Women who left longterm relationships due to realizing you don’t want kids do you regret it and how did you handle it? Did you find love again?

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Women who left longterm relationships due to realizing you don’t want kids do you regret it and how did you handle it? Did you find love again?

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  1. aussiewlw Avatar

    No I don’t regret it. I haven’t found anything long term since.

  2. tinypill Avatar

    I’ve ALWAYS known I didn’t want kids, and have always been vocal about it. Men just don’t listen though….they think they can change your mind or that you’ll eventually get baby fever or whatever. I’ve had a couple LTRs that I ended up leaving when the guy finally fessed up that he wanted kids and was just hoping I’d “come around to the idea.” I never regretted it because there’s literally no compromising in those kinds of situations. I did find love again and honestly never really worried that I wouldn’t. I’d rather be alone with no kids than in a relationship with kids I didn’t want in the first place.

  3. bippity-boppity-blip Avatar

    I just regret not figuring it out and sticking to it sooner. I spent a period of years talking it out, being open about my doubts, reading “The Baby Decision” etc, and my partner was just very set on having kids. The relationship got toxic quickly and I should have seen it for what it was and left sooner. BUT I eventually got out, and will never regret that decision. It finally feels like my life has opened up again, I’m being my most authentic and in control self, and I have found an incredible partner that I know beyond a doubt loves me for me and is on the same page. It’s a true gift and I feel very lucky.

  4. ayestee Avatar

    Most of the men I’ve dated have been fine with being child-free. When it comes to the ones that weren’t, there were only two:

    1. a man I dated for three months who I liked a lot, but who definitively wanted bio kids (I was open to adoption). I was heartbroken at the time but realized it was better in the long run.
    2. a man I dated right after for roughly 2 years who knew I ended the last relationship over the kids issue and who eventually admitted he thought he could manipulate me into changing my mind. He also tried to manipulate me out of my sterilization surgery right before it was due to happen. He was awful in many other ways and I do not regret leaving that relationship at all.

    I did find love again with a man who is perfectly happy to skip out on kids and I’m now in a far healthier relationship than either of those were. Hope that answers your question!