How do you personally handle it when you know someone is cheating in a relationship? Would you confront them, stay silent, or tell the partner? Also, would you be okay hanging out with the affair partner if you knew them?
would you be okay hanging out with a friend’s affair partner? how do you personally handle it when you know someone is cheating in a relationship?
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I have never been friends with anyone who had cheated on their partner. I would cut off a friend for doing that.
I would confront them. I might even consider ending the friendship. Cheaters lack emotional maturity and empathy for others. If they are willing to betray a person they supposedly love, then I know they’ll have no problem betraying their friends either.
No absolutely not. If my friend was actively having an affair they would no longer be my friend, I don’t need people like that in my circle.
I don’t know if I’d tell their partner – that just depends. But I certainly wouldn’t lie for them and would tell if asked.
I would tell the person in a heartbeat. I don’t care if it was a family member or best friend who did the cheating. I have no sympathy for cheaters, and I will cut off my whole family and friend group for even entertaining the idea. Cheaters are scum.
One thing about me is I’m a snitch😍
I would not hang out with the affair partner nor the friend. While the friend is more in the wrong the AP is still engaging in the behavior. I’d also probably consider telling the partner what is going on. This is not something or someone I’d want to be associated with.
I would not be friends with someone who was knowingly cheating. I have ended friendships over that. You are the company you keep! I’d rather have no friends than shit ones. If I knew the partner I would tell them.
Extremely controversial but honestly speaking: 100% yes I would be fine with this.
I would have no problem hanging out with the affair partner if I knew them.
I think at best I can encourage my friend to tell the truth about what’s going on if I knew they were cheating and I found their behavior problematic.
But (hot take I know) I do not think cheating is a reflection of a person’s entire character or worth. I think it’s easy for people to have a black and white view of cheating but life is grey.
I can’t judge from an outside ‘high horse” position what’s right or wrong when I do not know the inner workings of another person’s relationship. I don’t know what choices people were faced that lead to this outcome.
I have too much love in my heart for my friends to condemn what I do not understand. I think I would seek to understand first and foremost, but generally I would be kind to everyone involved.
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No, it’s bizarre for a friend to expect you to keep these kinds of secrets and be fine with it.
My friend group is also so widely non-monogamous/polyamorous that most of us would just be like “?!?!” about the whole situation tbh.
If I was invited someplace from my friend and I realized they brought along an “affair”….. I’d literally be like, “who the hell is this” and just jump straight into a confrontation right there. Also I would tell her I’m snitching on her. And then I’m blocking her. I won’t be friends with someone who doesn’t share my core values. Neeeeerp.
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If you’re okay with a friend cheating to the point where you’re hanging out with their affair partner, how can you expect a current or future partner to trust you. It brings into question your morals and values.
I became best friends with a coworker back in 2013 or so. We connected rather quickly, which is weird for me because I’m REALLY introverted and she’s extremely extroverted. She was a few years older than me and had a husband and toddler. Her husband was LOVELY – always nice to me, didn’t mind me over their house, or having frequent girl dates with his wife. Her son was adorable and it was nice to have a little “nephew” to spoil.
I got to know their friend group well, specifically her husband’s best friend. He was… fine. We were all in our 20s/early 30s, so we hung out together a lot to drink and hang out mostly. I got a creep vibe from him right away. He hit on me often. He was single and I was single and my best friend would always make comments like, “He’s an attractive man. You should hook up!” and I would just say he’s not my type.
Anyways, cut to a few years later and we’re still friends. She had been slowly getting on my nerves about random things and I could feel myself wanting to distance myself from her. One day she comes into work CRYING so obviously I take her aside and ask what’s up. She confesses to me that she’s been having an affair with her husband’s best friend. I was shocked. She was married and had a child; he was engaged.
For the first time in my life, I was truly speechless. I had never cheated on anyone and she knew that I would never, ever cheat on someone or tolerate being cheated on. But I could tell she wanted me to feel bad for her and side with her. Long story short, I ended the friendship. I felt sick. How would I be able to just go over their house and pretend nothing was wrong? I burned the bridge and never looked back.
No, I would not. Also I had a friend who continued to hang out with a cheater. Unsurprisingly, the cheater has problematic behavior not only in their romantic relationships.
There’s no way in hell I’d even be friends with someone who I knew was cheating, let alone hang out with their affair partner.
I would not spend time with the affair partner. I would not end the friendship, but I would make it abundantly clear that I won’t lie or hide anything from their actual partner either. In practice, this has forced the end of a friendship for me once. A friend asked me for advice about a girl he’d slept with and fallen in love with (his best friend’s fiancé), and I told him he’d get no sympathy, help, or advice out of me and I wouldnt conceal what I knew about the affair from his best friend. He cut me out of his life for that 🤷♀️
Oh absolutely not.
I’ve never been friends with anyone who cheated that I know of, but assuming I did, they should know better than to involve me in their mess. The thing about having an affair is that your choices have consequences. If you chose to cheat, congratulations, now you have to spend your time sneaking around and acting shady. You don’t get the benefit of enjoying above-board connections with your friend group if you can’t play nice.