I’m a 17F lesbian. I just want to know if I’ll ever truly be happy being fully myself. Truth is I’m afraid of going to hell or worse, living my whole life pretending just to die unhappy in the end. Everytime I get to the point where I finally feel comfortable in myself and my identity, I hear that same voice nagging me in the back of my head, telling me I’m gonna burn. But on the flipside everytime I try to do the whole God thing I feel that same nagging voice telling me I’m still gonna burn because of my sexual preferences (I’ve messed around with guys, and I know fs it ain’t for me). My mom says that what I have is a spirit that I was born with, but apparently can be taken away by God. Idk, I’m just tired yk. Like I’m at the point in the cycle where I either spiral again by doing something drastic in either direction or quitting all together. Like I just want to know if I’ll ever get to the point where I’m at peace with my identity. Please help.
Will I ever be happy?
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You’re not broken, you’re battling a war between truth and fear. Choose yourself boldly because no peace ever came from living someone else’s version of salvation.
Gay dude here. Living a pretend life is hell. The other hell doesn’t exist. Be you.
Not super educated on this but I do know there’s tons of churches that support homosexuality and interpret the Bible differently then most conservative churches maybe try seeing what they have to say about your preferences. Maybe it’ll lead to some closure about your sexuality!
I’m also 17, bisexual and I can assure you EVERYONE sins everyday. People will say “your doing it willingly!” As they’re sinning everyday willingly too. I don’t believe your going to hell, I don’t know if your religious or have people forcing it on you, live life being a good person and you’ll be okay, gay or not, sin or not, if it even is a sin or not because of mistranslation. Interpret beliefs how you want to, but if you spend life worrying about what happens after because of how your born, it’s not living it’s just suffering. You deserve to live un afraid, be you and just live life full of love!!
Only u can answer this
Lgbtq people don’t go to hell. That’s just a lie made up by homophobic people. Jesus said love everybody, that means EVERYBODY.
Yes, you will be happy and whole and loved and far more at peace.
It’s not God telling you you’ll burn. It’s the judgement of ignorant humans. Maybe even you judging yourself. But it’s time for you to, at the very least, start accepting yourself as the wonderful human you are.
If God made you, God made you a lesbian.
You will find your tribe. You will find acceptance from others. You will also find ignorance, but you don’t have to accept that yourself.
If here is already so bad for u. So why the fear. Enjoy your life.
one day you will be at peace just being you. That voice in your head isn’t God, it’s fear. Real love, from above or within, doesn’t sound like shame. Hold on.