Hi all, I am a Finnish woman who has met a lovely Mexican guy during my studies abroad in the US. We got along really well and since then I have a crush on this guy jajaja. I think the feelings are mutual. He even wants to visit me in Finland this summer. I am really excited but also a little bit scared that he will be disappointed because the Finnish society is waaay colder and more introverted than the Mexican society. Moreover, I have a very small family, only two (really good) friends and I am quite introverted. According to his Instagram, he has an active social life, a huge family (four siblings, a lot of uncles, aunts etc.) and a big group of friends. I am really intimidated and worried that he might think I am weird and boring when he sees my small social circle. (It wasn’t an issue in the US because we were both new in this country and had to make new friends etc.) I am really overthinking at the moment and sometimes I even want to cancel our meeting because I think that due to my small social circle as well as my cultural background I might be ,out of his league’ and not ,worth of dating’. 😢
Would you mind dating someone from a more introverted society whose life is not as social as yours due to small family etc.?
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I think this is something you ask your partner, since you can’t apply the opinion of a bunch of strangers to your relationship’s personal experience.
Yeah, there are a lot of introverted people here in Latin America, me included. It’s actually refreshing to be with someone like that, coming from an extrovert culture. Well, I would theoretically but not in practice since I already have a gf from my own culture lol (and who is double as introverted and cold as me).
Not an a Latino but a lurker of this sub. I’m America with Italian and Irish background. So I feel like I’m in a semi decent position to answer this question here in the states it was very common for Italian and Irish immigrants to end up with each other. In the Northeast most people have both Italian and Irish ancestor. I say this cause historically Italians have a much warmer and inviting open extroverted culture similar to the countries of Latin American where the Irish tend to me more reversed cold and to themselves, with that being said I think you’ll be absolutely fine, I also think a large part of your problem is your own overthinking of the situation just take a deep breath and try to ground yourself don’t cancel your meeting! I wish you the best of luck
Community and family are important for a Latin American, true. But, is also important the relationship with an significant one.
The only way to solve this question is to talk to him openly and honestly. The same fears you are mentioning in this post, you should tell him about.
Don’t sugarcoat anything, True and only true. But, be careful to exaggerate also. No every Latin American is a paste/copy of others. You really don’t know until you know.
Scandinavian culture and society are very hard to navigate through, but also has some great aspects. If you can build a connection based in honestly and empathy, you have both something there.
Besides, is not like he can’t travel back here and there, sometimes with you.
This is an opportunity, not a wall.
I live in Sweden, coming from Chile, and is a journey, for sure, but not a bad journey, just a different one.
Just listen to yourself, don’t tell lies to yourself, but also let him decide for him.
I wish you the best.
Each individual is unique, even culture influences
Yes, we love it. I also had a Finland girlfriend before.
My mum is Irish and my dad is Mexican and it works well, although, I’m not sure the Irish can be considered cold or introverted but we are melancholy
For the most part, we know Northern Europeans tend to be more closed and introverted. He might get a little cultural shock when he sees it in person in an eventual visit to your country, but he won’t really be caught off-guard. I think you’ll be OK.
It’s not like all Latinos themselves are extroverted after all… It comes down to the person 🤷♀️
You’re overthinking it. Stereotypes are only stereotypes, you have to get along with your partner, not your idealized version of the society he grew up in. If you’re a good match, you’re a good match
I’m dating a Swedish girl, and one day, she’ll be the mother of my children.
In my experience, the cultural differences were very challenging at first, and of course, there will always be some noticeable differences. My only advice to you is to relax and enjoy each other—any relationship depends on how willing both of you are to make things work. There’s always a middle ground for everything.
As a chilean married to a dane, there has not been a single problem, culturally talking. Everything has been super smooth, but maybe plays a huge role that my culture is more “quiet”. Just take it as it comes and I think, that once he sees where you come from and your environment, he will ask questions but no worries :)! Good luck!
Not sure why no one is being honest with you.
Latin women bend over backwards for their husbands, in more traditional families. Parenting is basically the responsibility of the extended family. There are aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents around at all times. If you have no plans to marry, none of that is a concern.
Latin men date (and marry) white women as trophies (someone who agrees with me will have to unpack that because it borders on tokenism, and I’m not sure I can explain all of it without being offensive).
Unless this guy divorces his family and culture, you will literally be from two different worlds, and find it very hard to find common ground. I say this is someone who was married to a white person for 20 years, and for as flexible as my ex-husband thought he was, we simply never saw things from the same point of view for the things that matter the most.
I certainly don’t fit the latin american stereotype
That’s my ideal type. I’m just as you, if not more introverted and I look for someone like that.
You’ll be fine. If it’s meant to be he’ll understand you.
Me and my Dutch partner
I have a Chinese gf and she only has like two or three people she’d call friends.
You’ll be fine.
It totally depends on the person so no real answers for you. I dated a finn for 3 years and have been with some in Norway for far longer, it has never ever been an issue for me in any way shape or form. I know at least 2 other mexicans who were with finns and they had some small issues and some bigger ones.
If he does have a huge family and is ultra social then yes I can see it being an issue, but once again it all depends on personal point of views and personality. I’m introverted for mexicans and above average for the nordics so I do the socializing in my reltaionship but its never over whelming or underwhelming.