I’m really curious how you describe the memory of your pain when you gave birth to your child. And was it different the second or third time?
Women who have given birth, how do you remember the pain?
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I’m really curious how you describe the memory of your pain when you gave birth to your child. And was it different the second or third time?
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One of the most mind bending things for me as a man is how giving birth is often described as the most painful thing on earth an average person might have to endure, and yet, of course, many women seem very happy after it’s done as opposed to traumatised. I asked my mum why that is and that, well, wouldn’t you want to avoid this? She said, yeah, well you get a baby at the end, so it’s not like any other pain. The most painful things that have ever happened in my life were 1. A doctor rummaging around in my spinal tissue in the lower back to try to give me an injection when I was 13 2. A bluebottle sting on my knee when I was about 18. I’d rather do… a lot of things than have either of those experiences again. But I don’t know how they would compare to giving birth in terms of the pain/avoidance factor at all. I’m wondering if there are some chemicals which sort of change your memory after the fact in this case.
The pain was like severe period pains, really wiped me out with the pain. With my first it was unmedicated but the second I really needed the epidural because the pain really knocked me about. The pain of pushing wasn’t too bad, I pushed for 45 minutes either my first and 22 mins with my second so not a long period of time compared to other women, but I actually didn’t mind the pushing. I didn’t tear or having any complications from giving birth so it was just dealing with bruising.