Stories of outcomes of relationships with jealous wives/girlfriends. No judgment here only sharing of experience.
Women who are jealous, how do the fights go and what is the outcome(terrible fights with partner losing their temper or breakup or changing for them)?
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I became a very jealous person in my last relationship, because my partner did not make me feel secure or like he was faithful to me. Anytime I tried to express my feelings, he gaslit me and called me crazy. It ate me up inside and made me a miserable person. I finally left when I found out he had indeed been unfaithful.
Current relationship I have NO jealousy. I could watch him do it with another woman and I don’t think it would bother me.
If I find that I’m feeling jealous often, I break up with them. I don’t feel secure and jealousy isn’t fun. If it’s not fun anymore, I don’t wanna do it anymore.
Fights over jealousy vary hugely, from intense arguments to quiet tension. Outcomes can range from difficult breakups to partners working through issues and growing stronger.
i’ve been extremely jealous/insecure in every single relationship i’ve had, which has taken so much mental energy from me and destroyed my self esteem.
currently with a new partner who has been nothing but patient with me, and the reassurance from him whilst having his own boundaries has done so much for me honestly.
when i get jealous or insecure, i shut down and can be quite mean (which makes me feel even worse and disgusted with my own behaviour). he will then reassure me, stay patient and kind and calm but also maintain boundaries where he will not just “give in” to me. i have definitely become sooo much better with these issues since being with him, but still not quite where i want to be.
the difference with him and previous partners, is that i now WANT to be better because he’s someone i dont want to lose – he deserves the best
I won’t be with a person who deliberately chooses behavior or words to induce jealousy. That emotion is there as a warning that something isn’t right. (Even if by some slim chance he isn’t cheating)
Jealousy isn’t in my nature. If you feel insecure it’s because your partner is doing things that make you feel off, and not giving you the proper reassurance. Trust your gut and dive deeper to understand the problem. If you can’t find a healthy compromise then you aren’t a good fit together
Im a jealous person but experience proves that I only feel it towards ‘real’ threat. For example, My ex had many female friends and I had zero worry but his ex gf made me furious. I thought i need meds for it. Guess what, after our break up, 2 months and he gets together with her. So she was his gf before AND after me😶🌫️
The only relationships I’ve ever struggled with jealousy were the ones I was being cheated on in.
I recently had a short bout of jealousy with my husband.
It was tied to me and my insecurities, but before it could even become a thing, we talked about it as soon as I felt the jealousy feeling. It wasn’t a fight or even a disagreement, it was me telling him my feelings. He asked proving questions to help me work through it all and asked what he could do to support me. But by the end of the discussion, it had all passed and it was a non issue. That’s the thing about being in an emotionally secure and safe relationship, you can help one another with difficult feelings when they happen and stop them from becoming a problem
i get a little jealous sometimes. but it’s nothing too crazy. i think it’s natural. sometimes i’ll say, “i’m feeling a bit jealous of xyz,” just to keep him in the loop about what’s going on in my head. but nothing ever comes of it. i trust him. sometimes he gets jealous too. but he trusts me.
i think there’s a difference between fleeting jealousy and the all-consuming type. i don’t think i could ever deal with the latter on either side.
I am jealous but I am not toxic. You dont have to be toxic when you are a jealous person. Unless my partner is doing something crossing boundaries there’s no need to cause a fight over it. We communicate calmly about everything and naturally dont have behavior that triggers our jealousy.