I hear all sort of stories about turning 30 – what’s your experience with this exciting phase of life?
Women, were you confused when you entered your 30s or happy to have moved into a new decade?
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I hear all sort of stories about turning 30 – what’s your experience with this exciting phase of life?
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I was fine entering into my 30’s. I have noticed I’m slowing down and am far less intemperate than I used to be. I miss the more reckless & impulsive me but I do like the things I have gained as well.
I feel like my life didn’t really start until I was about to turn 30. I’m 31 now.
Confused no. Happy sort of. I wasn’t happy or not happy – i mean, getting older is just a progression in life and it wasn’t as if it was never going to happen!
Why do you asked about confusion?
Turning 30 was so hard for me. I was not anywhere where I had expected myself to be by that point in life. I felt like a failure, not realizing I still had 2/3 of my life left to get to where I wanted to be.
Turning 50 this year was really hard too. I figure i have 25-30 years of life left, and I felt I haven’t made a big enough positive impact on this world. It has taken a lot of soul searching, but I am finally coming out of this funk too.
I was happy and content.
I thought I would’ve ended it by 30. I told myself I would end it then. I wanted to enjoy my 20s and then make it stop. Welp. Met my husband at 29. So I couldn’t do it anymore. It was weird because I had that plan and then suddenly I didn’t know what to do with my life anymore. I still haven’t figured it out and just trying to make it work now. Nothing really changed for me except that I felt I failed at ending it and I felt guilty putting on my bs onto my hubby. Other than that. I don’t feel really different from my 20s. I usually forget how old I am. I’m slowly going towards my 40s and still trying to make it work and figuring it out. I guess the only thing that changed is that I kind of accepted my whole life will just be me trying to figure things out over and over again. And the older I get the more chill I get about it. It’s not as scary anymore than it was when I was younger. The uncertainty feels more normal now than when it felt like constant anxiety.
It was definitely weird. Internally I felt a lot younger. It’s like I did a time jump or something.
I was happy to turn 30. The best decade.. every decade brings something special. My 30’s were amazing years š
I was in a tough spot when I turned 30. I had just lost a good job and I was living 2600 miles from my family.
But ultimately my 30s were a good decade. My fucks began to dwindle and I got better at setting boundaries and self care.
Are confused or happy the only options?
I guess I was fine. Like I’m still myself with all my usual problems but my usual problems are better than the usual problems I had 10 years ago or even t years ago, so that’s nice I suppose.
I’m 55 now and every decade has been an improvement on the last. I am living a life that I wouldn’t have even thought would suit me, but I changed and here I am, happy with my lot. On the whole it’s been such a lovely thing to keep maturing into the next version of myself.
Biggest thing that confused me was that none of the messages society sent me, that I would suddenly be forgotten by men or hit on less etc etc, came trueā¦.basically the world treated me the same as when I was in my 20s, my body basically looked the sameā¦not much changed except I met my husband and became more stable and happyā¦.
Still sad
30 hit me harder than I expected it to, but that was because I didnāt feel like I spent my 20ās well and didnāt have friends. I hadnāt moved toward my goals much. But in my early 30ās I set down roots in a town that I loved, made great friends, eventually found my person and started a family. My 30ās were everything I wanted from my life, and I became my happiest self. I feel like you leave behind the last vestiges of immaturity and really come into your own in your 30ās. I turn 40 next year and feel like Iām looking forward rather than back this time.
Soon turning 31, and 30 was the best year of my life!
Stable, loving, and healthy relationship, happy with who I’m working towards, sober. I’m actually looking forward to life now.
For me 29-30-31 were quite chaotic years, I had a lot of changes in my life and I believe it was because of Saturn return.
(Disclaimer: if you don’t believe in astrology is fine, just don’t read ahead).
Afaik Saturn return is around those years, and is when Saturn returns to your original natal placement. So if you are in the “right life path” those years will be smooth/normal, if you are not on the right path they can be quite chaotic because Saturn is adjusting you literally.
Once the chaos settled I was way more happy in my 30s than my 20s, I had an even more clear sense of self, I gave less fcks about many stuff that bothered me before and I realized what was more meaningful and important to me, not what others/society told me.
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I thought life would be so different and in a way it was. But it was a slow change. Iāve learned so much more about myself and have become so happy with life. Iām more confident and capable. Iām a year from hitting my 40ās and Iām so excited to see what the next decade brings.
30s have been the best decade yet. Theyāve been harder in every way, but Iāve been more authentic to myself & happier. I never thought Iād make it this far and Iām glad I did. I feel like my life is starting.
I was upset and worked because I had accomplished none of the things I wanted. Now I just don’t care. I don’t give a shit about anything anymore and I know that sounds bad, but let me assure you, it is not. I have no fucks to give. It helped lower my anxiety about the things that I guess don’t matter like I thought they did.
Well…for me the age do not define my moments. But my moments make a mark on the age where I’m at.
It’s like, I’m in the time of my life where I’m happy, and forging my career. It just so happen that I’m in this age.
Definitely confused, I was still struggling and trying to find my balance, I still remember my 30th birthday like it was yesterday , and I still talk to most of the people that was there but only Iām still relatively close with. I definitely feel my 30s so far have been the better part after struggling so much of my 20s. I have the life I used to pray for.
30s were great. I was still trying to people please in my 20s. I had less money and I was not as sure of myself.
But in my 30s I got rid of a cheating long term boyfriend, I lost 50 lbs, I made strides in my career.
Ps: my older cousins wife told me that ā30s were my favorite because I knew myself more and didnāt have to worry about cliquey behavior. I haaaated my 20s!!ā That always stuck with me
36 and still canāt believe it. Overall pretty dang satisfied.
i was really excited to turn 30 when i turned 30. now im turning 40 and im even more excited to turn 40 than i was when i turned 30. i feel like life is getting better and better as i age.
I was fine, mostly. I had been with my partner about 4 years by then so knew that was long term. Now I’m almost 37, I’ve calmed down a lot about not having achieved certain things (becoming a published author by 30, then 35 – ha!)
I still worry about being closer to 40 having no children of my own (I have two stepsons in their 20s but don’t see them) but I have nieces and nephews I adore
I’m more relaxed about things coming in their own time, though
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My 30th birthday was March 2020. Needless to say I never really got to cope with turning 30. Those pandemic years were a blur and I feel like nothing really changed for me
I do think I was generally happy to move on though, in my 30s I feel way more confident about who I am and what I want in life. I was much more insecure about everything in my 20s.
I was glad to step into a new chapter. I love it. 34 and thriving
Even my body is confused. I look 16 years oldā¦.. when I buy liquor or lottery ticket they ask for my ID everytime. The annoying part is nobody takes me seriously at work but the funny thing is I can pass as teenager and get discounts for under 18 yo deals lmao