My wife (53f) and I (55m) have been married 24 years. Our sex life is good, but I’ve noticed that for the last couple years, she has been typically preferring sex more and more rough. She has always liked being held down, or tossed around the bed a little, and often liked when I thrust aggressively rather than lovingly or softly, that kind of thing. But lately, that’s all she wants – she’s very clear about that.
This is all fine, but it’s a change in focus. And I’m wondering what may be behind it. Is it typical for a woman’s desires to shift so much in one direction like this?
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Maybe it’s not a shift but something that was always there and now she’s just wanting more of that? Or maybe she wants to spice it up.
She got that itch she wants scratched.
Well im too young (21😅) to give any advice on this but what i belive is, it’s normal. People’s kinks evolve with age, hormones, confidence, even boredom plays a role.She’s not broken, she’s just more in tune with what hits now.After 50, women often want more intensity, it’s physical and mental.Doesn’t mean she’s unsatisfied, just chasing different highs. Best move? Own it, ask her straight up what’s changed.Not needy, just curious. Shows strength.Connection stays tight when communication is bold.
She’s just getting more comfortable in her body and more confident as she ages. Now she’s asking for what she really wants. This is a good thing!
The menopause. My wife and is sex life was ok, but when perimenopause hit.
I’m gonna be honest I’m just holding on for the ride at this point. Her tastes have changed, frequencies changed, fun has changed. Long may it last.
As others have said, maybe her hormones are changing with age. Or, does she read spicy books? 😅
I would say it was always there. Maybe she feels unloved or unattractive. Women who want you to be more aggressive often feel this way. Better give it to her good.
Some women are no longer afraid to ask for what they have always wanted but we’re afraid to ask until now. Menopause seems to bring this out.