We got married. I’ve had boyfriends before but I was my husband’s first girlfriend. He and his family knew his whole life that he’d probably only have one girlfriend and marry her because that’s the kinda guy he is. And I may be biased, but he’s a darn amazing partner
I got to “mold” them with certain things, especially sexually, everything else was pretty much the same.
The downfall usually came when they said that they would like to experience more and fear of missing out. I’m probably gonna get hate for this but being in my late 20’s, I wouldn’t seriously date someone that has never been in a serious relationship again.
He was very eager about everything! And sweet, wanted to all the firsts and fast. But for me, a person who had slight attachment issues, it became to much. Getting sent flowers at work, wanting to be close everywhere, meeting his family a week in etc. Sex was tricky at first, because of said eagerness. And we kind of burned out before it got to be good. But in all fairness we were like 20 years old.
No regrets though, being someones first if you are ready for the explosion of love coming your way it might just be lifechanging.
Was his first ever gf at 13. Pretty obvious it didnt work out at 13 cause we were babies 🤣 We ended up becoming best friends. We were in constant contact. We started to fall in love with each other again but didn’t tell each other because we were dating different people. Hilariously, both of ended up having breakups on the same day (was a total coincidence). We got to talking again, got so much closer, helped each other be top students of our class. Ended up dating at 16 again, have been inseparable since. We’re in our early 20s now and are planning to get married soon :))
it’s been great, we went engagement ring shopping a few days ago. plus we were both virgins when we started dating and this is my first healthy relationship so it’s like we’ve been learning how to date together
Well, we’ve been married almost 30 years. He was used to hooking up with women but never had a relationship. There was a bit of a learning curve but he’s been a great partner.
she wasn’t even aware that she’s into women. when researching and discussing terminology, we read about the label “demi”, which means that there has to be a deep emotional connection before attraction takes place. and she was like “yes, that‘s me”.
i mean, we had always been close. it’s the stereotypical “best friends to lovers” trope. so i feel blessed and honoured that she chose me of all people as her romantic interest.
He was so goddamn clingy, and thought we should be attached at the hip. Had to cut him loose quickly. Glad I live in a huge city, so the odds of running into him are low.
I thought about stopping there, but they were great at first in being earnest and loving… but ended a momma’s boy who wanted me to be his mom with sex on tap. Proceeded to provide nothing for me emotionally, physically, or any other way while expecting the world. It was so, so weird.
i wasn’t a good partner, we were only together for a little over a year. haven’t talked since and i don’t regret breaking up. he deserves so much better than 15 yr old me.
Fantastic! He’s the best partner I’ve ever had. He makes some people I’ve dated who had a decent bit of experience look extremely mediocre. Getting married in a month!
You become a poor reflection of their mom, whomever she was. You become a reflection of who he thinks “women” should be. When you’re not playing doll, you’re being judged for not meeting expectations made when you were not present for their creation.
Im sure women also often treat their first boyfriend with the same care and expectations they got from their fathers.
Many people’s first experience with love is through their family unit. Relationships become ways people work out their childhood trauma bit by bit. Usually it’s not until you’re working on actually healing yourself that you realize what you’re attractive to you and not just what’s familiar. It’s part of the process of finding yourself after you step out of all the shit you’ve had to deal with.
I was my husband’s first girlfriend so that worked out really well for both of us.
I have been the first girlfriend to a few other people and they generally really blew it. Telling me they loved me after a few days. Assuming they touch me however they wanted. Just disrespectful little noobs. Or the ones that like to argue as “conversation?” No thanks. A few were guilty trippy in order to move fast or keep me. Not attractive behavior.
it was fun until it wasn’t. i had to teach a lot of boundaries (im not going to cheat on you in the middle of my class, i might take a quick nap or leave my phone at home sometimes, etc.) and we ended up fizzling out because our intensities never matched. after i had to deal with the clinginess and jealousy i declined to ever be someone’s first girlfriend again. ultimately i think it was good for me because i have no doubt i was a perfect first partner either, and i did it at an age that the immaturity made sense.
My husband and I were each other’s first serious relationship and I love it. We started dating in high school when he was 15 and I was 16. We got married last July at 23, bought a house in December, now both 24 and trying for a baby.
I was the first gf ever, and he was the first bf ever. We were only 15 when we met. He was a really great guy. We figured out every aspect of sex together and were very adventurous. He was really quite romantic too. He made a couple of mistakes, but I wouldn’t hold that against a 15 year old boy. I only broke up with him, several years down the line, because I categorically didn’t want to marry my first ever bf, have 2 kids and live in my hometown forever (no offence intended to anyone who has chosen that life, I’m certainly envious of the very strong community network that type of lifestyle offers).
He had a religious breakdown, ghosted me for all of Ramadan, threw away the toys I left at his place and lied about it, the last message he sent me was an insult.
Sweet turned sour very quickly. Became extremely codependent, stayed together for waaayyy too long, was super clingy and as others here stated, I had to mother him. Cut that mf loose and he jumped straight into another relationship before we were even moved out of our place together. Do not recommend!
We were really each other’s first serious relationship, but he was very unsure of how to act at first. We started dating in high school, and I found his awkwardness very endearing. 10 years later, we’re married and he’s WAY more confident than he was at 15. I’ve encouraged him to find his own style and branch out with clothes, and he’s encouraged me to be more ambitious in my career. We still talk about how lucky we were to find each other so young.
I’m in a pretty new relationship (met in January) with someone who has dated a little but never been in a relationship. We’re both 29 so I’d normally have slight reservations about why he hasn’t committed to anyone before, but as I’ve had the honor to learn him I’ve discovered he was just taking his time because his passion (physics research) came first and I’ll always make space for someone who prioritizes their lifelong interests over settling down quickly. He also lived in a very small conservative town for 5 years postgrad and is only a year into living here in Seattle where the day-to-day is obviously much different and the dating pool is much larger and folks are more aligned with his belief system.
We’ve only been in a committed relationship for about 2 months but so far I can say that I adore him and he has treated me better than anyone has before (I have had three long-term relationships in the span of my life and the longest was with an abusive cheater). He knows himself incredibly well after years of putting himself first, is self-aware and emotionally intelligent (he has fantastic male and female friends who are lovely people and an amazing support system from what I’ve gathered), affectionate in the same ways as me, VERY communicative and has created a really safe space to talk about what is/isn’t working, and as others have pointed out just very careful and intentional with how we proceed together since I am his first serious partner. I really love it because I trust wholeheartedly that he is choosing me after years of choosing himself. I’ve felt a bit out of my element occasionally guiding him through some of the basics (prompting discussions about how often we want to see each other, what our long-term goals are, what our love languages are) but he is so beyond worth it. I do occasionally wonder if he’ll ever grow curious to date other people, but I trust that he’d be quickly transparent if that ever happened and I also trust that he’s very much in this for the foreseeable future
We weren’t great together, but I think the relationship 1 gave him the confidence to be with his long-time crush, and 2 made him more attractive to the long-time crush since he had some experience then. They’re married now, and I’m so happy for them.
I am my husband’s first girlfriend. Obviously we worked out lol and life is great. We’ve been married for 10 years and we have 4 children. I had to approach him first, text him and initiate all the dating stuff because he was so so shy. He was worth it.
Met my husband on tinder almost 9 years ago on tinder when we were both 23-24ish. Started talking, eventually dating and he confessed to me after a while that I was his FIRST girlfriend and he only had about 1 sexual experience before me. I guess because he was overweight when he was younger he was always self-conscious and never really tried dating until he got older and in better shape.
It was a little weird at first because in comparison I had dated quite a bit so I definitely did feel more “experienced”. However, I feel like it didn’t really negatively impact our relationship at all. He was always respectful, kind and loyal to me. We got married in 2020 and are still going strong.
He was lovely, but kept trying to kiss me when I didnt want to. We were 14. He’s now gay and a teacher. Its not the first man Ive dated who has come out as gay and I used to feel off about it because it became a running joke that I sucked so bad it turned them gay, but now that I’m grown, I realize I was a safe place for them.
He was older than me but literally SO immature like hes 20 acting as a 14 year old. To be fair he was affectionate and cared about me but he was a mommas boy n so clingy to me
Was a lot of “firsts” for some guys but my current bf has surprised me with the amount of respect and love he provides. Moving in together later this year and dreaming of the future lol
We started off good but as time went on, it became clear that he just wanted another version of his mom. He expected me to almost be able to read his kind and would judge me when I did things differently or had different opinions. He became emotionally abusive and manipulative. I decided to call it quits a few months ago
In high school, we went to different schools. He was extra nerdy, we clicked on so many things. I really felt I could be myself around him. He went the extra mile with dates and gifts. Started off as a good high school relationship. Compared to the guys I dated before, this was good for me. Then I went to his schools homecoming dance. All of a sudden his behavior got strange. Apparently the people at his school convinced him I was cheating on him, a girl like me couldn’t really like a guy like him. He became obsessive and turned into my stalker. I didn’t know it was him at first. Totally ruined a solid year of my life. So I guess my experience was horrible.
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We got married. I’ve had boyfriends before but I was my husband’s first girlfriend. He and his family knew his whole life that he’d probably only have one girlfriend and marry her because that’s the kinda guy he is. And I may be biased, but he’s a darn amazing partner
I got to “mold” them with certain things, especially sexually, everything else was pretty much the same.
The downfall usually came when they said that they would like to experience more and fear of missing out. I’m probably gonna get hate for this but being in my late 20’s, I wouldn’t seriously date someone that has never been in a serious relationship again.
He was very eager about everything! And sweet, wanted to all the firsts and fast. But for me, a person who had slight attachment issues, it became to much. Getting sent flowers at work, wanting to be close everywhere, meeting his family a week in etc. Sex was tricky at first, because of said eagerness. And we kind of burned out before it got to be good. But in all fairness we were like 20 years old.
No regrets though, being someones first if you are ready for the explosion of love coming your way it might just be lifechanging.
Was his first ever gf at 13. Pretty obvious it didnt work out at 13 cause we were babies 🤣 We ended up becoming best friends. We were in constant contact. We started to fall in love with each other again but didn’t tell each other because we were dating different people. Hilariously, both of ended up having breakups on the same day (was a total coincidence). We got to talking again, got so much closer, helped each other be top students of our class. Ended up dating at 16 again, have been inseparable since. We’re in our early 20s now and are planning to get married soon :))
it’s been great, we went engagement ring shopping a few days ago. plus we were both virgins when we started dating and this is my first healthy relationship so it’s like we’ve been learning how to date together
Well, we’ve been married almost 30 years. He was used to hooking up with women but never had a relationship. There was a bit of a learning curve but he’s been a great partner.
stellar.
she wasn’t even aware that she’s into women. when researching and discussing terminology, we read about the label “demi”, which means that there has to be a deep emotional connection before attraction takes place. and she was like “yes, that‘s me”.
i mean, we had always been close. it’s the stereotypical “best friends to lovers” trope. so i feel blessed and honoured that she chose me of all people as her romantic interest.
He was so goddamn clingy, and thought we should be attached at the hip. Had to cut him loose quickly. Glad I live in a huge city, so the odds of running into him are low.
BAD
I thought about stopping there, but they were great at first in being earnest and loving… but ended a momma’s boy who wanted me to be his mom with sex on tap. Proceeded to provide nothing for me emotionally, physically, or any other way while expecting the world. It was so, so weird.
i wasn’t a good partner, we were only together for a little over a year. haven’t talked since and i don’t regret breaking up. he deserves so much better than 15 yr old me.
Fantastic! He’s the best partner I’ve ever had. He makes some people I’ve dated who had a decent bit of experience look extremely mediocre. Getting married in a month!
You become a poor reflection of their mom, whomever she was. You become a reflection of who he thinks “women” should be. When you’re not playing doll, you’re being judged for not meeting expectations made when you were not present for their creation.
Im sure women also often treat their first boyfriend with the same care and expectations they got from their fathers.
Many people’s first experience with love is through their family unit. Relationships become ways people work out their childhood trauma bit by bit. Usually it’s not until you’re working on actually healing yourself that you realize what you’re attractive to you and not just what’s familiar. It’s part of the process of finding yourself after you step out of all the shit you’ve had to deal with.
I was my husband’s first girlfriend so that worked out really well for both of us.
I have been the first girlfriend to a few other people and they generally really blew it. Telling me they loved me after a few days. Assuming they touch me however they wanted. Just disrespectful little noobs. Or the ones that like to argue as “conversation?” No thanks. A few were guilty trippy in order to move fast or keep me. Not attractive behavior.
it was fun until it wasn’t. i had to teach a lot of boundaries (im not going to cheat on you in the middle of my class, i might take a quick nap or leave my phone at home sometimes, etc.) and we ended up fizzling out because our intensities never matched. after i had to deal with the clinginess and jealousy i declined to ever be someone’s first girlfriend again. ultimately i think it was good for me because i have no doubt i was a perfect first partner either, and i did it at an age that the immaturity made sense.
My husband and I were each other’s first serious relationship and I love it. We started dating in high school when he was 15 and I was 16. We got married last July at 23, bought a house in December, now both 24 and trying for a baby.
Well, we’ve been together nearly 26 years and married for 23, so pretty awesome!
Got together when we were 18, so he was my first too. And only. 🙂
Very not good. Happened several times. Realized it’s probably more about the people I seak out: immature and young at heart.
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I was the first gf ever, and he was the first bf ever. We were only 15 when we met. He was a really great guy. We figured out every aspect of sex together and were very adventurous. He was really quite romantic too. He made a couple of mistakes, but I wouldn’t hold that against a 15 year old boy. I only broke up with him, several years down the line, because I categorically didn’t want to marry my first ever bf, have 2 kids and live in my hometown forever (no offence intended to anyone who has chosen that life, I’m certainly envious of the very strong community network that type of lifestyle offers).
He had a religious breakdown, ghosted me for all of Ramadan, threw away the toys I left at his place and lied about it, the last message he sent me was an insult.
Sweet turned sour very quickly. Became extremely codependent, stayed together for waaayyy too long, was super clingy and as others here stated, I had to mother him. Cut that mf loose and he jumped straight into another relationship before we were even moved out of our place together. Do not recommend!
We were really each other’s first serious relationship, but he was very unsure of how to act at first. We started dating in high school, and I found his awkwardness very endearing. 10 years later, we’re married and he’s WAY more confident than he was at 15. I’ve encouraged him to find his own style and branch out with clothes, and he’s encouraged me to be more ambitious in my career. We still talk about how lucky we were to find each other so young.
Still going good, tbh he is most emotionally healthy dude I’ve ever been with!
Fucking awful
I’m in a pretty new relationship (met in January) with someone who has dated a little but never been in a relationship. We’re both 29 so I’d normally have slight reservations about why he hasn’t committed to anyone before, but as I’ve had the honor to learn him I’ve discovered he was just taking his time because his passion (physics research) came first and I’ll always make space for someone who prioritizes their lifelong interests over settling down quickly. He also lived in a very small conservative town for 5 years postgrad and is only a year into living here in Seattle where the day-to-day is obviously much different and the dating pool is much larger and folks are more aligned with his belief system.
We’ve only been in a committed relationship for about 2 months but so far I can say that I adore him and he has treated me better than anyone has before (I have had three long-term relationships in the span of my life and the longest was with an abusive cheater). He knows himself incredibly well after years of putting himself first, is self-aware and emotionally intelligent (he has fantastic male and female friends who are lovely people and an amazing support system from what I’ve gathered), affectionate in the same ways as me, VERY communicative and has created a really safe space to talk about what is/isn’t working, and as others have pointed out just very careful and intentional with how we proceed together since I am his first serious partner. I really love it because I trust wholeheartedly that he is choosing me after years of choosing himself. I’ve felt a bit out of my element occasionally guiding him through some of the basics (prompting discussions about how often we want to see each other, what our long-term goals are, what our love languages are) but he is so beyond worth it. I do occasionally wonder if he’ll ever grow curious to date other people, but I trust that he’d be quickly transparent if that ever happened and I also trust that he’s very much in this for the foreseeable future
Married him!
We weren’t great together, but I think the relationship 1 gave him the confidence to be with his long-time crush, and 2 made him more attractive to the long-time crush since he had some experience then. They’re married now, and I’m so happy for them.
I am my husband’s first girlfriend. Obviously we worked out lol and life is great. We’ve been married for 10 years and we have 4 children. I had to approach him first, text him and initiate all the dating stuff because he was so so shy. He was worth it.
Met my husband on tinder almost 9 years ago on tinder when we were both 23-24ish. Started talking, eventually dating and he confessed to me after a while that I was his FIRST girlfriend and he only had about 1 sexual experience before me. I guess because he was overweight when he was younger he was always self-conscious and never really tried dating until he got older and in better shape.
It was a little weird at first because in comparison I had dated quite a bit so I definitely did feel more “experienced”. However, I feel like it didn’t really negatively impact our relationship at all. He was always respectful, kind and loyal to me. We got married in 2020 and are still going strong.
It was an average high school relationship experience
He was lovely, but kept trying to kiss me when I didnt want to. We were 14. He’s now gay and a teacher. Its not the first man Ive dated who has come out as gay and I used to feel off about it because it became a running joke that I sucked so bad it turned them gay, but now that I’m grown, I realize I was a safe place for them.
He was older than me but literally SO immature like hes 20 acting as a 14 year old. To be fair he was affectionate and cared about me but he was a mommas boy n so clingy to me
Amazing! We are now engaged. He is incredibly thoughtful, caring, loving, good at communicating. He is the best partner I have ever had.
Was a lot of “firsts” for some guys but my current bf has surprised me with the amount of respect and love he provides. Moving in together later this year and dreaming of the future lol
Still happily with my mans. He was my first bf too. It pays to wait for someone you’re really compatible with.
It wasn’t good.
We started off good but as time went on, it became clear that he just wanted another version of his mom. He expected me to almost be able to read his kind and would judge me when I did things differently or had different opinions. He became emotionally abusive and manipulative. I decided to call it quits a few months ago
We’ve been married for over 20 yrs!
In high school, we went to different schools. He was extra nerdy, we clicked on so many things. I really felt I could be myself around him. He went the extra mile with dates and gifts. Started off as a good high school relationship. Compared to the guys I dated before, this was good for me. Then I went to his schools homecoming dance. All of a sudden his behavior got strange. Apparently the people at his school convinced him I was cheating on him, a girl like me couldn’t really like a guy like him. He became obsessive and turned into my stalker. I didn’t know it was him at first. Totally ruined a solid year of my life. So I guess my experience was horrible.