she’s been asking to get a dog more and more. She actually cried about it. Her sister says I’m an asshole and her husband would do whatever she wants. Some people are telling my wife to just get a puppy anyway (crazy….), but she says she won’t get a dog unless her husband agrees.
I keep saying it won’t work for our lifestyle. I like hanging out with friends and not being home all the time. I like our trips we take. We can’t take a dog on most of them.
I am also looking for a new job and remote jobs are not really present anymore. I’ve been with my current job for 6 years. So we would both be in the office most of the week.
I also do not want to do all the work that comes with having a puppy, having gone through it when I was younger.
Plus we’re talking about having a baby in the next year or two. I don’t want the dog to be losing attention since it’s going to the baby. I also want to travel as much as possible before a baby.
She’s really upset and I feel bad, but I just don’t want to sacrifice our current lifestyle. I keep saying when we have kids and they’re a little older, I definitely want a dog. I want them to grow up with a dog when they’re a little older and can appreciate it more.
Any advice?