There is no such thing as to be “desired by everyone”. I’m desired by some and it already can be troublesome, i imagine if “everyone” would want me it would be like living in horror movie. I mean people are not really good at keeping respectable distance and taking “no” gracefully.
People rarely take you seriously (no matter the gender). If you’re attractive, you are automatically considered dumb in the majority of situations.
It’s difficult to make friends – female friends because they can be jealous/worried about being perceived as not-as-pretty, male friends because they are interested in you romantically/sexually.
Professionally, you get both point 1 and point 2. It’s especially annoying when people are condescending or accuse you of sleeping your way into a position (because of course a pretty woman can’t be competent).
From a relationship standpoint, most men treat you like a pretty doll and get annoyed if you have opinions/principles. It’s easy to get dates/hookups, but very difficult to get someone to look beyond the pretty exterior. You also deal with a lot of jealousy because other men will hit on you when you are out with your partner.
You will get insulted a lot so you need to develop thick skin and a healthy self esteem that isn’t based on your looks, because once you get older you will lose that advantage.
Stalkers, obsession, jealousy from both men and women. People tryna find your weaknesses and amplify them to knock you down at any given opportunity. People ignoring you on purpose because they notice you too much and don’t want to make it obvious and feel embarrassed. People always comparing themselves to you or projecting onto you. Many things come with the ulterior motive of wanting sex or your love/affection/approval or women always fear you will steal their man or he will pay more attention to you than her.
When I was younger I was given alot of attention due to having a larger chest and it was not healthy for me at all. It made me quite shy and distrustful of men and took me along time to overcome that.
You can’t be desired by everyone, but you can be desired by a large number of people.
The downsides are the higher chances of being stalked, kidnapped, 🍇ed-g.
But on a less serious note, being constantly bothered by people trying to get your number.
I don’t like men so getting male attention is super uncomfortable for me. Which is just pure downside for me.
I don’t know how applicable it is to women in general, but I have red hair so people(both men and women) seem to think I’m some hypersexual nymphomaniac or something and treat me like it, including gendered slurs about promiscuity. And men feel entirely too comfortable asking/making jokes about my pubic hair.
Being seen as “stuck up” when you aren’t particularly friendly and minding your own business.
I was an ugly duckling when I was younger and no one noticed or cared when I wasn’t very social. Now, everyone notices and takes it personally somehow.
There are no real downsides IMO, any perceived downsides (being seen as stupid, not being valued in a relationship for anything but your body) are usually the result of misogyny and would still affect a woman who wasn’t attractive.
I’m definitely not desired by everyone lol but I have been told by many that I am above average attractiveness and in my experience, people (mostly men) treat me like that is the only interesting thing about me.
The men (or women) we are typically (by we I mean me) are those that aren’t starstruck by pretty and play the nonchalant role too hard. Nonchalant always equated to I’m too cool to do the romantic stuff for you because you’re use to it and experienced it before.. followed by cheating lol. I think they got a high from breaking my heart with someone that (no offense) downgrade.
Work places, yeah bullying is real. Rumors and speculations galore. Family, some of my family members like to make fun of me and post the “she’s a girly girl or too girly to do things”. Like I’m weak and they don’t take me serious. That always irritates me most.
Friends, I don’t have any. Too many side eyes in past, too many shady comments, and animosity. Was never fun, and felt I had to minimize myself to make them comfortable.
Oh I could talk about the intricacies of this for hours. I have two close friends who are absolutely stunning and are extremely magnetic. One who I grew up and was born beautiful, the other who grew into it. You attract A LOT crazies. Our middle school teachers were really creepy towards her—one of them worked the summers at our local pool and it was fucking gross.
In dating, a lot of the lovely nice guys won’t approach them bc they’re intimidated by them, but the crazy guys w a lot of bravado will come in hot. As we’ve matured into our late 20s, they’ve figured out how to read the crazies before it’s too late so that’s good. I’ve witnessed some insane break ups.
Pretty privilege is legit but also has significant costs. Being super gorgeous also means you’re compared to others about your looks all the time because that’s what’s most top of mind for people when they think of you. And there’s always going to be someone prettier, skinnier, younger, etc than you so it’s a never ending cycle if you aren’t sure of yourself. Hence the all the instagram face/surgery/filler/etc stuff! My friend was staring in the mirror once and squeezed her already skinny arm and said “what iffff I got my arms done?!” and we were 24.
For me, its very difficult to have woman friends, there is a jealousy about guys. Had 3 woman best friends who fell in love and made my life very difficult, one is still stalking me and tryed to kill me. Men dont treat me serious and the majority of them treat me like a beautifull doll to be exibited, not loved.
No one leaves you tf alone from a very young age (for me it started at 10ish? Maybe a bit younger.) Mother fuckers always just leering at you.
You dont have many actual friends. People either want to have sex with you and are waiting around or feel insecure around you and sabotage.
Your attractiveness is often seen as your only redeeming quality, regardless of what else you have to offer. You don’t “need” to be smart, funny, financially stable, etc. so people expect you not to be.
I genuinely feel like I’ve never been seen or loved by the opposite sex.
Never.
It’s always just lust or a fantasy or an ego trip.
I’ve stopped dating all together because it makes me feel so lonely to be around someone who just thinks you’re beautiful/hot/sexy but if you got ill or needed someone to talk to, they wouldn’t give a shit.
Trying to acknowledge that you have flaws and have room for personal improvement has always been a wild experience for me, because so often I was treated like I either just had low self esteem or was fishing for compliments. Like, no, guys, I know I can (for example) get way too into an activity and ignore the people I’m doing it with, and I’m trying to ask for support in my efforts to be a better friend, not everything I do is calculated to get your attention.
So, all the normal stuff people have said above, particularly around work. I’ve had so many creepy experiences, but it’s worse when you’re younger (early twenties) because predatory men can smell the lower self confidence in professional settings.
The other shit thing is you kind of rely on attention for validation about how you feel about yourself. Like, you get used to people looking at you in the street and hitting on you when you’re out and don’t really take much notice…BUT when for some reason it stops, (for me, I started IVF, gained 20lbs, got pregnant and moved to a tiny old town) you really really notice the decrease in attention and it’s weirdly very HARD. I never thought I gave a shit or even really noticed, until people stopped looking as much and I’m like, oh, am I ugly now? Do people think I’m fat? I don’t know how I feel about myself because I can’t see myself through their appreciation of me?? Does that make sense? Sounds so shallow, but it’s quite confronting and very surprising!
The benefits FAR outweigh the privileges and anyone who thinks otherwise has no idea about sociology and psychology. There are far more upsides, the only negatives are literally general things which most women face regardless of looks
It’s all about how you look, not who you are. Let’s be honest, when a guy sees you and calls you hot, all he’s saying is he’d fuck you. That’s hardly a compliment. Looks fade, which is why it’s so important to find someone who loves you for who you are, not how you look.
Never actually being chosen or deeply loved, I feel often used and widely liked at a surface level. This is extremely disappointing and saddening to me, as I really do have the depth of someone much more interesting and complex than the surface-level crap most guys are looking for. Essentially feels like being told “I want __ from you, but not to appreciate and see all of you.”
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There is no such thing as to be “desired by everyone”. I’m desired by some and it already can be troublesome, i imagine if “everyone” would want me it would be like living in horror movie. I mean people are not really good at keeping respectable distance and taking “no” gracefully.
Stalkers and people who won’t take no for an answer
People rarely take you seriously (no matter the gender). If you’re attractive, you are automatically considered dumb in the majority of situations.
It’s difficult to make friends – female friends because they can be jealous/worried about being perceived as not-as-pretty, male friends because they are interested in you romantically/sexually.
Professionally, you get both point 1 and point 2. It’s especially annoying when people are condescending or accuse you of sleeping your way into a position (because of course a pretty woman can’t be competent).
From a relationship standpoint, most men treat you like a pretty doll and get annoyed if you have opinions/principles. It’s easy to get dates/hookups, but very difficult to get someone to look beyond the pretty exterior. You also deal with a lot of jealousy because other men will hit on you when you are out with your partner.
You will get insulted a lot so you need to develop thick skin and a healthy self esteem that isn’t based on your looks, because once you get older you will lose that advantage.
You are no longer taken seriously and instead only seen for being pretty. You attract people who care about beauty above all else
People misinterpret your friendliness as attraction and other women may dislike you for being how you are.
Stalkers, obsession, jealousy from both men and women. People tryna find your weaknesses and amplify them to knock you down at any given opportunity. People ignoring you on purpose because they notice you too much and don’t want to make it obvious and feel embarrassed. People always comparing themselves to you or projecting onto you. Many things come with the ulterior motive of wanting sex or your love/affection/approval or women always fear you will steal their man or he will pay more attention to you than her.
Only seen and desired for the outside. Never loved for who I actually am.
unwanted attention and discomfort from it.
The downside (or upside, depending on your temperament,) is that, as you age, you will become invisible.
Extroverts (in general) will mourn the loss. Introverts (in general) will relish the freedom.
When I was younger I was given alot of attention due to having a larger chest and it was not healthy for me at all. It made me quite shy and distrustful of men and took me along time to overcome that.
You can’t be desired by everyone, but you can be desired by a large number of people.
The downsides are the higher chances of being stalked, kidnapped, 🍇ed-g.
But on a less serious note, being constantly bothered by people trying to get your number.
I don’t like men so getting male attention is super uncomfortable for me. Which is just pure downside for me.
I don’t know how applicable it is to women in general, but I have red hair so people(both men and women) seem to think I’m some hypersexual nymphomaniac or something and treat me like it, including gendered slurs about promiscuity. And men feel entirely too comfortable asking/making jokes about my pubic hair.
Being seen as “stuck up” when you aren’t particularly friendly and minding your own business.
I was an ugly duckling when I was younger and no one noticed or cared when I wasn’t very social. Now, everyone notices and takes it personally somehow.
There are no real downsides IMO, any perceived downsides (being seen as stupid, not being valued in a relationship for anything but your body) are usually the result of misogyny and would still affect a woman who wasn’t attractive.
Men don’t actually get to know me; instead they fall for their projection of me. Because I fit the “look” they’re after.
Unfortunately for them, I’m quite a strong, opinionated, feminist woman. When they realise this… they don’t like it.
people(especially men) don’t think about your personality or intelligence at all. the only thing you have now is your face and body
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You become an object, some people hold idealised versions of you in their head
Being kidnapped sucked.
they stop treating you like a person
I’m definitely not desired by everyone lol but I have been told by many that I am above average attractiveness and in my experience, people (mostly men) treat me like that is the only interesting thing about me.
Rape, stalking, kidnapping, and murder. You know, the yoozh.
Haha yes I relate to this so much so many struggles I could list….
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The men (or women) we are typically (by we I mean me) are those that aren’t starstruck by pretty and play the nonchalant role too hard. Nonchalant always equated to I’m too cool to do the romantic stuff for you because you’re use to it and experienced it before.. followed by cheating lol. I think they got a high from breaking my heart with someone that (no offense) downgrade.
Work places, yeah bullying is real. Rumors and speculations galore. Family, some of my family members like to make fun of me and post the “she’s a girly girl or too girly to do things”. Like I’m weak and they don’t take me serious. That always irritates me most.
Friends, I don’t have any. Too many side eyes in past, too many shady comments, and animosity. Was never fun, and felt I had to minimize myself to make them comfortable.
The constant need to perform. I’m aware that I get a lot of stares so I always have to be conscious of how I’m being perceived.
People project their fantasies onto me. I feel like I owe them to not let their fantasies down. Or else, they get really snappy and angry lol
Oh I could talk about the intricacies of this for hours. I have two close friends who are absolutely stunning and are extremely magnetic. One who I grew up and was born beautiful, the other who grew into it. You attract A LOT crazies. Our middle school teachers were really creepy towards her—one of them worked the summers at our local pool and it was fucking gross.
In dating, a lot of the lovely nice guys won’t approach them bc they’re intimidated by them, but the crazy guys w a lot of bravado will come in hot. As we’ve matured into our late 20s, they’ve figured out how to read the crazies before it’s too late so that’s good. I’ve witnessed some insane break ups.
Pretty privilege is legit but also has significant costs. Being super gorgeous also means you’re compared to others about your looks all the time because that’s what’s most top of mind for people when they think of you. And there’s always going to be someone prettier, skinnier, younger, etc than you so it’s a never ending cycle if you aren’t sure of yourself. Hence the all the instagram face/surgery/filler/etc stuff! My friend was staring in the mirror once and squeezed her already skinny arm and said “what iffff I got my arms done?!” and we were 24.
For me, its very difficult to have woman friends, there is a jealousy about guys. Had 3 woman best friends who fell in love and made my life very difficult, one is still stalking me and tryed to kill me. Men dont treat me serious and the majority of them treat me like a beautifull doll to be exibited, not loved.
No one leaves you tf alone from a very young age (for me it started at 10ish? Maybe a bit younger.) Mother fuckers always just leering at you.
You dont have many actual friends. People either want to have sex with you and are waiting around or feel insecure around you and sabotage.
Your attractiveness is often seen as your only redeeming quality, regardless of what else you have to offer. You don’t “need” to be smart, funny, financially stable, etc. so people expect you not to be.
I can’t go out without being noticed, I hate that .__.
I wouldn’t know.
I genuinely feel like I’ve never been seen or loved by the opposite sex.
Never.
It’s always just lust or a fantasy or an ego trip.
I’ve stopped dating all together because it makes me feel so lonely to be around someone who just thinks you’re beautiful/hot/sexy but if you got ill or needed someone to talk to, they wouldn’t give a shit.
Trying to acknowledge that you have flaws and have room for personal improvement has always been a wild experience for me, because so often I was treated like I either just had low self esteem or was fishing for compliments. Like, no, guys, I know I can (for example) get way too into an activity and ignore the people I’m doing it with, and I’m trying to ask for support in my efforts to be a better friend, not everything I do is calculated to get your attention.
So, all the normal stuff people have said above, particularly around work. I’ve had so many creepy experiences, but it’s worse when you’re younger (early twenties) because predatory men can smell the lower self confidence in professional settings.
The other shit thing is you kind of rely on attention for validation about how you feel about yourself. Like, you get used to people looking at you in the street and hitting on you when you’re out and don’t really take much notice…BUT when for some reason it stops, (for me, I started IVF, gained 20lbs, got pregnant and moved to a tiny old town) you really really notice the decrease in attention and it’s weirdly very HARD. I never thought I gave a shit or even really noticed, until people stopped looking as much and I’m like, oh, am I ugly now? Do people think I’m fat? I don’t know how I feel about myself because I can’t see myself through their appreciation of me?? Does that make sense? Sounds so shallow, but it’s quite confronting and very surprising!
Men lie. Beautiful women attract the worst men with the worst intentions. Over and over until you die.
The benefits FAR outweigh the privileges and anyone who thinks otherwise has no idea about sociology and psychology. There are far more upsides, the only negatives are literally general things which most women face regardless of looks
Now I wouldn’t say I’m desired by everyone lol.
I am above average attractive I would say. I’m told that but sometimes I know I look crap but anyway…
Friends don’t want you near their partners…
People think you’re more confident than you are…
People are mean for no reason…
If you want to do things that anyone else does, it’s a big deal like if you kiss a guy on a night out, big deal…everyone is talking about it….
Nightclub bouncers pick on you….
You can’t be funny….
If you’re friendly, you’re flirting, if you’re reserved, you’re rude and stuck up.
You can’t have off days…if you look crap one day, people will rejoice lol.
What an interesting question. I live in the LA area and it feels like every 3rd person is attractive. Or maybe I’m just a raging bisexual 😂
At any rate, reading all this makes me grateful I’m relatively average looking 🤷🏽♀️
It’s all about how you look, not who you are. Let’s be honest, when a guy sees you and calls you hot, all he’s saying is he’d fuck you. That’s hardly a compliment. Looks fade, which is why it’s so important to find someone who loves you for who you are, not how you look.
unwanted attention, hard to make genuine friends, and its hard to find partners that arent just with you for your looks.
Never actually being chosen or deeply loved, I feel often used and widely liked at a surface level. This is extremely disappointing and saddening to me, as I really do have the depth of someone much more interesting and complex than the surface-level crap most guys are looking for. Essentially feels like being told “I want __ from you, but not to appreciate and see all of you.”