Basically the title. I, as a girl, don’t feel uncomfortable at all, but I am quite young, so maybe that’s why. My mom said she’s fine with it but I saw on another subreddit that woman that it was gross and felt their safe was violated. Thoughts?
Women, do you feel comfortable with men brining their daughters into the women’s restroom?
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I would be completely fine with it. That man is not there to ogle or harass us, he’s there for his daughter, being a dad.
And this is exactly why changing stations for babies should also be in men’s restrooms or always a separate room.
I’d rather him bring her to a woman’s bathroom than into the men’s bathroom
It wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d also offer to take a daughter into the restroom if the dad was embarrassed, but I can understand if he’d rather do it himself.
That was a bit of a problem for me, as I became widowed with 2 years old daughter and had to rise her alone. Had to plan things accordingly to avoid such toilet situations.
It’s interesting to get the ladies view on this. As a dad I have always taken her into the disabled/baby change cubicle or the men’s as I don’t want to offend or make women uncomfortable in the ladies if there’s a 6foot+ bloke in there.
There are women who bring their sons into women’s bathrooms.
I think it would be waaay much more worse if they would bring the daughters to the male restroom. So I have more respect if a man respects their daughter to bring them to the right restroom, than to expose her to the opposite sex restroom
I don’t have a problem with it.
Completely fine if he just wants to make sure his daughter is safe. And if he’s respectful and not acting weird
As a mom and woman, I’m completely fine with it. It’s hard to find a suitable bathroom when you have littles needing to go.
I’m fine with it, I wouldn’t feel strange about it at all, as long as he is respectful which he most likely would be if he cares about his daughter.
I’m 55 and do not mind a man in the restroom because he’s with his kid or if the men’s line is longer. LOL The men’s line is never longer, but I still don’t care if a man is in there.
Yes
Women brine themselves in there? 😳
No man should Ever go in a woman’s bathroom… Except for medical or fire emergencies.
I’m fine with it
I’m fine with that, he’s being a dad.
If there’s no family restroom, then I don’t have a problem. Better for the girl and her pop to be in the women’s restroom then potentially experiencing issues in the men’s (assuming the dad in question isn’t acting like a creep).
It’s just being a parent, doing parent things. (Or caregiver). I used to take my baby brother (he’s no baby any more!) into the ladies’ regularly when he was a toddler, and go in the cubicle with him if he needed me.
Have no issues with men taking their daughters in, the toilet is there to be used, the daughter is with a safe person that they trust, why not?
We have family washrooms for that reason or individual washrooms, I’ve honestly never had it happen to me or really ever had to think about it
Men need a space to take their daughters and a woman’s room is the best place to do this.
When mine was that age, I brought her into the mens room with me. I’m far more comfortable with that.
No I am not that paranoid that I would feel unsafe.
Yes ofc im comfortable with that. Do you think a man is going to rape you in a public bathroom while his daughter is right next to you? Just do your business and leave or step out until they leave this is nothing to be upset about. You want that little girl in the men’s room where men literally have their dicks out to pee?
idk i think he could stand outside n wait or if she too young like baby baby she can go w him into the men’s stalls but that’s just what i grew up around so.
ik boys go w the moms to the women’s if their too young or moms wait outside if their older.
I’m fine with it, if the kid needs to use the bathroom and she only has her dad there what else are they supposed to do? make her hold it?
I’m not really comfortable with it but I’d rather be uncomfortable than the girl be unsafe.
Back in the day you could usually find a woman to take them in.
Unpopular opinion here, but I think it would be better for Dad to take her into the men’s restroom. Dad will be watching over her to keep her safe, and women won’t be creeped out by an adult man in the women’s restroom.
I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable at all and I would happily defend a dad in the woman’s restroom, who was there to use a changing table or to escort a young girl.
Nope. Not at all. He is being a good dad. I prefer him to bring her to the women’s bathroom. Some places (at least in my country) have a separate bathroom with changing diaper station, but it’s not the norm, so women’s bathroom is perfectly fine .
Yup
I regularly enter women’s restrooms for my job, and women will often ask if I care that they use the toilet while I’m in there lol.
Are we harrasing fathers that takes care of their daughters? Men can be parents too.
I remember it being very uncomfortable and awkward bringing my daughter into the restroom so god blessed me with another one. I never thought of going into the ladies room but I was always glad for a family room. Port a Pottys were the absolute worse.
When I had to bring my 4-year-old daughter into the ladies room – the men were NOT open-minded – two grandmothers said I could wait at the door while they helped.
I am a woman who had 2 boys and a girl back in the 90’s. That wasn’t heard of much back then but the women took care of the children’s bathroom needs. But I wouldn’t have had an issue with that
I’m fine with it and understand a man wanting to protect his daughter. I would rather this than him bringing his daughter into the men’s room.
I think the kid’s comfort is more important than adults’ comfort in these situations.
If adult women might be uncomfortable surrounding one adult man, wouldn’t it be far more uncomfortable for a young girl to be surrounded by adult men?
Why not just take her into the men’s room??
I’d rather he bring her in women’s room than a men’s room any day
Yes? Where else is the kid supposed to piss?
Umm no. No men allowed.
As long as he announces he’s coming in with his child, no biggie.
believe me, its even more unconfortable for me to be in womans bathroom.
I usually just take my daughter to mens room. But she’s old enough by now that she knows she’s supposed to be in womens.
You should bring the child in their restroom so that they can feel most comfortable.
I have honestly never encountered this.
When my daughter was little, I went in the stall with her as she was learning how to clean herself up. Eventually, she could do that and knew how to lock the door, so I stood outside the stall while she did her thing.
There were a few times that wasn’t an option. I got lucky, though; there was always another woman that was kind enough to help her out those rare times when the only option was the women’s bathroom and I wasn’t able to go in.
Absolutely. To be honest I have been uncomfortable with men in the women’s bathroom, until I “clock” that they are with their kid. (Honestly even if they were both male.) Kids are weird, being out in public with small children is inconvenient all around. Who knows the exact situation was that resulting in this, and I really don’t care, and as a parent, I absolutely don’t want any more information or hassle about what their situation is, unless they are going to need my active help.
I’m there for my daughter. Try and argue with me while I’m chaning my daughter. I have no time for your personal hang ups.
It would t bother me if the roles were reversed, its about the child. Not getting a peek
Trans women are a problem in women’s restrooms, but cis men are not?!?!
I would much rather a young girl come into the women’s restroom with her father than the other way. Women’s restrooms tend to have more space, more stalls, changing tables.
No
This is why unisex/”family” (single-occupant) restrooms need to be more common, so that lone parents with opposite-sex children don’t have to worry about this and neither do the people using the gendered restrooms.
And if that incidentally makes more restroom options for the comfort of trans and non-binary folks? Win-win.
I don’t like it. Men should be responsible for taking their small children into the men’s bathrooms (older girls can obviously go into the women’s by themselves). There’s no massive orgy of willy-waving going on there, which is the usual handwringing concern – they are all studiously and silently facing the wall according to the toilet code!
And if the cubicle is dirty; well then dads need to start carrying wipes and tissues and stuff like mums do. And if the facilities are not sufficient, then again dads need to start campaigning for better ones, like mums had to. Women’s bathrooms are not the overflow for anyone because they cba to sort their own side out. We are legally entitled to single sex spaces.
But this is ultimately about consent, and in that case, no overrides yes – and (generic) you can’t consent on behalf of (generic) me.
(I fully expect to be downvoted for being such a dowdy dinosaur, but <shrug>…)
Men are not searching to molest strangers while they are helping their daughters in the rest room. I mean, that is absurd, is he supposed to just stuff his daughter in the trash bin while he assaults the random women?
My wife is severely handicapped and I take her into virtually every women’s restroom when we are out. I announce myself and walk the fuck in.
Of course, I have the ADA on my side, but still.
Yes. Girl’s gotta pee.
When I was a little girl and went somewhere with just my dad and I had to use the restroom, more often than not he’d bring me into the men’s room, but he’d have me look down and he’d use one of his hands to cover my eyes (just in case) and put the other hand on my shoulder to steer me around 😂 As a very anxious child, I actually preferred this over going into the ladies room by myself (or with a nice lady my dad would ask to keep a close eye on me.) Never saw anything inappropriate or felt unsafe. This was back in the 90’s, so I don’t think him going into a ladies room with me was ever an option lol
Yeah, sure. Why wouldn’t I be? They’re doing dad stuff, which is good. I want dads to do dad stuff.
I wouldn’t have a problem with it at all. The stalls have doors for a reason. I would also imagine that a man who cares enough to be attending to his own children’s needs is not going to be even remotely interested or thinking about anything that I’m doing.
I’m totally fine with it. I could see why they’d be more comfortable taking their daughter into a women’s room than taking them into the men’s room with them. He’s protecting his daughter/child, and we can all be adults about it.
I don’t care. They are their daughter’s caretaker.
If he comes in, puts his daughter in the stall and turns away to the wall or is bringing his little girl into the stall I’m 100% ok with it. I wouldn’t want my daughter in a men’s bathroom at any point. Many of us don’t mind, you’re just being a good daddy, just be respectful of women and your fine ❤️
This whole fucking bathroom debacle seriously makes it seem like no one uses a bathroom with the opposite sex in it, at home. Ffs. No bathroom sign or delineation is keeping ANYONE safe from any real predator. They just need to make all bathrooms neutral with full stalls and it would save so many issues. My humble opinion.
Wait… You don’t have “parents and disabled” loos as a normal option ? Most public toilets have that option in Australia
Grow up
I’m fine with it especially when the alternative would be to send her alone and depending on her age that’s just a no.
Of course.
Not at all.
I find a lot of men bring their daughters into the men’s room.
I don’t have many thought on it but when I was a kid my dad took me to the men’s restroom. I just had to cover my eyes and he’d stand outside the stall. Then I’d close my eyes, he’d help me wash my hands, and then we left. It was kind nice because the men’s bathroom never had a line.
I’d be fine with it as long as they give us a warning like “dad with daughter coming in” I understand you wouldn’t want to let your daughter go by herself or go into the men’s bathroom. Thankfully most public spaces have family bathrooms for this reason.
Yes!
This is why every place needs one family bathroom, or single stall gender-neutral bathroom.
Im downvoting this
What a sexist, dumb fucking question
I have no qualm with a man doing such a thing. If they bide their time there taking care of their daughter, and minding their own (as i would expect any sane person of any sex/gender/identity would do): Then I see no issue.
If anything; I’d commend him for taking his daughter to a possibly safer place to use the restroom. (not saying that harm or danger is not there either; just that I feel it might be safer.)