What did you learn that you wish you had known sooner? Does your body play a huge role in dating?
Women who disliked their body most of their life but now don’t, what changed?
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What did you learn that you wish you had known sooner? Does your body play a huge role in dating?
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Honestly, I just got tired of hating myself. I started focusing on what my body does instead of how it looks. Learned to dress in ways that make me feel good.
I decentered my life around men and I realized all the negative self-talk revolved around what they thought of me / to be appealing to them.
i just don’t give a fuck anymore about its role in dating.
Lost the damn weight.
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Strength training really changed how I view my body.
When I realized we have a mind, body, and energy connection.
I’m 51. Every decade I realize I wish I had the body I did 10 years ago. It’s helped me not be so critical of my soft belly and stretch marks.
Losing weight! I actually attracted an entire different caliber of men 😂❤️ it’s amazing but I love shopping and fitting into clothes that show my figure and just being skinny. I never was approached by men outside of my ethnicity but now they flock to me in public or online like crazy and got my dream boyfriend too
Cut out negative people in my life (divorce included) and surrounded myself with people/partner who love me and openly appreciates all of my original self, including hair, rolls, etc. Also aging and perimenopause have changed my perspective. I am on this earth for a limited time for me to enjoy myself for me. DGAF.
I lost 60 pounds in 2024. I started going to the gym, eating better, I was determined to feel better about myself. It worked, I lost weight and I was ten pounds away from my goal weight of 180.
But right before I hit that goal, I got pregnant. And I wanted to get pregnant, even before I lost the weight I knew I wanted to be a mom. My husband and I thought we were experiencing infertility. But lo and behold, the week of our wedding we conceived.
I’m now 8 months pregnant, due next month. I look at videos of my body when it was it’s thinnest, and I see my beauty. I see beauty that I didn’t see within myself when I was thinner. It made me realize that my worth is extended far beyond my own distorted self image.
I saw for the first time, the beauty that my husband saw all along, from day one at 253 pounds, to when we got married at 190 pounds. I was always beautiful. While I prefer how I look under 200 pounds, I know who I am now, and I’m not the number. Right now the reason I love myself is because this weight isn’t a sign of poor decisions, but creating life. And I want my daughter to know that she can love herself, because I was able to love myself.