Am i being really dramatic? I (25F) got my wisdom teeth out yesterday morning, I was knocked out because all 4 were impacted. I have been in pretty severe pain with barely being able to open my mouth wide enough to get a spoon inside (due to a complication with the surgery). I got my parents to take me to my surgery since my boyfriend (30M) was sleeping yesterday – he worked a night shift the day before. When he woke up he asked how I was feeling, and that was it, just went on with his day. Our plan was always that I was going to go over the next day (1 day post op) to see him where he could take care of me for the rest of the weekend. This morning I woke up and asked him what the plan was, and he told me how he’s cutting down a bunch of random trees at his property (not mandatory) and booked a hair cut and a few other errands to run. We are normally long distance (about 2 hours apart) so i’m feeling a little disappointed that he couldn’t have put off some of those tasks to another day and prioritize taking care of me instead, especially since we only see each other every few weeks or so. He told me to come over around 8pm tonight after he was finished everything. He told me he was planning on making me chicken soup for dinner tonight which is really thoughtful of him – however i cant chew any chicken or noodles at the moment. He never went out and bought me any soft foods that I am able to eat, never did anything comforting like visit me at my parents yesterday or buy me flowers. I just dont feel like he prioritized me when I explicitly said to him how i’m feeling vulnerable and wanted support since i’m in so much pain.
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If you two literally planned for him to care for you, no if’s, ands, or buts, but verbatim that the arrangement/plan was for him to care for you; he’s an asshole. He went back on his word if that’s the case. Beyond that, partners often want to care for and spend time with their partner, so it’s bizarre to me that he doesn’t seem to want to do that.