I’m in the process of divorce, but before that happened my wife slept with my teenagers football coach right after his season ended. For character history she has BPD and also slept with the married neighbor and destroyed our son’s closest friendship with the neighbor boy.
The struggle now is my son knows none of this and is entering a new football season where this coach is focused on working with him and only a couple other boys, they’re all wide receivers and that’s what this douche bag coach is specializing in this year.
This coach is working for the high school and he slept with a students married parent. I don’t want to put anything on my son, I’ll be honest if he ever asks, but I’m not throwing this on a teenagers lap. So aside from beating this coaches ass and blowing everything up what would you do? I’m concerned there is more harm to be done when my son spends 4+ hours a day training in the off season with this guy and will likely only be doing more with him as they head into the regular season.
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Like you’re doing already just divorce and walk away and if your son ask or he somehow finds out about it just be completely honest with him. Just walk away……. There’s no going back from this. The damage is done already not much more you can do about it.
I mean the damage to your marriage is already done so why say or do anything. Maybe your son benefits from it in this case. Trying to intervene in that is all ego at this point
Report this to the school board, they need to know what kind of conduct they are supporting. Your child is now being treated unfairly due to external biases that are out of his control.
It’s not illegal (as far as I know) but it is damaging your son’s education and wellbeing, and that is something they can make about.
Sorry about the wife situation boss.
Just want to say sorry this happened to you.
If you have evidence that your wife slept with this individual, it would seem to me that you might want to share that information with the school administration.
There is no guarantee that the school will take disciplinary action, but given that there is a connection to your son, I would imagine that the school authorities would at least like to know.
You might also want to contact an attorney to see what your options are legally. Depending on the state where you live, you might have more recourse than you’re aware of.
That sounds hot. I don’t see the problem
Was it for the son to get more playing time ?
I’d move. I have BPD. Don’t date people with BPD.
I know you don’t want to damage your son any further, but this coach’s behavior is completely unethical and needs to be reported to the school. Do you really want someone like this in a position of authority over high school kids? God knows what other boundaries he’s ok with crossing.
shouldn’t the coach be fired? It totally crosses the line to sleep with a student or the student’s parent. Also, can the school be sued?
This is on your wife btw, not the coach
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Since this is a clear pattern, after you report it to the school board, and administration, you should also report it to the divorce court and apply for full custody. No alimony to her, no support either.
Please report him to the school. Your ex does not care about anyone but herself. I feel for you and your son.
Just divorce her and walk away. Be honest if your son asks
Tell the school and get his ass fired. Sooner or later your son will find out, and it will be worse that you hid it and did nothing.
” For character history she has BPD….” Is that the excuse?
Inform the school about the affair. That’s so fucked up.
you are D-O-N-E FUCKED
I am speechless right now. But I’m really sorry about the whole situation
WIFE: Her choices – can’t stop her, let her be happy with her choices.
YOU: Clearly her choices are not for you and just move on. Close the door….
SON: Let him enjoy his season, without the drama / knowledge.
Report him to the administration. Your son will get a new coach.
Best thing you can do is move on with your life.
There’s no reason to give either of these people another thought in your whole life.
Your wife sounds like she is also a wide receiver.
resist the urge to curb stomp your son’s coach
RIP man lol.
Absolutely do not bring your son in the middle of this. In fact, he really doesn’t need to know. Ever.
sounds like this was a past thing they are not in a relationship now ?
Your wife is not for the streets, she is for the highway. Coach is an ass for partaking, but if it wasn’t him, it would be someone else. Walk away from this, heal and I wish you all the best. This must be a nightmare
Sounds more like you are jealous of the coach and the time he spends with your son. Might be wrong?
I think you need to be honest of what you want here and why you want it. If it’s all selfish, then maybe you should drop it.
Is there not any other coaches that could help him
You need to 100% report this to the school. That is completely inappropriate behavior and has led to the destruction of a students home and family. He needs to pay the consequences of his actions.
Also, her BPD has nothing to do with her inability to keep her legs closed.
Your son deserves the truth. Full stop.
There is a conflict of interest here. The coach has to go. Tell the school.
Whoa, that’s over the top
You’re doing to have to blow it up with the truth. Otherwise, your son will find out on his own and that won’t be good at all.
The coach should be removed anyway.
Sorry this happened to you man.
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You have to switch his coach up cuz no matter what you gonna catch an attempted murder charge if u have too see that man ever again. It’s not worth your life and freedom so just switch your son into a different league.
So your soon to be x, holds no culpability?