see a lot of posts on this sub about failed relationships and awful men. can we have some hope !
women in truly happy & successful relationships/ marriages, what’s the secret?
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see a lot of posts on this sub about failed relationships and awful men. can we have some hope !
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Mutual respect, open communication, trust, both parties secure within themselves, genuinely loving each other and wanting to see each other succeed
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For starters, it was being picky about who I got into a relationship with. I didn’t settle, and that led to someone who’s the perfect match for me.
Besides that, it’s things like good communication, building trust from the start, resolving conflict in a healthy way, supporting each other, sharing a similar sense of humor, and having a good balance of going out and staying in.
Something else I’ve found to be extremely helpful is telling each other right away when something is bothering one of us. I think for me it took experience in past relationships and self growth to change this, but in some relationships I held back, and that made things snowball into something bigger than they needed to be.
Communication and ibuprofen for periods
Communication, Respect, compassion, confidence (not arrogance lol), independence, intimacy (not just sex), showing interest in their hobbies, and good food.
I’ve been very happily married for 28yrs (together 32yrs). We are best friends but we are also lovers. We have always made intimacy a prority, even when life got busy. Not just sex but flirting, holding hands, cuddling, saying I love you everyday.
We shower together most days and make time for date nights with no TV or background noise, just a blanket , a bottle of wine and some deep conversation.
We take a lot of walks and go on motorbike or car rides and always have great chats along the way. We’ve remained playful and laugh a lot. We give each other space when required and we’ve learned to read each others moods and anticipate one anothers needs.
We’re comfortable in silence together and conversation is never forced. We always go to bed at the same time. If one of us isn’t tired we’ll read in bed while the other falls a sleep.
We respect each other and even when we disagree we talk it out and never yell or become abusive. Even when we had little kids at home we never stopped being lovers first, we’re not only mom and dad.
being transparent with each other, active listening, COMMUNICATE lol, go on frequent dates, take space when things get too intense in an argument… seriously this is the best thing that has worked for us!! ground yourself and come back to each other with a fresh mind. there’s honestly a lot but i think those are most important.
Pick a partner who respects you but also one who you respect. Communication, don’t settle into complacency. Continue to date each other, be romantic, be eachothers partners but also remain lovers ( if that makes sense) it pains me to see how many friends i have that they became complacent in their marriage and live like room mates that just avoid eachother 😔
We have been married 16 years and together 18 and we’re still just as obsessed with eachother as we were on day 1. We constantly talk we constantly touch, play, cuddle, (physical touch is both our love language) we will literally run away from our toddlers to make out in the laundry room for a bit 😆 we have s*x daily or most days unless one of us is sick or something where we just cant function.
I think it both keeps us young and sane lol.
But yeah my best advice is never forget why you fell in love in the first place and dont become complacent. 😍
Trust, brutally honest communication, honesty, respect and be willing to compromise/ meet each other half way. Oh and we both have a twin size bed we put together because of different sleeping habits and we each both get our own blankets.