Women who told their significant other to see a therapist, how did they react?
Women who told their significant other to see a therapist, how did they react?
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Women who told their significant other to see a therapist, how did they react?
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I told my dad to see a therapist. Got yelled at. Got thrown fruits at ( cos that was the nearest thing to throw). Mom divorced him now he has a new wife….and I know that’s not gonna end well…but 👋 Hey that’s life 😅
It took some convincing but he eventually decided to give it a go, he’s still seeing a therapist to this day🫶🏼
Just say it in a nice, gentle and understanding way
They said they didn’t need it. Spoiler: they needed it
When our relationship was new and I was having trouble with my own boundary issues regarding — romance in general, and sex in particular … like, I wanted it but didn’t know how to get there, emotionally…
I asked him to come visit my own therapist with me to have a mediated conversation about how to get there. He was totally down for it to support me, and to support us. And it worked!
It wasn’t the easiest conversation but I approached it in a kind, loving way and after some additional conversations, he decided to go. It took a few therapists to find the right fit but it’s been amazing!
He reacted fine. But he doesn’t want to see one lol. He has tried seeing one before (prior to us meeting), and he said it didn’t help and he thought it was a waste of money (his opinion). Well, I thought the idea could possibly help him grow his connection with himself. But it’s his own choice whether to go or not to go. I go to therapy on and off, and it usually helps me.
I told him it was a dealbreaker before we got married. He’s been in and out of therapy since and I’ve definitely seen growth. Now it’s really a matter of finding a therapist that’s a good fit
The first time I recommended it, he said it was a waste of time. The second time he admitted that he was having some struggles that a professional could probably help him with and he went for a few months. He stopped going because he felt like the sessions were ‘too casual’. So I think he was struggling to open up and say “I am dealing with this specific problem, can you help me solve it?”
I wouldn’t date someone who isn’t open to therapy, so… they reacted well. They had not realized quite the extent of the situation and re-assessed it when I brought it up.
He’s open to it, but the cost is the biggest deterrent
He went, and is still working on his bullshit.
My fiance at the beginning of our relationship said that it’s not for him, but believes therapists are helpful tools. I didn’t push him, but I did talk to him about my relationship with my therapist.
A year and a half later, he’s looking for a therapist himself because he realized that he can’t handle all of his problems on his own and sometimes you need more resources than leaning on your support system. He actually credited my relationship with my therapist in helping him come to that decision.
He didn’t think he needed to go, but because I asked him to go, he went. He rescheduled his next session and continued going for several months.
We’ve been married for 32 years. His dad died unexpectedly, and my husband found his dad’s body. He was not dealing with it well, and we (me, our adult son, his sister) were concerned.
We ask him to get help. He didn’t think therapy could help and didn’t want to go, but realized that he wasn’t in the best place to know. He trusted us, and if we thought he needed to go, he would go basically because we wanted him to.
After the first session, he realized it could help and continued.